My mom and my sister

Well, yesterday afternoon I had a conversation with my mom. I tried to just talk to her, but then I remembered that was impossible. She is so two-faced and she cannot handle it when she gets called on her crap that she tries to pull. I just told her that I was tired of what I do or do not do getting misconstrued. She said she hasn't done that. Okay. Then of course, she proceeded to go off on me because I called her doctor's office yesterday and spoke to a nurse about all this confusion she's been experiencing. My mom proceeded to yell at me and tell me how I don't think she's sick, just crazy. Well, the truth is, I have thought she was crazy for YEARS and that is a separate issue from the cancer. I finally just told her that I give up because I am d@mned if I do and d@mned if I don't. If I try to do something to help her, I am meddling and being hateful. If I stay out of it and let her handle it, then I am indifferent and don't care about her. Not to mention the fact, if I stay out of it, things only get worse because she doesn't listen, doesn't comprehend, and doesn't do anything her doctor tells her to do.
As for the call to the nurse, the nurse tried to tell me it was the chemo. I told her no, I don't think so because 2 1/2 years ago she was on the same chemo, but she had it weekly and in a stronger dose then, and none of this happened. The nurse argued with me, telling me that my mom has weekly chemo. I told her she was wrong, and that my mom had not had chemo at all for nearly 3 weeks. Then the nurse told me I was wrong, that Mom had had chemo within the past week or so and that she did have it every week. I told her to CHECK my mom's chart. Guess what? I was right! BIG SHOCK. She has chemo every other week, in the lowest dose possible, AND she hasn't had chemo since September 8. So, when Mom went in for her shot, the doctor evaluated her and found her to be lucid and just fine. The nurse called me and left a message saying that AND saying that if I still thought something wasn't right to let them know. WELL DUH! I do. Why do you think I called?
So, after the phone call with my sister (see my journal about that one), then the call with the nurse, and then my conversation with my mom, I was spent.
I didn't sleep much last night because I kept replaying it all in my head. I am still so with my sister and all she said to me, and I didn't even post half of it in my journal. I told my mom yesterday that I thought she needed to pack her stuff and go live with my sister. They deserve each other.

And all of that with the nurse and the doctor probably wouldn't bug me AS much if, on Friday, my mom didn't say right in front of her doctor that she gets confused, AND if on Friday afternoon, another nurse from the office didn't CALL ME and talk to ME about my mom's upcoming appointments, saying, "I thought I should call you because your mom seems to not understand things these days and she is just confused all the time." I did relay this info to the nurse I talked to yesterday, who knows if it did any good.