DH took the day off work today to go back to VA (5 hr drive) to file paperwork at the courthouse to get a mediation time scheduled! I should start from the top...
9/15 Ex tells DH that there is a 4-day weekend coming up (Veteran's Day weekend, November) and if he wanted the kids he needed to let her know by the 10th of October since the kids' schedules fill up so fast! Well, Dh wrote right back telling her yes he wants them and will pick them up after school and she will need to meet him halfway when the weekend is over. (Very reasonable!). Well today is the 18th of October and we still haven't heard anything from her. No emails, no phone calls... Even after repeated request to have an answer about what was being done.
Just another odd piece of something- DSD told DH she got new glasses. Usually Ex is practically begging for DH's half of the money before she can even get the kids glasses or wanting his half of the payment for the eye exam before they go to the appt. This time we didn't even know there was an appt, let alone new lenses and frames were bought!! Something is up the Ex's slimey little (OK it's large) sleeve. And I don't like it!!
Now for the good stuff... Dh was really missing the kids and such the other night and tired of being jerked around about visitations. He got up the next day, made some calls and such and then today he went to the court to get some mediation time. Bad thing, come to find out we'll have to go to actual court instead of mediation due to the fact that we now live out of state!! More little nuggets of info he found out...
He went to the Y to find out their attendance there (Like someone suggest from my last post, thank you someone!) and found out that they are NOT going eveyday and before and after school like she says, AND found out that she's only paying $80 a week for the two of them!! Ok here's the RANT: Right now DH (we) pay $150 a week for our share of the childcare cost!!! Which is worked right into the child support. Soooo, if she's only paying $80/week that means our actual share should be $50/week TOPS!!! That's $100 less then we're paying!! Meaning, basically, we're just handing her appx $400 a month just because!! Now we know how she's paying for that Harley!!
So the main reason DH went to the court was so scheduled visitations could be worked out instead of fighting with her every vacation the kids have... But once he found out about the childcare he filed for that all to be looked at and refigured too!!!
I'm sooooo thrilled!! I hate to say it but I think I'm so thrilled about the fact that DH actually got up and did all of this instead of worrying about causing more problems! I only still wonder what Ex has up her big fat sleeve.... I do wish I could see her face when she gets served papers!!! I can bet we'll hear from her then!! Especially because she'll have to take a day off work most likely! That and it would mean her neighbors would see a cop car in her drive, which she'll just hate!!
If you made it this far through my rambling, Congrats to you!!!
Until, next time!!
9/15 Ex tells DH that there is a 4-day weekend coming up (Veteran's Day weekend, November) and if he wanted the kids he needed to let her know by the 10th of October since the kids' schedules fill up so fast! Well, Dh wrote right back telling her yes he wants them and will pick them up after school and she will need to meet him halfway when the weekend is over. (Very reasonable!). Well today is the 18th of October and we still haven't heard anything from her. No emails, no phone calls... Even after repeated request to have an answer about what was being done.
Just another odd piece of something- DSD told DH she got new glasses. Usually Ex is practically begging for DH's half of the money before she can even get the kids glasses or wanting his half of the payment for the eye exam before they go to the appt. This time we didn't even know there was an appt, let alone new lenses and frames were bought!! Something is up the Ex's slimey little (OK it's large) sleeve. And I don't like it!!
Now for the good stuff... Dh was really missing the kids and such the other night and tired of being jerked around about visitations. He got up the next day, made some calls and such and then today he went to the court to get some mediation time. Bad thing, come to find out we'll have to go to actual court instead of mediation due to the fact that we now live out of state!! More little nuggets of info he found out...
He went to the Y to find out their attendance there (Like someone suggest from my last post, thank you someone!) and found out that they are NOT going eveyday and before and after school like she says, AND found out that she's only paying $80 a week for the two of them!! Ok here's the RANT: Right now DH (we) pay $150 a week for our share of the childcare cost!!! Which is worked right into the child support. Soooo, if she's only paying $80/week that means our actual share should be $50/week TOPS!!! That's $100 less then we're paying!! Meaning, basically, we're just handing her appx $400 a month just because!! Now we know how she's paying for that Harley!!
So the main reason DH went to the court was so scheduled visitations could be worked out instead of fighting with her every vacation the kids have... But once he found out about the childcare he filed for that all to be looked at and refigured too!!!
I'm sooooo thrilled!! I hate to say it but I think I'm so thrilled about the fact that DH actually got up and did all of this instead of worrying about causing more problems! I only still wonder what Ex has up her big fat sleeve.... I do wish I could see her face when she gets served papers!!! I can bet we'll hear from her then!! Especially because she'll have to take a day off work most likely! That and it would mean her neighbors would see a cop car in her drive, which she'll just hate!!If you made it this far through my rambling, Congrats to you!!!
Until, next time!!
Glad I could help with that. Hopefully, the court will take a really good look at things. And if you're going to court, I still recommend finding an advocate or someone who will take the case for free (or cheap) - like you said, you don't know what she's got up her sleeve.
That's awesome!!
Sorry--blonde moment. 
