So Frustrated!!

Make her complete the project anyway wether she gets school credit for it or not and make her add an extra couple of pages for good measure. She will have plenty of time on Friday night to complete it. If she has already taken it to school completed on friday (I've just remembered the time difference) then could you maybe contact her teacher and ask her to set Haley another assignment she can do on friday night to drive the point home that not only has she missed the dance because of her poor homework habits she now has to do extra homework while she misses out.

If the teacher won't set her an extra assignment (I realise that it is very short notice for the poor teacher) then maybe you could give her an assignment to do at that time.

Since this isn't the first time she has done this, there would have been no way I would have taken her to the library last night. But now that she left it, I would make her finish it and take it in anyway. Then I would take away whatever privledges she's got left. If you don't do something big, it will just get worse, IMO....

My suggestion requires a lot of work on your part, but it does indeed drive the message home. It was something we were taught in my parenting class years ago. We did a modified version with Josh years ago(I left him his books), and I will tell you...he has forgetful moments but nothing like before, and if it starts a trend all I have to say is"well, if it's so hard to be responsible for all that, I might just have to "help" you out again" and that boy gets his act together. I will say this is a hideous pain in the @ss for the parent and if you won't stick to it, don't start it because then they "win" and you will be in deep do-do.

You take away everything! And I do mean everything. Strip her entire room...leave her a bed with blankets and pillows...that is it...no clothes,books,toys,electronics...NOTHING. If possible it was suggested we even take the bedroom door off. You sit her down and explain that since she can't be responsible for the things she needs to be responsible for you are making it easy for her so she doesn't have to worry about the "other" stuff and can concentrate on her work. Explain that YOU will choose her clothes, books, and activities...all she needs to concentrate on is her school work. and chores. Explain that when you start to see improvement she will start to earn back the other stuff.

Then you do it. choose her clothes....the plainest ones, not her favorites so her "fashion doesn't distract her"....when she has free time, give her an activity(video game, book,phone privlages,ipod, etc) for ONLY that free time, then take it back....etcetera
After you see real progress for about two weeks, you give her something backl You have to be very patient and only give something (one thing at a time) back when you see real progress....if she screws up you take it away again. This will take...weeks...maybe months....depending on how stubborn she wants to be. I think after the first two weeks Josh started earning about one thing back every couple days.

Like I said...not for the faint-of-heart, but everyone I know who has done it and stuck with it has had awesome results.

Because, for whatever reason, she didn't finish it, and now she can tell her teacher that she forgot it, rather than telling her the truth, which is she waited until the absolute last minute, found the report was a lot of work, and became overwhelmed and didn't finish it. That would be my guess, based on my experience in the classroom.
I agree that she has to finish the report even if she will get little or no credit for it at this point.

I don't know what you have and haven't tried but have you tried talking to the teacher and having her e-mail you your DD's assignments so that you'll know when she has a project or report or simply everyday homework that is due? That way you'll know what your DD needs to do well before it's due and can prode her along to get it done.

My oldest is only 7 and he hasn't had that many projects or "extra" stuff outside daily homework and for that his teacher sends home a weekly parents' letter with what is being done in class and what is due on what day so we'll know. Maybe something like that would help you. But don't rely on your daughter to bring it home to you, ask her teacher to e-mail it to you if possible.

Sounds like maybe she needs someone to help her break down her projects and reports into smaller steps (so she can work on them a little each day) so that it's not too overwhelming to her and she'll be more likely to get them done on time.