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Ok, so I am filling out adoption paperwork and I thought I'd ask y'all....

post #1 of 9
4/30/07 at 11:55pm
Thread Starter 
A few of these questions (out of thousands ) are a little tough so I thought I would post them and see what y'all would say.

1) What do you think is a good parent/child relationship?


2) What is your basic child rearing philosophy? (oh, my favorite...)

Ok, let em rip, I need to finish by our social worker visit on Wednesday.....
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post #2 of 9
5/1/07 at 12:05am
I think a good parent child relationship is loving but firm. I am the parent not the friend. When he's an adult then I can be his friend. Until then it's my job to get him there in one piece and as happy and healthy as possible

Our philosophy is that we believe in manners, discipline and consistency. I don't believe in spanking since I don't know how I should expect Gabe to know not to hit someone else if it's okay that I hit him.
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post #3 of 9
5/1/07 at 3:14am
Hey... didn't know you were going for adoption again (this is the second time right?)... I need to remember that so when we go back to the states I can get pointers from you.

Okay I think my answers fits both questions really.
A good parent/child relationship should be open but firm. It isn't my job to be my childs best friend, but they need to feel comfortable enough to tell me anything. My job is to get them thru childhood in one piece, happy, healthy and whole. I try to teach them the right thing to do, and give them the guidance that they need to grow up to be productive adults. Positive reinforcement for good behaviors are a key. When neccesary I do discipline my children with time outs and the removal of items they consider important. Children need to learn that actions have consequences, good and bad. That being said I want my girls to know that they can always come to me with anything, and I will listen. Honesty, is a key in our relationship, and the girls know that punishments will be lightened if they are the ones that tell me about a behavior, rather than me discovering it. This is to reinforce the policy of Honesty.

That's probobaly too long... But a basic overview
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post #4 of 9
5/1/07 at 9:13am
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Yes, this will be our second adoption.

Liz, I agree, ya think you do it once, you should be good for awhile, but apparently not. This time I even have to get physicals for the kids! Anyway, thanks for the answers, it helps!
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post #5 of 9
5/1/07 at 9:28am
Dana... It should still be good from last time, I have to agree...

Liz, I bet they would give you all the kids you want, you are a great Mom!
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post #6 of 9
5/1/07 at 9:32am
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Heather, don't lie to Liz, we need to be honest with her. No one in their right mind would give her a child.
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post #7 of 9
5/1/07 at 9:40am
I know everything will go wonderfully for you. Do you have details yet? I'm so excited for you!
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post #8 of 9
5/1/07 at 1:29pm
Well, I definitely don't want to try to answer since I am having so many proplem with Drew right now! LOL! But I am sure that everything will well. You are such a wondeful parent and I'm sure they will see that!
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post #9 of 9
5/1/07 at 3:44pm
Brenda, just because you are having issues with Drew doesn't make you a bad parent...

lol Dana....
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