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post #1 of 8
10/6/06 at 4:16pm
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Well, Eric still isn't paying any child support, he doesn't even call or return his son's calls. How am I supposed to explain any of that to my little one? I let Jonathan call his father about two weeks ago, which was the last time the boy had asked to call his father (thankfully), and Eric still hasn't called us back. I even let Jonathan leave the message so Eric would know it's Jonathan calling, and he hasn't called back at all. Jonathan asked me for the following two days, every time my phone rang, if that was his daddy. And every time I had to tell him no, I had to watch that sad look take over his little face. That heart breakingly sad look! Those tears that filled his eyes made me want to strangle his father for making him feel that way! What am I supposed to tell my son?
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post #2 of 8
10/6/06 at 6:57pm
You could fib and say the loser took a trip to the moon......

You know my opinion here, but I'm gonna voice it again cuz I can. Next time Loser calls wanting to see you guys, tell him no. You have FULL custody, he's not paying child support, what right does he have to just drop in and out whenever he wants? Tell him you want THREE child support checks before you'll let him see Jonathan. Make him prove that he's really truly trying. Don't let him see him until he takes that class and passes the drug test, because the court already said you don't have to let him see Jonathan until that's done. But no matter how hard it is, don't even let him TALK to Jonathan if/when he calls. Don't let Jonathan try to call him, because seeing him or talking to him right now will only confuse him more since Eric isn't capable of being a STABLE part of Jonathan's life.

I don't know what you can say to Jonathan... Because I know you need to be honest and you don't want to talk badly about Eric. How about "Daddy's out learning how to be stable."?
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post #3 of 8
10/7/06 at 5:03pm
I would talk to Becky. Minus the drugs, she has had similiar problems with her ex. I guess I would be honest, but not brutally so. When Johnaton asks why daddy doesn't call or come see him, just say I don't know know why. That sure is a tough situation. I'm not sure what I would do. Be honest, but not too brutal. Johnaton will figure it out on his own that his daddy doesn't seem to care. Poor little boy! That's so not right.
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post #4 of 8
10/8/06 at 9:55am
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post #5 of 8
10/8/06 at 1:53pm
I'm so sorry. Does he know about the testing?
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post #6 of 8
10/9/06 at 10:09am
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post #7 of 8
10/9/06 at 11:05am
As hard as it is to do, I would tell Johnathon that his daddy loves him very much but is trying to get his life straightened up right now. I would say anthing to just make my little boy not hurt so much. As for your jacka$$ of an ex, I don't know how ANYONE can treat their children like this. That poor little boy doesn't deserve it.
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post #8 of 8
10/30/06 at 3:15pm
I agree with Jennifer here. I hate seeing my daughters heart break because of family things. Here is a Hug for you and your son
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