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Just typical 3 year old behavior?

post #1 of 8
1/3/07 at 10:48am
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I don't know what is up with Justin lately. How do I know when this is just typical 3 year old bahavior or if there is really a problem?

He has started sucking his fingers and licking his hand. He is awful clingy especially when Ryan is home. (Now Ryan is 9 months and this is the first jealously issues I have seen). The tantrums he has on almost a daily basis now are unlike anything I have seen. He does this throaty scream thing, anything he can get his hands on he throws or hits. Last night he started, I can't even remember what brought it on. But he was just losing it. I had to physically hold him in time out. I sent him repeatedly to his room. I even had to spank him with the wooden spoon. It went on for about 20 minutes. When he finally calmed down, I had him come sit with me so I could talk to him and I just started bawling. He just got big eyed and his eyes watered and he hugged me.

Is this normal? Is it excessive? Brandon never did anything like this, so I don't know what to expect.
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post #2 of 8
1/3/07 at 10:53am
I don't know if it's normal, but my dd acts like that sometimes. I know she licks her hands and fingers because we tell her not to and that it's gross. Her favorite is to lick her hands and then rub spit on you.

As for the tantrums, my dd can throw some pretty grand mal tantrums. According to my sil, her 4 almost 5 year old still throws some pretty good tantrums. I think it's normal, although, highly annoying.

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post #3 of 8
1/3/07 at 11:04am
My kids both went through stages like that. They would get absolutely hysterical and nothing seemed to help until they just got it out of their system and then sobbed for a while.
Just continue to remind him that you love him and reassure him of his importance in the family.
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post #4 of 8
1/3/07 at 11:21am
What worked for me was sending the kids to their room. That way they were alone and could scream into their pillow or beat it up. He may need some one on one time with you each day. Kale is like that .. I will just take him downstairs when I'm doing the laundry and have him "help" and we can chat or close the bathroom door while he is in the bath and play with his toys without the other kids around.

to you both ... good luck hun!
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post #5 of 8
1/4/07 at 11:08am
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Yeah, that is a good point. I told John we need to start doing one on one with each of the boys. He has really wanted me to lay down with him at night, maybe I need to start doing that.
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post #6 of 8
1/4/07 at 12:40pm
Nick does the same thing hon and it drives me NUTS.....the worst part is that NIck doesn't do it for anyone else other than me and JErry....emotionally it wears us down as parents. We are trying to figure out why our little ones are doing this, andwe can't figure it out.....if you come up with an answer, and a solution on how to get them to stop, let me know.

until then here are some for you. I know you need them too
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post #7 of 8
1/4/07 at 12:54pm
oh and hon, as for laying down with him at night....that is one habit that you really don't want to start. Its one of the hardest ones to break. My nephew is now 9 and STILL wants his mom to lay with him at night (mind you he has Downs) but they started that habit when he was just over ayear old......

Maybe you can have some cuddle time with him before bed instead, and then you can tuck him in. Make up your own bedtime routine with him
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post #8 of 8
1/4/07 at 2:09pm
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I really need to think on how to divide what little time I have. It's crazy in the evenings, but I know it needs to be done. I know the laying down is a bad habit to start. But he has had such trouble sleeping lately. Brandon falls asleep first and then Justin says he is scared or whatever. But at least once a week, he ends up sleeping on our floor. Which I don't mind, since he isn't interrupting our sleep with kicking or anything.

It kills me that us as parents are the only ones who get treated to this behaviour. I have heard that is because with us, they know we love them unconditionally. With strangers/teachers/etc they behave. It is another one of gods jokes on us, I suppose!!
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