and I am glad that he did take the initiative. So now, I need your help. Your guidance and your thoughts as parents... and as a third party ... 
This is going to be long - but PLEASE I really need you !!
Long Story Not so Short:
Ryan used to attend daycare in another town with a "troubled" child. The child was violent, used bad words, was 4 years old and not even close to potty trained - not that I am judging but just a level set. He terrorized all of the kids. He never showed remorse. When Ryan was with this child, Ryans personality would change. He would act up more at home. To prove I am not overreacting - this child was actually kicked out of daycare at 4 years old. He then was sent to a new daycare, and kicked out for his beahvior and hitting a teacher over the head with a bay!! He was then forced into the towns pre-school program mid year.
He lives in our town and now attends kindergarten at Ryans school. Last summer when we were finding out who was in what class, all Ryan wanted to know is if this kid was in his or Kylers class. He is NOT in either class, however they do have recess together.
Update:
The 1st week of school went great. Ryan was excited and loved it. Then he started coming home begging not to go back. Crying. Telling me he is teased. Telling me everyone stares at him. He told me abotu a girl who makes a weird face at him. He is sucking his thumb more.
--Just to check in, I wrote a note to his teacher to see if all was well and how he was adjusting (he is always shy but this was different). She responded that he is adjusting etc and doing well.
Yesterday- Ryan got off the bus and showed me his eye (scratches and alot of dirt gunked in. He said " I hate __ ___" so being the mom I said that isnt niceto say, I know he doesn't like him etc - he said it again and told me about how he got sand in his eye etc. The way the incident occured it was purposeful. Kyler was there and got the teacher, and Ryan actually had to go to the nurse to flush his eye out. Later that evening I also found out (from Shari and confirmed by Ryan) that this boy spit on him and another boy. Ryan has now confessed that Jacob has been doing alot of bad things to him - but he 'cant remember' ....
Last Night Out of nowhere - Ryan flipped out. I am not talking tantrum - I am talking uncontrollable - kicking, screaming, hitting, bad words, and biting - ME. I lterally could not control him. This went on for about 2 1/2 hours. He was acting just like this little boy. It was a nightmare. I was home alone with him and Aidan - and it was just the most radical behavior ever.
Ryan has had some behavior issues- but he really is a good kid -he sometimes has a hard time with listening but not to THIS extent.
This morning I wrote a note to his teacher. I explained the incidents with this boy, their history, and Ryans behavior last night (and again re-appeared this morning). Ryans teacher was NOT in school today- so the sub gave it to the principal who called me.
He told me the sand was not malicious - it was just what happens in the sandbox (I disgaree- he heard the story differently than both Ryan and Kyler told us) ... anyhow, all in all- he told me he would be adding 2 more resources to recess- and let me know they are aware of the troubled kids and are working on them...
He was nice and told me to call or email him with any concerns....
This is going to be long - but PLEASE I really need you !!Long Story Not so Short:
Ryan used to attend daycare in another town with a "troubled" child. The child was violent, used bad words, was 4 years old and not even close to potty trained - not that I am judging but just a level set. He terrorized all of the kids. He never showed remorse. When Ryan was with this child, Ryans personality would change. He would act up more at home. To prove I am not overreacting - this child was actually kicked out of daycare at 4 years old. He then was sent to a new daycare, and kicked out for his beahvior and hitting a teacher over the head with a bay!! He was then forced into the towns pre-school program mid year.
He lives in our town and now attends kindergarten at Ryans school. Last summer when we were finding out who was in what class, all Ryan wanted to know is if this kid was in his or Kylers class. He is NOT in either class, however they do have recess together.
Update:
The 1st week of school went great. Ryan was excited and loved it. Then he started coming home begging not to go back. Crying. Telling me he is teased. Telling me everyone stares at him. He told me abotu a girl who makes a weird face at him. He is sucking his thumb more.
--Just to check in, I wrote a note to his teacher to see if all was well and how he was adjusting (he is always shy but this was different). She responded that he is adjusting etc and doing well.
Yesterday- Ryan got off the bus and showed me his eye (scratches and alot of dirt gunked in. He said " I hate __ ___" so being the mom I said that isnt niceto say, I know he doesn't like him etc - he said it again and told me about how he got sand in his eye etc. The way the incident occured it was purposeful. Kyler was there and got the teacher, and Ryan actually had to go to the nurse to flush his eye out. Later that evening I also found out (from Shari and confirmed by Ryan) that this boy spit on him and another boy. Ryan has now confessed that Jacob has been doing alot of bad things to him - but he 'cant remember' ....
Last Night Out of nowhere - Ryan flipped out. I am not talking tantrum - I am talking uncontrollable - kicking, screaming, hitting, bad words, and biting - ME. I lterally could not control him. This went on for about 2 1/2 hours. He was acting just like this little boy. It was a nightmare. I was home alone with him and Aidan - and it was just the most radical behavior ever.
Ryan has had some behavior issues- but he really is a good kid -he sometimes has a hard time with listening but not to THIS extent.
This morning I wrote a note to his teacher. I explained the incidents with this boy, their history, and Ryans behavior last night (and again re-appeared this morning). Ryans teacher was NOT in school today- so the sub gave it to the principal who called me.
He told me the sand was not malicious - it was just what happens in the sandbox (I disgaree- he heard the story differently than both Ryan and Kyler told us) ... anyhow, all in all- he told me he would be adding 2 more resources to recess- and let me know they are aware of the troubled kids and are working on them...
He was nice and told me to call or email him with any concerns....
that sounds horrible. i think i remember you talking about this boy and daycare a while back.
I know! And my nephew is gifted. He's just socially a mess. He's improving, but still not great with the social stuff. So, that may be the case with this kid. Which means he needs help, and hopefully his parents will recognize that. I am rambling, and I know your real concern is Ryan.
