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post #1 of 13
8/18/06 at 11:05am
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And my cousin and her three kids are still staying with us. It was supposed to be temporary.

I spoke to her and told her she had to find another place and she started crying and saying she would have to go to a shelter.

HOW DO I GET THEM OUT OF MY HOUSE?????? I don't want to see them on the street but how much longer do I have to put up with this?
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post #2 of 13
8/18/06 at 11:11am
I have no advice for you.

It's one of the reason's I won't let family move in with me.
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post #3 of 13
8/18/06 at 11:13am
What is the circumstances as to why they had to move in with you? Is she working? Can't she get a place of her own?

You are in a hard position!
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post #4 of 13
8/18/06 at 11:13am
Is she trying to improve herself. When we lived with MIL it always ended ugly, so I dont know how to make it right for you.
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post #5 of 13
8/18/06 at 11:43am
Do they qualify for low income housing? Do they have another relative they can stay with? There has to be some way they can move along.
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post #6 of 13
8/18/06 at 12:26pm
Sorry you're having to deal with this.
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post #7 of 13
8/18/06 at 2:11pm
no wonder you are not able to come see us very often anymore!

tough situation, i hope you can get some kind of wonderful sugestion to get them out!
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post #8 of 13
8/18/06 at 2:52pm


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post #9 of 13
8/18/06 at 3:02pm
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The housing situation here is screwed up cuz of Katrina. The apartments that were $600/mo. before Katrina are now around $1200. Everyone is rent-gouging. Not to mention we have too many people and not enough houses.

She got a job at the convenience store near my house. I watch her kids. (for free, I might add) She's been working for 3 months making $8/hr and has saved NOTHING! She said she had to buy school uniforms and supplies for her daughter and that wiped her out. WHATEVER...she bought a cell phone. She doesn't have a car or a place to live but she needs a cell?

Jen, she had a place with her dad but they got evicted (the owner decided to sell the house) and nobody else in my family will step up to help them. Most of them (like my parents) have already let them stay there before. She's trying to get rental assistance from FEMA but we're still waiting for a response from them.

Does anybody else think I'm getting taken advantage of?
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post #10 of 13
8/18/06 at 3:09pm
I think that you are very sweet for allowing them to stay with you and for trying to do a good thing. However, I think she is not trying at all. If I were you, and I allowed them to stay, since she is working and has no other expenses, I would charge her a small rent, anything to make her start being responsible for her family. Maybe just put it away for her if you don't want to charge her, so when she does move, she'll have more saved?? I know if I was forced to live with my kids at a relatives house, I would go out of my way to help out, and to find other arrangements or at the least, work my a$$ off to get my own place. Considering she has free babysitting, there really is no reason she couldn't be working 2 jobs to get money saved. As for the cell... that is a frivolous waste of money.

You are in a tough spot.
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post #11 of 13
8/18/06 at 3:30pm
When we moved in with my mom we put a definite date/amount of money to be ready by. If we could save the money faster then we thought we would leave sooner. Otherwise we figured out how much money we could put away and how much we would need for an apartment and set a move out date. Maybe having a specific date in mind would help her to plan better for it.
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post #12 of 13
8/19/06 at 1:16am
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Jen, dh and I actually talked about that. We were just going to charge her rent and put it away. We also definitely decided she has to be out by Dec 1st. I think that is PLENTY of time for her to find other arrangements. We don't want them here for Christmas. I don't want to have to be Santa for her kids.
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post #13 of 13
8/19/06 at 2:16am
i feel that you are being taken advantage of as well Michelle!

she isn't even trying and from what you said, has a track record of doing this to other family members.

she has a family, it is time for her to step up and take care of them somehow herself!
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