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post #1 of 5
10/12/06 at 1:12am
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Nick is driving us NUTS. I am literally

If he doesn't get his way he will jump up and down screaming, then throw himself on the floor (although he no longer bashes his head off the floor).

His favorite past time is hitting, scratching or pinching his sister or the dog....and even JErry and I.

He fights with us to go to sleep. I finally got Jerry to stop sitting beside him or laying beside him at bedtime...but its still taking an hour or 2 to get him to fall asleep...and in this process he is keeping Liz awake. It doens't matter if they are in the same room, or different rooms....and as most of you know, this kind of behaviour has been going on for over a year.

Jerry and I are at our wits ends. We are tired, frazzled and stressed. The time we spend trying to get Nick to sleep is taken away from the time JErry and I could be spending together......

We are finding that we have no patience or temper to deal with nick any more I feel like I am such a bad mother and somewhere I have failed my son as I feel like I can't deal with him. I dont' know what to do anymore.

My patience is gone. I find I am yelling more and more. (lets face it, after almost 2 years of fighting pretty much EVERY night to get Nick to sleep, its gotten old) Jerry and I can't keep going like this. There has to be an easy way to get Nick to bed....we just can't find it.
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post #2 of 5
10/12/06 at 2:37am
Honey I am there with ya on the bedtime thing. Know what my doctor told me? She said that a little benedryl to help them sleep now and then wouldn't hurt them. And to be honest, there are times i use that with Ian. When it's midnight or later and he's been up there since 7:30 or 8. I know what kind of mom that makes me. But at the same time.. it's better than us screaming at him or spanking ( cause it doesn't work) or anything else.
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post #3 of 5
10/12/06 at 2:50am
I know it's hard, but you know my dd was the same way for a long time with regards to the hitting and violent behavior. We've had to really restrict what programs she watches and her diet. Sugary products definitely made it worse.

We refuse to have anything to do with her when she is mean. She has to stay in her room all by herself not even the cat can visit her. She's hitting again some now with a baby coming, but she was better for a long time just due to social pressure and some spanking. I spanked her yesterday for hitting me in the face with an object. I also told her from now on if she hits me with something it's going in the trash. Loosing tv privledges also works with her. Even if she isn't watching it or even in the same room with the tv, she wants it on all the time.

I know it's hard with some kids, but you have to find his hook. If he hits, he looses something he likes - tv, games, a special toy, etc - until he can be nice again.
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post #4 of 5
10/12/06 at 9:42am
We used to have this problem with Will and we got him a special night light that changes colors (we are not using one of those smelly lights that change colors) and we would tuck him into bed once kiss and hug him and then and NOT NOT NOT talk to him when he got outta the bed after we would just put him back in the bed the first time we did this over a dozen times. Took a week and got better each night. I am so sorry I know how hard this is. Will goes to bed now MOST nights without a fight.
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post #5 of 5
10/12/06 at 10:22am
Does he have a TV in his room? As bad as it is, we let the boys watch a video or cartoon, set the timer as they wind down/fall asleep. I would do what Simonne says, just tell him to go back to bed and no other socialization. That is what I have to do with Justin. He will come down after Brandon falls asleep cos he says he is scared. I just tell him to go back to his room. He'll cry but he goes back up. The more consistent we are with it (sometimes I just give in and let him sleep on the floor) the less he comes down. And if all else fails, the wooden spoon comes out.
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