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I have had my baby!

post #1 of 20
Thread Starter 
On Friday night/sat morning I kept waking up but I thought it was just BH as I have been having them recently but at about 5am my waters broke so my mum took me into hospital. Nothing was happening for ages after that but they had to try and induce labour otherwise I could get infected as my waters had already broken. I started feeling really strong contractions around 11am that were 15 mins apart but they kept coming and going. At about 5.30pm I was 10 cm dilated so they told me to push, but I had to have a small episiotomy (sp?) (took forever to do stitches, still quite sore). And I gave birth just before 6 o'clock on Saturday 7th October, 9 days before my due date.

The adoptive parents were at the hospital for the birth but were waiting outside, my mum and boyfriend were both in there during labour. Its a girl and the adoptive parents said they are naming her Kaley Jessica. I was so tearful, and still am but thats whats expected I guess. I have 30 days to get Kaley back if I want her which is so tempting, she was the cutest little thing I've ever seen. I will get pics up soon, I have a couple but need to set up a photobucket account. I will be sent pictures and updates every few months and Kaley will be allowed to contact me if she wants,when she is old enough.

I don't know if I mentioned but I have been putting together some things to give her. While I was still in hospital I wrote her a letter explaining what a difficult desicion this has been for everyone and how I wanted to keep her so bad but know I can't provide for her and that I would love for her to contact me if she wants when shes old enough, I have also given her the diary i was keeping that goes from when I found out til when I gave birth to her and a few photos of me and my boyfriend (her dad), me pregnant with her etc. She will be given these things when shes a teenager or when they feel she is ready, but she will be told early on that she has been adopted.

I want to thank all you ladies who have supported me through this difficult time, I know I came quite late into my pregnancy but you haven't judged me and just provided me with constant support and reassurance. I guess there is no reaosn for me to stay here now as I'm not pregnant and I'm not a parent either so I wish all of you the best for the future and good luck!

Thaks again! x
post #2 of 20
CONGRATULATIONS! I can't wait to see photos! I bet she's just beautiful!

I'm so glad that delivery went well and am really impressed at the maturity with which you handled everything. I think it's wonderful that you've kept a diary for her and I'm sure it'll make growing up as an adoptive child so much easier for her knowing exactly why you made the decision and that you always put her needs first.

We have quite a few members that are not yet parents, so don't feel as if you can't check in with us from time to time. I wish you the best and am just so impressed by all that you've done for your baby.
post #3 of 20
Well said Dawn, it was so emotional for me to read....
post #4 of 20
Hon you are still a mother and always will be...and there will always be a place here for you. We have members here with no children as well.

COngratulations on your decision too. You have given a family a great gift and I am sure they will treasure her forever
post #5 of 20
i agree with the other ladies... you are always welcome here and you will always be a mother!!
post #6 of 20
Honey I'm so glad things went well with the labor. You can hang out with us anytime

Know that there is a special place in heaven for you for doing the most selfless thing you could have.
I think it's great that you kept a diary and are sending a letter. You will always be her mother and I know that her family will always be grateful to you for her.
post #7 of 20
Dawn it was said perfectly.

God bles syou on the decision you made. If you have any trouble please feel free to vent here.

I am very proud of the grown up decision you made.
post #8 of 20
Congratulations Jessie!
I agree with all the other ladies and just want to add that I admire you and consider what you have done to be the greatest act of love for your child.
Please come back and update us on how you are doing frequently and know that we are always going to be here for you.
post #9 of 20
Congratulations! When we picked up the boys at the hospital, their birth mother also gave me several pictures of her and the father during the pregnancy and at the hospital and a beautiful picture of the boys and the birthmom. I cherish those pictures and when they ask, I will happily show them the wonderful woman that gave them to me to raise.

You have done a beautiful, selfless thing for that little girl. Please keep in touch with us at BabyU.
post #10 of 20
Congratulations honey and I am so glad it went so well. You are a mother now and forever.
I am over thirty years old and I don't think I have ever made a decision and been that mature about anything in my life. You are an inspiration to other young women going through what you've gone through. I am sure that there will come a time Kaley will come looking for you.
post #11 of 20
I know you must be really going through a lot emotionally right now. I admire your maturity in dealing with all of this. I know that Kaley will treasure all the momentos you have for her. You are welcome here any time.
post #12 of 20
I can't say anymore than the other ladies on here have. But you are an inspiration to me! I don't think I have ever done anything as selfless as what you and Antony have done. You have given a beautiful little girl a chance to have a great life. I think she will be overjoyed when she is old enough to be given the momentos that you have left for her. I do hope you continue to come around and let us know how you are doing and give us updates on Kaley. I am very proud of you!!
post #13 of 20
Thread Starter 
Thank you for the lovely replies everyone, it really does mean a lot to me and reminds me that I have done the right thing in giving Kaley up for adoption. I can't believe its all over now, I'm so used to being pregnant now, everytime I look down at my belly I feel so sad but you guys make me feel better about it all! Thankfully my family and friends are all being great and helping me thorugh this, and Antony has really been my rock, I'm so happy that he has stuck by me and couldn't have done it without him.

I will drop in every once in a while to update you all on Kaley and see how you are all doing as well. And maybe I'll come back in however many years time when I have ny next baby, which will be a happier occasion!
post #14 of 20
The other ladies have said so much there is nothing I can add.

We will be here when you are ready and we all LOVE baby updates! (and updates on yourself and Antony as well! )
post #15 of 20
I think what Dawn and the other have said pretty much says it all. You did something I know I don't think I could have ever done. I just want to add that with the other choices there are out there I'm very proud that you chose to continue your pregnancy and let you baby have a life. I know neither choice is easy.
post #16 of 20


You are so selfless, you've done a WONDERFUL thing. I cried as I read your post.
post #17 of 20
You are ALWAYS welcome here.

You have done a wonderful and courageous thing. I wish you all of the best. Please let us know how you are doing.
post #18 of 20
Congratulations Jessica.

The other ladies have said everything that I would have said. It is a wonderful and brave act that you did. Drop us a line letting us know how you are doing.
post #19 of 20
you are a wonderful selfless mature loving person Jessie! I am so very proud and honored to have gone through this journey with you.

I hope you will stop in and keep us up on your life as you continue to grow into the wonderful woman we all know you are going to be!

post #20 of 20
For what it's worth, I think you did the right thing. We are always here for you, if you need us or just need someone to listen.
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