Don't know why this bothers me

Ok..my sil (Steve's bro's wife) and I get along but sometimes she irritates me. This is what is bothering me. We took her out to eat for her bday last Saturday evening. I told her the earliest we could meet them at a restaurant of her choice would be 6pm because Steve doesn't get home from work until 5pm and he freshens up (showers). She said that's fine and that she'd see us at Chevy's at 6pm. She asked me if it is ok if her friend Cindy and Cindy's boyfriend join us and I was fine with that. We got there on time. They got there before us BUT they had already ordered and were done eating by the time we got there!!!!!!! She said Cindy's boyfriend (I keep forgetting his name) had to leave early so they went ahead and ordered. Keep in mind they hang out with this couple ALL THE TIME!!! We are lucky to see Steve's bro and sil 5 times a year...which is sad considering we don't live that far apart. I thought it was VERY rude of them to do that. So then Steve and I felt rushed to eat because my sil wanted to go to the boat to play Blackjack. We didn't go with them. So we really only got to spend about 45 minutes with them...if that.

It just irritates the heck out of me because it always seems like they have a fixation of eating at 5:30pm. Everytime we try to get together with them she wants to eat at 5:30 and hesitates when I tell her we can't meet them until 6pm. Neither one of them have a health condition where they HAVE to eat at a certain time so I don't know what their problem is. She KNOWS Steve doesn't get home until 5pm.

I kind of wonder if she is unhappy since we haven't had them over to see the house yet. Heck, there are quite a few people who haven't seen our house yet. I'm just not ready for a whole bunch of people to come to our house yet. Last year was the year from Hades (my mom being sick and passing away and emotionally it was just a very bad year). Now I just quit school and I need time to catch up on house work and organizing. I want the house to look its best when I have them over! I'm willing to bet they really wish we would have them over for Easter. Well, I'm not ready yet!! I am willing to have just the two of them over for dinner...but I'm afraid they will say "Can Cindy and her boyfriend come?" I just want a nice dinner with JUST the two of them at least once. Again..don't get me wrong. I like Cindy and her boyfriend. They are very nice people. But Steve and I always feel like third wheels when they are around. And I have no place in telling my sil they can't hang out with us.

I told Steve (and he agrees) that I feel that his bro and sil treat us more like acquaintences than family. They would rather have Cindy and her boyfriend out on their boat than us. We only get to go on their boat once a year. They are on that thing ALL the time when it is nice!!

I just can't figure out why they don't treat us like family. We have done nothing wrong.

Ok..I'm fine now. I just had to get that off my chest.

Yes...we paid for my sil's meal..but she and Steve's bro actually ordered one thing to share so we ended up really paying for both my bil and sil. That was fine because we didn't get to take my bil out for his birthday last October.

That is what we do...we take each other out for our birthdays. So in June they'll pay for mine and Steve's meal.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it was rude. If Cindy's boyfriend had to leave early, why didn't he order by himself (or him and Cindy) and then my bil and sil could have waited until Steve and I got there. I could have never done that to them.