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Getting so Friggin' Irritated!

post #1 of 21
12/31/06 at 10:39am
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I have heard "Kitina says" none stop since picking my kids up from their father's house earlier in the week.
"Kitina says you forget things so they'll have to buy them for us"
"Kitina says you can't buy anything for yourself with daddy's money" (My child support)
"Kitina says I should at least get paid if you are going to make me watch the baby"

I called Mike the other day and brought this up and he appologized and said that Haley asks a lot of questions and they try to answer them as best they can. I told him that discussing money with a 10 year old is just wrong.

This morning when Haley made the last comment about babysitting I just went off. I told Haley that Kitina is not part of our family and doesn't have any business saying how things should work in our family. She is not a single mom of 3 kids and has no idea what she is talking about.

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post #2 of 21
12/31/06 at 10:50am
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post #3 of 21
12/31/06 at 11:02am
Kitnia needs to learn how to shut up.
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post #4 of 21
12/31/06 at 12:00pm
Kitina needs to say, "Haley, I am not your mom, and you should talk to her about these things." And that is all Kitina needs to say.
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post #5 of 21
12/31/06 at 1:02pm
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Thank you Tammy!
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post #6 of 21
12/31/06 at 1:05pm
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I sent Mike an email because I couldn't get him on his phone
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Mike,
Please ask Kitina not to discuss money with my daughter. Once again, this morning I got the comment "Kitina says if I'm going to help with the baby I should at least get paid". Kitina is not a single parent of 3 kids. She has no idea what the situation is in this house and she is not Haley's parent. She is making it extremely difficult for me to raise my children when she goes and runs her mouth. This is MY life and I'm doing the best I can. Haley has given me nothing but attitude since she came home from your house because of her new ideas and expectations about how things are supposed to run in this house. If Kitina can't realize what is and is not appropriate to discuss with a 10 year old THAT DOES NOT BELONG TO HER than I don't want my children around her.
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post #7 of 21
12/31/06 at 2:43pm
I would so love to beat her down for you. I would confront her and tell her just that "Haley, I am not your mom, and you should talk to her about these things."
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post #8 of 21
12/31/06 at 6:40pm
WTG Elaine! I love this assertive side of you! Now, let's hope Mike has the b@lls to lay it down to Kitina and remind her of her place.
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post #9 of 21
12/31/06 at 8:53pm
I think you handled that great hon.....and I think your ex needs to tell Katina that when Haley or any other of your kids asks her questions like that they she should tell Hayley that you are her mom and that she needs to talk to YOU about htese things. Katina needs to learn to support you better!!!
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post #10 of 21
12/31/06 at 9:07pm
i think that is a great email that you sent!!

i hope that Mike can get his girlfriend under control!
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post #11 of 21
12/31/06 at 9:38pm
Good e-mail. I hope Mike does something about her.

(And IMO, Kitina is one of the dumbest names ever.)
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post #12 of 21
12/31/06 at 10:35pm
Ewww.... I'd be so steamed!

Does he know just how much she's been acting up lately? Or does he know anything else you're going through?

I agree. Kitina sounds like a . Hmmm... I bet she was an only child and spoiled rotten.

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post #13 of 21
1/1/07 at 2:44am
Shona says "Ktina is a twit" Just replace the i with an a
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post #14 of 21
1/1/07 at 2:45am
And who is named Ktina anyway??? Geez did her parents hate her?
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post #15 of 21
1/1/07 at 2:49am
Wow, how rude(and out of line)! Christian helps me babysit and I think it's totally reasonable. Everyone is expected to contribute to the family.He's never complained about it. We all have to work for the good of the family(and there are rewards for that).
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post #16 of 21
1/2/07 at 10:03am
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Originally Posted by Shona
And who is named Ktina anyway??? Geez did her parents hate her?
Shona!
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post #17 of 21
1/2/07 at 10:13am
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It just keeps going! This morning Haley told me "Kitina thinks she's a better mom than you" AND "Kitina says that it is really bad that you left Daddy". WTF! First of all, Kitina has only been a mom for 4 months and has NEVER had to do it by herself... Second, I DIDN'T LEAVE MIKE!

I've gotten no reply to my email. I'm going to call him later this morning because I just can't deal with this.
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post #18 of 21
1/2/07 at 11:04am
I'm totally agreeing with everyone herre, esp with Tara. My kids help out as a fmaily. If Kieran needs to be watched, then someone watches him.

The ONLY time they get paid to watch him is when we go to the laundry mat and that's because EVERYONE gets paid for help with the laundry (our small step to an allowance).
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post #19 of 21
1/2/07 at 3:00pm
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post #20 of 21
1/2/07 at 4:34pm
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Originally Posted by Elaine
It just keeps going! This morning Haley told me "Kitina thinks she's a better mom than you" AND "Kitina says that it is really bad that you left Daddy". WTF! First of all, Kitina has only been a mom for 4 months and has NEVER had to do it by herself... Second, I DIDN'T LEAVE MIKE!
Good grief! You are much nicer than I am. I believe I would be paying Kitina a visit and telling her a thing or two. She needs to be put in her place and she needs to shut her mouth. And where does she get her information? Mike is the one who ended your relationship. What a big mouthed, know nothing B*TCH she is! There is just no excuse for her to say ANYTHING unkind, judgmental, or derogatory about you to YOUR children. What is up with your exes and their insecure girlfriends, wives, or whatever they are?
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post #21 of 21
1/2/07 at 4:38pm
This may come out wrong, first of all I totally agree that K needs to be told to keep her mouth closed around the kids .. BIG TIME. Seems she is talking a lot more than she should. But you have to remember that kids loose a lot in transulation. Most of the tie it comes out the way they perceive it .. which in this case K may have said it nicer but it certainly seems that she didn't mean any of it nicely.

I'd deal with K herself .. she is going to have a relationship with your children she needs to know her boundries ... so kick her and let her know them!
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