I sure missed that info let me tell you!!!
Let me explain... we live in Germany. To go back to the states will cost around 1000 a ticket, so 5 grand for us all to go, unless we happen to find a sweet deal.
Why is it that THREE different people in our family (and extended considered family) have decided that they have to get married while we are in Germany and that we are ****heads if we don't come back for their weddings....
I don't get it, my family was reasonable the last time we lived here. I was supposed to be in Shona's wedding, but as soon as we knew we were moving to Germany she let me out of it. She never once tried to make me feel guilty, or acted like I should be able to afford to be there. She knew we wanted to be, but it just wasn't going to happen.
Jim's brother is getting married in June. He wants Jim to be the best man. We explained last summer (he was already engaged) that if he really wanted us to all be there then he better do it before we moved to Germany. He chose not to. Then we explained that the only one of us coming to the wedding would be Jim, and then only if he could get off. That was fine then, but now we are hearing how if we loved them we would come. 5000! I don't have that, I mean please we want to be there but That's Jim's salary for 2+ months. Oh, and they offered to pay for 1 of the 5 tickets, sorry that really doesn't make it possible.
My friend Jen is getting married in October and wants Tessa and I both to be in the wedding. She is going to pay for one of the two tickets so that we can be there. Which is good, assuming that I can find someone here to keep the other two kids. If not I'm not sure we will make it.
So we get an email from Jim's sister this weekend. She and her guy are getting engaged and she wants Jim to give her away and me to be the maid of honor. Great... except she says she wants to get married in the next year, and she WONT do it if we can't be there.
So if we actually tried to make all these people happy we would be spending around 15,000 on plane tickets in the next year, and that not including hotels, food, clothes etc.
Please get married, have a wonderful life... let me buy you a present, but don't make it to where we feel guilty if we don't come to your damn weddings!!! We live in GERMANY!
Anyway I guess they all think that Jim is this high payed military soldier who can afford to make all these trips. Jim will be at his brother's wedding, if the Army lets him go. We won't be. I will be at Jen's wedding in October, hopefully with just Tessa since she's buying. As for his sister's wedding... I hope that he waits awhile to propose so I can save up. I just want to smack these people!
Let me explain... we live in Germany. To go back to the states will cost around 1000 a ticket, so 5 grand for us all to go, unless we happen to find a sweet deal.
Why is it that THREE different people in our family (and extended considered family) have decided that they have to get married while we are in Germany and that we are ****heads if we don't come back for their weddings....
I don't get it, my family was reasonable the last time we lived here. I was supposed to be in Shona's wedding, but as soon as we knew we were moving to Germany she let me out of it. She never once tried to make me feel guilty, or acted like I should be able to afford to be there. She knew we wanted to be, but it just wasn't going to happen.
Jim's brother is getting married in June. He wants Jim to be the best man. We explained last summer (he was already engaged) that if he really wanted us to all be there then he better do it before we moved to Germany. He chose not to. Then we explained that the only one of us coming to the wedding would be Jim, and then only if he could get off. That was fine then, but now we are hearing how if we loved them we would come. 5000! I don't have that, I mean please we want to be there but That's Jim's salary for 2+ months. Oh, and they offered to pay for 1 of the 5 tickets, sorry that really doesn't make it possible.
My friend Jen is getting married in October and wants Tessa and I both to be in the wedding. She is going to pay for one of the two tickets so that we can be there. Which is good, assuming that I can find someone here to keep the other two kids. If not I'm not sure we will make it.
So we get an email from Jim's sister this weekend. She and her guy are getting engaged and she wants Jim to give her away and me to be the maid of honor. Great... except she says she wants to get married in the next year, and she WONT do it if we can't be there.
So if we actually tried to make all these people happy we would be spending around 15,000 on plane tickets in the next year, and that not including hotels, food, clothes etc.
Please get married, have a wonderful life... let me buy you a present, but don't make it to where we feel guilty if we don't come to your damn weddings!!! We live in GERMANY!
Anyway I guess they all think that Jim is this high payed military soldier who can afford to make all these trips. Jim will be at his brother's wedding, if the Army lets him go. We won't be. I will be at Jen's wedding in October, hopefully with just Tessa since she's buying. As for his sister's wedding... I hope that he waits awhile to propose so I can save up. I just want to smack these people!
to them. Next time someone pulls the "If you loved us, you'd come" card, tell them, "You know, you're right. I dislike you so much I'd rather stay here and have a roof over my head and food on my table than come to your wedding." Sheesh, some people...
Geez people grow up!
I don't know what to tell you, Heather. My family was the same way when I was in the military. My sister remained ticked off at me for years for not being in her wedding even though I was tdy to Egypt at the time. She said I could have gotten out of it if I really wanted to. What did she think I was a general? 
How would they feel if they were in your shoes?
