I have a SIL bugging me to do some things that I just don't feel are approriate. One, she wants me to bug my MIL about a package she sent. MIL is in a rehabilliation center following hip surgery and is not doing well. Before that she worked 12 hours a day up to the day before her surgery. I keep telling my SIL you know our MIL is in the hospital (rehab center now). My SIL tells me that's no excuse for rudeness. No, it isn't in theory, but you can't really expect MIL to run off to the post office right now either.
Now, SIL is bugging me to get my other SIL who is a store manager to get her a product the store sells. No biggie usually, but right now SIL #2 is at home recovering from cancer surgery for the next month. SIL #1 knows this because I told her before and after the surgery.
I have to find a way to tell my SIL that hey, maybe it's not a good idea to have great expectations from people recovering from surgery and dealing with cancer. I've tried to tell my sil before that her behavior was a little on the rude side and it has not gone well. I know she's going through some hard times right now because BIL just left for Iraq. But you know chewing me out about MIL not thanking her (the sil) for a gift which she (our MIL) probably hasn't even received because she is in the hospital isn't very nice either. Not to mention, this recent request to bug my other SIL about a product her work sells.
How do you tell someone nicely, hey, you're being insensitive and rude?
Now, SIL is bugging me to get my other SIL who is a store manager to get her a product the store sells. No biggie usually, but right now SIL #2 is at home recovering from cancer surgery for the next month. SIL #1 knows this because I told her before and after the surgery.
I have to find a way to tell my SIL that hey, maybe it's not a good idea to have great expectations from people recovering from surgery and dealing with cancer. I've tried to tell my sil before that her behavior was a little on the rude side and it has not gone well. I know she's going through some hard times right now because BIL just left for Iraq. But you know chewing me out about MIL not thanking her (the sil) for a gift which she (our MIL) probably hasn't even received because she is in the hospital isn't very nice either. Not to mention, this recent request to bug my other SIL about a product her work sells.
How do you tell someone nicely, hey, you're being insensitive and rude?
I really have other things to do.
I went back and re-read things....I agree Lenora. She seems the sort of person that you will just have to be blunt with. Some people just don't respond to anything else. Good luck.
