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post #1 of 6
7/31/07 at 2:04pm
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This is a copy of the list of items my MIL got from her sister and neice for her help at her wedding. They asked her for her help... I need your ladies expertise to beak this down and let me know who really should be doing these direct things, like florist/hall personel ect... No joke this is what she got. Now remember my MIL is 58 years old.

Auntie Sue’s Responsibilities

Pin Cathy’s bra down !! Please

Pin Buttoners on groomsmen & corsages on wearers

Remove bride and bridesmaid stuff from bride’s room at church; if they don’t have time to do that….

Collect necessary items from church and take to Jansen’s after wedding….Touch base with Connie Jansen when you arrive for *placements

·Take Cathy’s tonic to the bar
·Guest Book
·Alter Flowers
·Vestibule flowers
·Unity Candle
·Pew bows
·Champaign flutes
·Cake knife set at cake
·Light candles on cake table if not lit.

Take a photo of the reception hall before guests arrive

Act as greeter at the reception pointing guests to….
Place card table; gift & card box table; Restrooms & Refreshments

KEEP AN EYE ON THE CARD BOX so it doesn’t grow legs

End of evening… with help of all available…take the following items from the hall

Champaign flutes; cake knife set; guest book
Vases at the head table; Centerpieces from round tables; pink fabric; candles
Mirrors; Floral arrangements: pew bows
Banner; Card Box & gifts

All into Big Blue Van

ALL DAY LONG…HAVE FUN

TAKE SOME PICTURES…IF YOU CAN TO THAT AND STILL HAVE FUN…!!!

And as always…thank you for your help and Love
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post #2 of 6
7/31/07 at 2:19pm
Is that all for ONE person to do? That seems like a lot...and have fun IF YOU CAN?! WTH is that?


At Mike's Best friend's wedding I did a lot.

I made sure the florist got their with flowers for the bride, bride's maids the groom and grooms men, grandparents, and parents. I made sure everyone got the right flowers too.

I made sure all the ushers knew what to do and when to do it.

I read a piece during the ceremony.

I ran interference between bride and groom beforehand (she was getting ready in the basement of the church with the only bathroom so she had to hide if the groom needed to come down).

I took pictures during the ceremony.

At the hall I did NOTHING except take pictures during the cake cutting.

That list needs to be split up between some "special" people. It doesn't have to be any one specific but that's TOO much. I was frazzled by the end of the ceremony and glad to have no more responsibilities. That's not fair to one or two people to not have fun unless they are PAID PROFESSIONALS! That's what you have a photographer for.
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post #3 of 6
7/31/07 at 2:27pm
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Thank you!!!

I am floored!
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post #4 of 6
7/31/07 at 2:35pm
I agree! That sure is alot for anyone to do!
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post #5 of 6
7/31/07 at 3:59pm
that seems like a lot for one person to do.....especially one who is 58.....I think a lot of that should fall on a younger...IMMEDIATE member of the family (like sibling not in wedding party)
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post #6 of 6
7/31/07 at 5:54pm
I was just in a wedding in June and it was a big, extravagent wedding but a lo tof htese things were done by the staff at the places.

The florist should arrange the flowers and take care of the girls stuff if the things are delivered to the bride right before the wedding. The stuff delivered to the church should be done by the florist or by the med at the church.

You deliver all the stuff to the reception site the day before or morning of...cake cutter, candles, etc. They set it all up. It's what you pay for.

As far as bringing all that stuff to the reception from the church...have her get a few friends to do it. Not someone who is an important family member.

Greeting at the reception....again, enlist a friend or a few friends to do it. People aren't idiots...they can find their way around a wedding reception. And it's sad that someone should watch the card box. In the northeast it's traditional for the bride and groom to circulate through the reception with a bride's bag (small and lacy) and collect cards and they greet their guests. There is also a card box or mailbox type thing where cards can be placed. Maybe she can to the bride's bag thing and hold onto the cards herself.

Oh, if there is a limo driver, enlist him to help. Ours was more than happy to move our stuff--bags, purses, extra shoes, etc.
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