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post #1 of 10
3/23/07 at 5:00pm
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this morning, mother in law ad father in law talked to husband aboiut how they are mad that chace isnt sleeping on his own yet and how they are mad that we aren't using the bassinet they bought for us. like I HAVE SO MUCH HATRED FOR THEM right now....
like im sorrrry that i didnt put chace to sleep on ihs own in the beginning. but it was the ONLY way for me tog et any sleep and have him sleep next to me. and plus, babies dont use EVERYTHING they own.. i dont know what to do. and my stupid husband wont help me or defend me and its downright pissing me off.
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post #2 of 10
3/23/07 at 5:36pm
I don't have any good advice for you, all mine would involve murder and a shovel.

You need to talk to DH, the two of you need to be a united front. He needs to tell his parents that its your child and that things are fine how they are. If he's not going to stick up for you his parents are always going to nit pick.

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post #3 of 10
3/23/07 at 5:47pm
It really isn't their business how you raise him or what he sleeps in...as long as he's cared for properly, that's what matters. All my kids slept with us, and still do on occasion, and I don't think they're gonna be ruined for life!
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post #4 of 10
3/24/07 at 5:31am
Ditto what Becca and Mel said... No advice that doesn't involve violence. You need to let DH know how much this is bothering you. The girls sleep with us on occasion when they want to and we don't have other plans. It is not their decision its yours...
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post #5 of 10
3/24/07 at 11:05am
You need to talk to dh....he needs to be supportive of you. When his parents start up he really needs to step in and tell them to back off......
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post #6 of 10
3/26/07 at 10:47am
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Originally Posted by BeccaSueBoo
It really isn't their business how you raise him or what he sleeps in...as long as he's cared for properly, that's what matters. All my kids slept with us, and still do on occasion, and I don't think they're gonna be ruined for life!
AMEN! Emily still sleeps with us, but she hasn't always. She did sleep in her own bed for a while. It's just been since MIL moved in that she wanted to sleep with us again.
As I told a very nosey lady recently, Emily is MINE to raise. Chace is YOURS to raise.
When Em was a baby, I held her while she napped. A LOT of people gave me a hard time about it, and I finally got to the point where I told them this, "She is my baby, probably the only one I'll ever have. She's only going to be a baby for a short period of time, and I am going to hold her as much as I want. If that, in fact does make her spoiled rotten, then I'll gladly pay that price and deal with it when the time comes. Until then, I am going to hold her whenever I want and for however long I want, and that's my choice."
So, basically, tell your in-laws to BUTT OUT, Chace is your son, and you'll do what you think is best.
BIG to you.
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post #7 of 10
3/26/07 at 11:08am
DITTO, Tammy !!

Hon, if your Dh won't grow some balls, I'll guess you'll have to - and remind your MIL how badly it used to piss HER off when HER MIL second-guessed how she raised
her child(ren) !!
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post #8 of 10
3/26/07 at 11:54am
i agree with the other ladies!!
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post #9 of 10
3/27/07 at 7:17pm
I would tell you DMIL and DFIL (the D does not stand for Dear but for Damned) that as ther delicate sensibilties leave them so distraught at the sight of your home and your child that for their own sake you are banning them from both so they no longer get so upset.

You could also tell them that when their sensibilities have grown thicker skins and they are able to see your home and your child without having an attack of the vapours that you will reconsider your ban, but that at the first sign of vapours it will once again go into force, permanently.

This means that you will lose your MIL as a sounding board but that is what we are for after all.

Good Luck Hun
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post #10 of 10
3/30/07 at 10:19pm
Ohhh yeah.. I like that last response!!!
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