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post #1 of 16
12/5/06 at 3:05pm
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What do you do when your kids mis-behave in public?

Do you leave?

Do you go in the bathroom?

Do you try to ignore it?

How do you handle it?
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post #2 of 16
12/5/06 at 3:31pm
It entirly depends on the situation and what set them off.

I have never been a big one to just leave. However as they have gotten older it has come to that. Most of our issues now adays are cause of someone bugging someone or wanting something.

It also depends on how my day has went. If I am having a good day I deal with it rationally. If I am having a bad day I am more apt to leave wherever we are.
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post #3 of 16
12/5/06 at 7:09pm
Depends on the situations.
If it is the boys then I just tell them "if you embarrass me then I will embarrass you". Always works! Then they get grounded-lol
With Emily I use a stern voice and tell her that if she doesn't cut it out that we will leave, she is grounded, won't be getting whatever she may be getting while out with me etc etc.
With Payton I just pretty much ignore it. Their age is hard to reason with and once they aren't getting any attention from their actions then they will pretty much stop on their own. I could care less what other people think when they see my screaming 3yr old. Either they have been there done that themselves or if they get crabby about it then that is thier problem.
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post #4 of 16
12/5/06 at 7:36pm
Rach & Issac...if they don't stop I'll bust their butts right there...Ethan, I just ignore him.
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post #5 of 16
12/5/06 at 8:50pm
I threaten them within an inch of their lives and then finish what I need to do and get out of the store.
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post #6 of 16
12/6/06 at 4:57pm
Depends on where we are and why they are misbehaving.

So far - I've never had to leave a store.
Kyler - I'll *try* to discuss the situation with. Then... start threatening to take something away when we get home. USUALLY works.
Delaney - I try to distract her with things. (Like she can carry a toy she wants all the way through the store. Then we we get to the registar - I pull it away and give it to the lady.) Then... She'll freak out until we get to the car... but at least it's outside and not IN The store.
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post #7 of 16
12/6/06 at 5:23pm
OMG, Haley has only done that to me once thank God, but I handled it HORRIBLY!! She started screaming and kicking so I left Rob there to finish at the check out, I threw her over my shoulder and I walked out to the car. The bad part is, everyone was staring at us like a bunch of goons so I started yelling at them to mind their own &*(# business! We got to the car and I buckled her in her seat. Then I called my mom and just started bawling!

It was absolutely terrible!
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post #8 of 16
12/6/06 at 6:05pm
I just ignore them. It isnt Austin that does anything anymore in public it is Connor and the more I get mad at him the worse it makes it. I just ignore him. He eventually stops.
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post #9 of 16
12/6/06 at 8:07pm
i usually threaten him with throwing away some kind of toy when we get home.

i have walked out of the store before though, and i will do it again, no matter what, whatever it is that he wants he is not getting no matter how loud he cries
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post #10 of 16
3/8/07 at 10:45pm
It depends on the situation. I tend to get upset and embarrassed easily and honestly, I think it just makes it worse. So I try to reason with them. I usually don't leave the store b/c I know that I will have to get all three kids back out to go later...... So I try different things.
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post #11 of 16
3/8/07 at 11:49pm
I was going to say beat them I guess I'll have to see what Gabe's personality is like and what he responds too. I'm not against leaving some place immediately though. I'm not embarrassed by much.
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post #12 of 16
3/9/07 at 10:46am
Mine get the one, two, three strikes your out.
1) warning that if it doesn't stop we will be making a trip to the nearest bathroom for a spanking( the phrase " do we need to make a trip to the bathroom?" pretty much stops the behavior immediately)
2) the trip to the restroom and them being told we will leave(I've had to use this twice...once for Josh when he was little and once for Jake about 2 years ago....my kids know this is NOT an idle threat....Jess must have picked up on their "fear" of that one cause I haven't had to use it yet on him.... )
3) we leave (Used once with Josh in a restaurant during his ODD days....DH hauled him kicking and screaming while I paid for the drinks and changed the order to carry out.....good thing DH took him to the car cause I probably would have beat him to an inch of his life....that was the first time I had been out for a LOOOONNNNGGG time and I really wanted a nice dinner)
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post #13 of 16
3/9/07 at 10:53am
I really like your strategy Bridget. I'm going to keep that in mind as Gabe gets older.
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post #14 of 16
3/9/07 at 11:34am
I use the 1,2,3 method as well. A really nice tug and twist of the ear always works well for me in public as well. I'm not spanking him in front of people and I can pull gently to get him where I want him and make a point without saying a word!

He knows when I tug on his ear and give him that look that he's about to go to the bathroom. LOL
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post #15 of 16
8/11/10 at 8:06pm

Re: What do you do...

I am fortunate to have older kids and I have them take the little ones outside. There is no reasoning with twin 2 yr olds' and a 4 year old.
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post #16 of 16
8/12/10 at 2:19am

Re: What do you do...

My kids are still young- I just stay consistent with what we do at home. They get 1 warning, then if they still don't listen they sit in timeout. Yes, I put my kids in timeout in the middle of a store if I have to. I always explain why they are going to timeout and they have to tell me sorry for misbehaving.
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