Doug came over to get the kids. I asked him to watch the kids so I could go to lunch with my friend. I kept asking him what his plans were, and he kept saying "I dunno" So I made plans with my friend and told him I'ld be back about supper time. He got really mad, doesn't think it's fair, he had other plans. He told me he doesn't think it's fair that I make all the plans and then abuse him (he keeps forgeting that he's the abuser)
By this time I'm so frustrated and the tears are sliding down my face (stupid tears) I said what am I doning to be abusive. He says tears are abusive and a way to manipulate to get what you want. I told him I can control my tears (I wish I could) and he said It's my choice to cry.
I have the kids for 24\7 (except for Tues night when I go to my support group) I don't think it would hurt him to take the kids for 1 day a week.