Why this surprises me I'm not really sure... Probobaly just gets to me because tomorrow is my mom's bday. Keep in mind that I haven't heard from my father in months. Last time we talked very briefly was in July, when I questioned him about my Mom's headstone (he never bought her one and I had just found that out). It was a very brief conversation. Hmm... Little more backstory just to clarify things, I don't think I posted this. I drove to Virginia to spend time with family and was basically told I wasn't welcome to come to my Dad's house with my kids (this is the house I grew up in). He would come see us. He drove 2 1/2 hours to spend 30 minutes with my girls. That was as long as he wanted to stay and it really felt like he just came so he could give me a box of my stuff and have it out of his and Mary's way. We went down there to visit friends and were two doors away and he was too busy to walk next door and see them one last time before we went to Germany. Tessa became hysterical when we left because she didn't see him, and didn't believe me when I said he was too busy (he is retired and she knows this). It was the first time she had been back to the beach since Mom died. Anyway I went back to my SIL that night and wrote my Dad an email telling him off. He can hurt me as much as he wants with his selfishness but it was too much to see my kids hurt. I told him that it was up to him from now on. I wasn't going to visit them, or make any huge effort to keep in touch. I will send christmas cards out of respect for my Mom but the rest is up to him. I have been beyond nice to his new wife, even though I felt they rushed things a bit. I talked my SIL who were resisitant to her into giving her a chance, after all he had a right to be happy even if the rest of us were still grieving mom. Yet he proves them all right and me wrong because ever since he remarried we are non existant. ANyway that was the gist of the email. Have only talked to him since then 2x, both when I called him to let him know when we were leaving the states (on the offchance he would bother to come visit the girls) and the other about my Mom's headstone. Haven't heard from him at all since July.
I got an email not from my Dad but from Mary informing me that they have a new address in Texas. So apparently they have moved. It just really pisses me off that he didn't send the email. And it was a bulk email with nothing other than a new address. AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really really need to stop expecting him to change back into the man he was before Mom died. This is the type on inattention he had when we were little but he had improved so much that it gave me hope and Tessa well it just breaks my heart. She got used to the fake person who pretended to care about her, and just doesn't get what happened to her grandpa when Grandma died. Her words... why did Grandpa stop loving me when Grammy went away? Oh well going to get off of here now after spouting all this. I know it was long and doesn't make a lot of sense but I needed to let my anger out somewhere so it doesn't ruin the day and this is only the tip of the iceberg.
I got an email not from my Dad but from Mary informing me that they have a new address in Texas. So apparently they have moved. It just really pisses me off that he didn't send the email. And it was a bulk email with nothing other than a new address. AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really really need to stop expecting him to change back into the man he was before Mom died. This is the type on inattention he had when we were little but he had improved so much that it gave me hope and Tessa well it just breaks my heart. She got used to the fake person who pretended to care about her, and just doesn't get what happened to her grandpa when Grandma died. Her words... why did Grandpa stop loving me when Grammy went away? Oh well going to get off of here now after spouting all this. I know it was long and doesn't make a lot of sense but I needed to let my anger out somewhere so it doesn't ruin the day and this is only the tip of the iceberg.
How sad. I can't believe people are so insensitive ... especially when kids are involved! 
