Update on my mom

The new chemo is really hard on Mom. It's making her very sick to the point that she cannot get out of bed or function at all for two days beginning on the third day after treatment. It's also causing terrible sores in her mouth, which makes her not eat. She already was not eating much, but now it's down to where she MIGHT eat a bowl of soup each day. Also, her coumadin levels are way off. Coumadin is the blood thinner she's been taking for several months due to the blood clots she has in her legs. These levels are so high that it has caused the sores in her mouth to start bleeding. She didn't even realize it because, apparently, she's been coughing up blood since at least Christmas. Mom didn't tell anyone, but my sister did tell me just YESTERDAY that she suspected Mom was coughing up blood at her house on Christmas Eve. Angie said it was only a little, so she didn't think much of it. I told her ANY blood was too much blood to be coughing up. Wednesday Mom went to the doctor and all this came out. She did have chemo and was given a white blood cell shot, a vitamin K shot, and two bags of plasma. The K shot and plasma were to try to stop the bleeding. The doctor came by to see her during the SIX hours it took her to get chemo and the plasma, and he checked out the blood she was coughing up. Since it was old blood (brown) he opted against hospitalizing her, but she had to go get a white blood cell shot yesterday, and then today (Friday), she went back to the hospital for another white cell shot and labs. After that, went to see her doctor. (When I talked to the nurse Wednesday, she said she really wanted me to be there with Mom on Friday, and that she wondered if Dr. K would continue with this chemo because, "Even if it is working on the tumors and we are getting her more time, if she is this sick the whole time, what are we giving her? We want her to have quality of life, not just quantity." I agree--of course, I want as much time with my mom as possible, especially for my kids and my nephew, but I would rather her have a couple of months where she feels pretty good rather than three or four where she suffers.)
So, as it turns out, Dr. K gave her the chemo again on Wed. because he's not convinced the chemo is what had her feeling so bad last weekend. He said if she feels that way again this weekend, then we'll know, and he'll adjust her dose. He doesn't want to stop the chemo altogether yet because "we are running out of options."
He has taken Mom off coumadin altogether because she can't keep the dosage straight. He said that coumadin is essentially rat poison and that taking it is very dangerous and it has to be monitored closely. As long as her platelets are up, she will have a filter put in her artery on Monday. The filter will hopefully catch the clots if they break loose.

Here's the thing, my mom refuses to add anything to her food--they have offered her a calorie booster that is tasteless and textureless. She won't go get the stuff. She REFUSES ensure, boost or any other nutritional drink. There is not one thing I can do to change this. No matter how much I try to get her to do it, nothing persuades her. They have had the nutritionist talk to her, the doctor, we have told her if she loses more weight, she will be hospitalized. NOTHING works. I have no explanation other than to say that she obviously isn't the kind of person who will do whatever it takes or else when she went into remission two years ago, she would have quit smoking right then and there.