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Steve's SIL strikes again!!!!

post #1 of 19
6/10/07 at 8:48pm
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There I am cooking dinner this evening. I get a phone call from Steve's sil. I couldn't get away from what I was cooking on the stove so I called her back (thanks to caller ID since she didn't leave a message). She wanted to know if we wanted to go out to dinner. I told her I had already started making dinner. I asked her how about next Saturday night..she said they will be out on their boat (didn't invite me). I told her about how Steve can't take off for my bday so I'll be spending it alone due to his stupid employer. They won't let him off on Saturdays. He has vacation days but can't seem to take them. Anyways...

So she said how about having your dinner tomorrow night. I thought she meant to go out tomorrow night. I ran downstairs with the phone and asked Steve if he wanted to go out to eat tomorrow night and he said fine. She said "No, I meant save the dinner you are making now for tomorrow night and go out tonight". WHAT???? I don't think so!!! First of all, if she wanted to go out tonight she should have called us earlier today or even better...she should have called us YESTERDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They do things at THEIR convenience. Forget what we are doing...like we are suppose to drop what we are doing at the last minute and go out with them. That is a bunch of bull!!! Especially after she pulled that stunt in March when they ate without us at the restaurant at her bday dinner!!!!

So she decided well maybe we can go out tomorrow night and so we are going out sometime after Steve's bro gets home.

Why do some people have to be such ditwads?????
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post #2 of 19
6/11/07 at 12:04pm
Sorry you ended up so upset. That's miserable.

I totally agree, Liz.... we never really celebrate adult birthdays in our house, either. If we happen to be able to have dinner out, it's all good.

We are hugely "spur of the moment" people too. Like yesterday.... some of our friends just called us up and wanted us to meet them over on the Mississippi River for the afternoon (boat ride w/stop on the beach), so we just went.

So, perhaps your SIL wasn't actually TRYING to tick you off, maybe she's just a spontaneous airhead like me?
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post #3 of 19
6/11/07 at 1:41pm
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post #4 of 19
6/11/07 at 3:11pm
I am the same way! I rarely plan things ahead of time and if I get invited spur of the moment, I usually take off and go. Somehow, it just seems that things never seem to work out when they are planned so I just avoid that altogether. Glad to know that there are more "me's" in the world. If that does not work for you, then i would not stress out about it. Just don't go. Trust me, I know that I can't help that I am like that and I seriously never see me changing it.......she could be the same way.
And for my birthday....I am DONE having birthdays. We only celebrate it because the girls make a big deal about it. I do not want the reminder that I am getting OLD. (The only thing that makes it ok is that I know that Dana will always be OLDER :
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post #5 of 19
6/11/07 at 3:19pm
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I can be spontaneous but just wouldn't have the gumpf to ask someone to put their dinner making on hold to go out. We would have went last night if I wasn't in the middle of making dinner. But if I already have dinner plans I just don't drop them.

As far as birthdays go, life is too precious to not celebrate them so it's pretty important to me. That is why I made an effort to make sure Steve had a good bday...even though we celebrated it a few days early. We don't have any children so we just use our birthdays to have fun.
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post #6 of 19
6/11/07 at 4:15pm


My DH could care less about birthdays. He finds them unimportant and says they are just another day of the year. It always hurt my feelings, and now that we have kids, it really ticks me off. I try very hard to make their birthdays special despite my DH.
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post #7 of 19
6/11/07 at 4:32pm
Hmm... We aren't spontaneous anymore, cuz of the kiddos. Billy is a nazi when it comes to making plans for stuff.... But before kids, plans were never a big deal. And birthdays for grownups are just dinner, I mean what's to celebrate, wrinkles?!?!? Oh and I will pick dinner out over dirtying my kitchen in a heartbeat. Sorry, I got carried away....
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post #8 of 19
6/11/07 at 5:07pm
I have kids and I STILL think my and my DH's birthdays are important. And so does he. We may not go all out like we do for the kids' but we still make sure that it's a special day for us. We are big on birthdays being family days and always do something as a family, whether it's going somewhere or having a movie night at home.

