Grrrr

Let me say first that I genuinely appreciate MIL and all the help she provides us. I couldn't have made it the past eight weeks without her. She has been a great support to us and me in particular.
HOWEVER it chaps my a$$ that over a week ago we made this appointment to go have DH's vasectomy. She's known about it. BUT see, BIL's sometimes girlfriend just had their third baby, and well, he has a truck, and she has no car (thanks to HIM), and they need a way to get home from the hospital. It's a long story as to why she did this, but she had errands to run this morning, was then meeting friends for lunch, and then planned to go up to the hospital to have BIL follow her home so he could leave his truck (which MIL cannot drive, it's a stick shift) and take her car. I don't know why she had to go up there to get him. He knows where we live and doesn't need an escort. But HE has to have her car, so this is the system she worked out. She assured me she would be home in plenty of time to watch the kids. (She actually said she'd be home by 2:00, but I knew that would not happen.) Well, it takes us 45 mins AT LEAST to get to the doctor's office. She called at 3:05 and said she'd be home in about half an hour. "Is that okay?" she asked. UM NO, but we have no other choice was my response. She claims she thought the appt was changed from 4:10 to 4:30. No, they just said they might run behind and if so, it would be no later than that, but that we needed to be there at 4:10. I called the neighbor, but she wasn't home, so I called the doctor's office, and they said just to come in by 4:30. That might happen. It just infuriates me that we so rarely ask her to be here at a certain time to watch the kids. We almost NEVER ask her to babysit. Aside from my ob/gyn appts, she has watched the kids for us not even once a month since she's lived with us. We just don't want to impose. But the one time we really need her to be here on time, she blows it off because BIL needs her car--did I mention that he doesn't even need it until TOMORROW? UGH.
This is why if I ever go back to work I will not use her for childcare. She's great until precious little BIL needs her and then, well, frankly, everyone else can go to h*ll because her baby is in need.

Oh, and let me just say that at 9:30 this morning I called Kyle and told him that this EXACT thing was going to happen. Can you say "PATTERN of behavior?" She always does this when BIL needs something, no matter how inconvenient, how absurd, or how WHATEVER. It's his fault the GF doesn't have a car. He gave her his old SUV and then needed some money, so he pawned the car title with no intention of paying the money back. It was repossessed.

She got here at about 3:45, but needed to change clothes and watch BIL move things from his car to hers and move things out of her car, etc. It really bothered me that she walked in and didn't even say she was sorry for being late or she was sorry for making us late. It wouldn't have changed the fact that we would be late, but it would have been nice to hear that. Oh well.
I didn't speed on the way there. I just decided we'd either get there and get it done or have to reschedule, but I wasn't going to drive like a manaic to get there.
We got to the doctor's office at 4:35, and thankfully, the doctor and his staff were very understanding. They were actually waiting for us. How nice is that? We were done by 5:00. I cannot believe he was in and out that quickly. So far, Kyle is feeling pretty good.