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post #1 of 13
2/18/07 at 10:30pm
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I know it's only been two weeks since my mom died, but I am surprised at how sad I am. With my dad, I don't remember being so sad initially. I think I was in shock because his death was so unexpected, and I had so much business to take care of, along with trying to comfort my mom, you know, I wasn't sad until about six months after he died. I just didn't have time to stop and think about how sad it was. Plus, I did it all, and I did it alone. I had little or no support, and no help, so I was very distracted.
But with my mom, it's different. I had more help and great support, and now there is no one to comfort but myself. I just don't know how to get over being so sad. Kyle says I need to give myself a break and take however long I need to grieve, but I hate crying every day and feeling so sad.
It doesn't help that just about every day since Angie went home, I have picked up the phone at least once to call my mom. That really makes me :
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post #2 of 13
2/18/07 at 11:16pm
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post #3 of 13
2/18/07 at 11:32pm
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post #4 of 13
2/18/07 at 11:50pm
Don't be so hard on yourself. It can take up to a year to work through your grief. I KWYM.... I still have times here and there that I start crying about my Mom. I remember getting ready to leave the hotel for her funeral and thinking to myself, "we have to get Mom". It's so hard. She was a major part of your life. Caring for her at the end of her life was a MAJOR thing. There is no way you can just "get over it". I'm right there with ya. And do not feel badly...my Dad's passing never had the effect that my Mom's did. I think a big part of it is that you now realize that it's just you... your last parent has gone and it's just you. It's a difficult realization.

I pray for peace for you. Let me know if you need anything.
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post #5 of 13
2/19/07 at 12:06am
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post #6 of 13
2/19/07 at 12:11am
I was going to suggest talking to Kim. She has been through pretty much the same as you have been hon.

It can take awhile to work through all our grief. We are all here for you in any way we can be. do what you need to do to work through it hon
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post #7 of 13
2/19/07 at 12:11am
Not a day goes by that I dont miss my dad or think of him or talk to him and he has been gone for 12 years. We were not even as close as you and your mom were.
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post #8 of 13
2/19/07 at 2:32am
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post #9 of 13
2/19/07 at 10:04am
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Thank you ladies for all the And Kim, I appreciate all the compassion and support. I am the only one of my friends (outside of BU) who has lost both parents. It's a hard thing to face, especially since I am 37. I know that there are people who have lost both parents at a much younger age--even here on BU--but what I am saying is that 37 is young to be parentless. I also think it stinks that my dad died at 54 and my mom at 64. Anyway, so far, I am not feeling overwhelmingly sad today, but it's only 8:00, and I have only been up for ten minutes!
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post #10 of 13
2/19/07 at 12:11pm
ghug:
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2/19/07 at 12:14pm
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2/19/07 at 12:18pm
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2/19/07 at 3:06pm
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