As for what your SIL did . . . I agree with you that she's thoughtless simply because of what she did the last time you went out to dinner with her. And if I'm in the middle of cooking dinner I don't just throw it in the fridge for the next day either just because someone decided they'd be spontaneous. But I wouldn't stress over it, just tell them I couldn't go but hopefully can the next time they call. Heck, I'd probably invite them over to my house for dinner!
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post #9 of 19
6/11/07 at 5:19pm
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Maryland, I definitely would have had them over for dinner if I made enough but wasn't prepared.

Dana...you crack me up. I definitely don't celebrate wrinkles...just celebrate being young at heart. Oh...and I definitely will not be cooking on my bday. Steve won't cook...but I wouldn't want him too. I like my kitchen too much. I don't need a fire in it. Plus I like my life too much to lose it to food not cooked right. (not that he would cause a fire or do bad with cooking...just trying to be funny )
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post #10 of 19
6/11/07 at 8:12pm
I think it's respectful to give someone a little more notice than calling at dinner time. I probably would have declined as well.

Around here we make a big deal out of everyones birthday. Life is short and we love any chance to get together and have fun.
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post #11 of 19
6/11/07 at 8:33pm
I agree that a bit more notice would be nice. I however have been caught making dinner and then Kev tells me we have other plans. I've tossed food in the fridge to eat the next day. (But thats more of premade plans that the wife wasn't informed of)

As for birthdays - I just like to do somethiong as a family. No biggie (although the girls like to make a big deal out of it)
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post #12 of 19
6/11/07 at 8:34pm
Oh and Jen,


I am 27 years old, I have no idea what you are talking about me being older??
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post #13 of 19
6/12/07 at 2:32am
yea i understand what u mean, my husband loves throwing out of the blue bbqs inviting our neighbors, at first it urks me but than i enjoy their company. dinner.. i love going out to dinner, i hope u guys get to celebrate ur bday with something at least
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post #14 of 19
6/12/07 at 5:20am
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I have kids and I STILL think my and my DH's birthdays are important.
No one said that birthdays WERE NOT IMPORTANT. There are just a lot of people stating that they don't get their noses out of joint if they didn't have the "PERFECT" birthday.
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post #15 of 19
6/12/07 at 9:00am
We do last minute stuff all the time. There have been times that I have started cooking and put it in the fridge for the next night because someone called. Hell, I don't cook wery well, and any invitation to eat something else is tempting. (I can bake the most complicated desserts, but I can't cook worth a damn. Go figure...)
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post #16 of 19
6/12/07 at 9:18am
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I don't get my "nose out of joint" if I don't have the perfect bday...I just want to do something on my bday. I'm not picky.

If people don't care if their bday is celebrated that is up to them. I just happen to like to celebrate my bday and Steve's birthday. It gives me something to look forward to besides the usual holidays. Steve and I had fun going to see the movie Shrek together for his bday and then I took him out shopping and bought him some new clothes and a DVD (he picked Talladega Nights).
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post #17 of 19
6/12/07 at 11:07am
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I don't get my "nose out of joint" if I don't have the perfect bday...I just want to do something on my bday. I'm not picky.
Umm... I'm truly sorry that comment upset you, Cheryl..... but I wasn't quoting you. I was just trying to make a point to the person that implied that birthdays weren't important to some of us. I was just trying to state that we do think birthdays are important but we are more comfortable with "whatever" for the adult birthdays.

Sorry the wording upset you...it was 3:20 am and I was sleep deprived! Sorry!
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post #18 of 19
6/12/07 at 11:40am
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I'm sorry I took that the wrong way Kim

I never heard that phrase ("getting your noses out of joint") so it kind of cracked me up.
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post #19 of 19
6/12/07 at 12:44pm
We don't celebrate birthdays here either because I think everyone is sick of me turning 25 over and over and OVER again!!! Oh and if DH does nothing for my birthday, then 12 days later I dont forget what I got and give him the same.

Instead of nose out of joint we say "dont get your panties in a wad".

I am a procastinator and if some one calls me for last minute plans I would drop what I was doing and go.
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