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post #1 of 4
10/11/06 at 2:03pm
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My dd is reverting badly on me. She's fine when it's just her and her daddy, but for me she acts much younger than she is. Also after months of sleeping in her own bed, now she wants to sleep with me. I know this is probably normal, but it's driving me

I'm turning potty training over to dh. She'll do nothing in that area for me, but for dad, she will. Yesterday, she would not change her pull ups while I was in the apartment. So I waited outside, she stopped her fit, put on her her pull ups and started singing happy as a clam for daddy.

how do I get her to mind me again without all the dramatics? I feel like I am living with Lindsey Lohan around here.
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post #2 of 4
10/11/06 at 2:28pm
You know, my DD, who is just a few months older than yours, is the same way. She and I clash something terrible at times. I can ask or tell her to do something and she refuses and will start a tantrum. So I get her dad to try and get her to do whatever it is and she does it. I don't know about your DH but mine has a different way of explaining things to her that make sense to her, I guess.

There are even times that she wants to do something and I say "sure" and she'll have a tantrum still! My DH says we're just too alike and that's why we clash but I don't know what it is. Whenever her dad isn't around, she's an angel. Even when her big brother isn't home she's so much better and we figure that's because she feels she has to fight for attention when he's there. And when it's both me and dad, she plays off each of us to try and get her way.

So I don't know the answer and I know I'm no help here. I just thought I'd let you know that I feel your pain because I go through the same with my precious little girl.
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post #3 of 4
10/11/06 at 2:37pm
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She's been trying to wear the baby's clothes. I talked to the folks at the birthing center when I signed her up for the sibling class and the woman said they will have lots of advise for us there. I sure hope so because I miss my big girl. Those terrible 2s were not something I wanted a repeat of with the same child.
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post #4 of 4
10/11/06 at 2:48pm
My DD did, still does sometimes, the same thing when we had our youngest last year. We'd tell her they wouldn't fit and she still tried to put them on and would manage to get her arms in only and would wear whatever it was around like that for awhile. I honestly didn't think twice about it but figured she was just playing. She still plays with his toys too.

I will tell you that she is the BEST big sister there could be. She loves her little brother (loves her big brother too but that's a different relationship) and loves taking care of him. She plays with him, gets him his cup if she thinks he's thirsty, shares her snacks with him, "reads" to him, and let him start crying and she is right there trying to help him feel better.

So while Kate seems to be "reverting" back to a baby, it may just be that she's anxious about how things are going to change when the new baby arrives. She's been the only child for a long time now and as you know, it's going to be a big adjustment for her. I'm sure you have been but I'd just keep telling her what a great big sister she's going to be, how she'll be able to teach the new baby so many things and that she'll be mommy & daddy's big helper. Have her talk to your tummy to start bonding and have her help you get things ready for the baby. Hopefully all that will help her feel like a big girl and help her get excited. I'm sure the class will give you lots of tips on how to help her.
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