My mom made my sister and me co-executrixes of her estate three years ago when she drew up her will. Had I realized then what she had done, I would have told her NOT to do that. Well, I have been to see an attorney about getting the will probated. I need to close out a bank account of my mom's that is in her name only, and I have to have the will probated to do it. I need access to the money so that I can pay off medical bills and other bills related to her house.
There is a clause in the will that states that Angie and I can act on the behalf of each other if one of is unable or unwilling to carry out the duties of executrix. The attorney said that since Angie is in CALIFORNIA and Mom's estate and I are in GEORGIA that it would be easier if Angie renunciated and let me handle everything. I called and talked to Angie about that. She jokingly said she wasn't sure, but then said it was fine and to go ahead and do the paperwork.
I met with the attorney, and during our meeting, I asked him what would happen if Angie didn't renunciate. He said that would (A) Be incredibly stupid and (B) make things complicated for no good reason. He told me to have her call him if she had any questions or reservations, and that he would tell her that doing this isn't about me trying to get anything over on her, it's about convenience and expedience, and that we would provide her with an accounting of the entire estate and how everything was liquidated.
After that meeting, TWO WEEKS AGO, I called her right after I left the attorney's office and asked if she was going to renunciate or if she had any reservations. No, she didn't mind doing it, she said.
I found out this morning that she got the paperwork. SHE IS NOT GOING TO RENUNCIATE. She would not tell me why, simply saying, "We need to do it the way Mom wanted us to do it." (FIRST OF ALL she and I have said time and time again how silly it is to say, "(insert deceased person's name here) would have wanted it this way." HELLOOO they are dead, do you think they care what we are doing here on Earth? Uh, no!
Finally, she said that she felt "nixed" because she got the package from the attorney and it said he was representing me.
??????
Then, she said that I had been leaving her out of the decisions about my mom's house. I proved to her that that was not true, thankfully, I have had witnesses whenever I have talked to the real estate agent about offers that have come in, and they have all heard me say, "Let me talk to Angie first before we decide anything or counter their offer." She finally admitted that I had not excluded her, but then FINALLY after she had hung up on me and I called her back and she acted like a total sanctimonious
she said that she thought I would make all the deals, sell everything off, and then tell her after it was all said and done, so she feels she has to stay involved in order to have a say. 
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I have assured her and told her time and time again, regardless, with or without the renunciation, she will be involved, and I have told her I would NEVER make a decision without consulting her, whether I HAD to or not. She finally had to admit that she didn't believe me. I am just hurt, and I have cried and cried. I am an honest and trustworthy person, but my sister doesn't think so.
Now I know why she HAS to come here that week in June. She keeps saying, I'll be there in two weeks and we'll probate the will then. SEE? It all makes sense. Never mind that I have stuff to do myself that week, like tutor, VBS, and getting ready for my trip. OH NO. She has a plan.
I just talked to the attorney and told him that I want to renunciate. He said that we REALLY need someone here to help with all of this. I said, "Fine, you have her number, call her and tell her to put HER life on hold and get her BUTT here."
I don't get it. I am good enough to sit by my mom and watch her suffer, listen to her BEG for her life, I am good enough to do all the physical work, it's fine for me to put my life on hold for the vast majority of THREE years, but I can't be trusted to handle this? WHATEVER.
And you know, who has not been honest here? Who hasn't been communicating? She ambushed me with this today, and obviously she has felt this way for a few weeks now.
I AM THROUGH WITH HER. She can come here and visit. That's fine. But I won't invite her back for a long time, if ever, and I won't go to her house. I am DONE. I can only take so much SH*T before I have my fill, and I am more than full. In fact, this might be causing an overflow. I have so had it.
There is a clause in the will that states that Angie and I can act on the behalf of each other if one of is unable or unwilling to carry out the duties of executrix. The attorney said that since Angie is in CALIFORNIA and Mom's estate and I are in GEORGIA that it would be easier if Angie renunciated and let me handle everything. I called and talked to Angie about that. She jokingly said she wasn't sure, but then said it was fine and to go ahead and do the paperwork.
I met with the attorney, and during our meeting, I asked him what would happen if Angie didn't renunciate. He said that would (A) Be incredibly stupid and (B) make things complicated for no good reason. He told me to have her call him if she had any questions or reservations, and that he would tell her that doing this isn't about me trying to get anything over on her, it's about convenience and expedience, and that we would provide her with an accounting of the entire estate and how everything was liquidated.
After that meeting, TWO WEEKS AGO, I called her right after I left the attorney's office and asked if she was going to renunciate or if she had any reservations. No, she didn't mind doing it, she said.
I found out this morning that she got the paperwork. SHE IS NOT GOING TO RENUNCIATE. She would not tell me why, simply saying, "We need to do it the way Mom wanted us to do it." (FIRST OF ALL she and I have said time and time again how silly it is to say, "(insert deceased person's name here) would have wanted it this way." HELLOOO they are dead, do you think they care what we are doing here on Earth? Uh, no!
Finally, she said that she felt "nixed" because she got the package from the attorney and it said he was representing me.
??????Then, she said that I had been leaving her out of the decisions about my mom's house. I proved to her that that was not true, thankfully, I have had witnesses whenever I have talked to the real estate agent about offers that have come in, and they have all heard me say, "Let me talk to Angie first before we decide anything or counter their offer." She finally admitted that I had not excluded her, but then FINALLY after she had hung up on me and I called her back and she acted like a total sanctimonious
she said that she thought I would make all the deals, sell everything off, and then tell her after it was all said and done, so she feels she has to stay involved in order to have a say. s:I have assured her and told her time and time again, regardless, with or without the renunciation, she will be involved, and I have told her I would NEVER make a decision without consulting her, whether I HAD to or not. She finally had to admit that she didn't believe me. I am just hurt, and I have cried and cried. I am an honest and trustworthy person, but my sister doesn't think so.
Now I know why she HAS to come here that week in June. She keeps saying, I'll be there in two weeks and we'll probate the will then. SEE? It all makes sense. Never mind that I have stuff to do myself that week, like tutor, VBS, and getting ready for my trip. OH NO. She has a plan.
I just talked to the attorney and told him that I want to renunciate. He said that we REALLY need someone here to help with all of this. I said, "Fine, you have her number, call her and tell her to put HER life on hold and get her BUTT here."
I don't get it. I am good enough to sit by my mom and watch her suffer, listen to her BEG for her life, I am good enough to do all the physical work, it's fine for me to put my life on hold for the vast majority of THREE years, but I can't be trusted to handle this? WHATEVER.
And you know, who has not been honest here? Who hasn't been communicating? She ambushed me with this today, and obviously she has felt this way for a few weeks now.
I AM THROUGH WITH HER. She can come here and visit. That's fine. But I won't invite her back for a long time, if ever, and I won't go to her house. I am DONE. I can only take so much SH*T before I have my fill, and I am more than full. In fact, this might be causing an overflow. I have so had it.
and the following week? I am on vacation. That will NOT be changed.
People get ugly when money is involved. 
or something ridiculous like that!
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So, true, Lenora!
Does she ALWAYS have to be so difficult. I mean for pity's sake your mom died, have some compassion for the situation.
