OK—Not sure where to start with this.
My inlaws were here for Labor Day. We had a nice visit. Probably the best visit we’ve had with them since they moved to Louisiana. No pressure to move down there. No comments on our parenting techniques. Just a nice visit. Well, the day they left, they brought up the issue of coming back when the baby was born. Bob told them that was fine, but we are making the spare room into the baby’s room, and we don’t have a place for them to sleep. Plus, we will have my parents here, too. My mom wasn’t able to be there for Jonathan’s birth, and if her health is OK, she is going to be there this time. We don’t have room for everybody. We don’t have beds for everybody. If they want to come, they will have to stay in a hotel. FIL said that was fine. They would come and take care of Jonathan while I was in the hospital (take him back and forth to school, etc.) and give Bob time to take care of me and be at the hospital with me if I needed something.
Well, as time has gone on, Bob and his dad have talked about things, and we just assumed that this was still going to be the plan. They would come up for the delivery and stay in a hotel for a week and then go home. The same with my parents. His parents have been really kind of pushy about trying to find out when my surgery date was going to be, and until this week, I really didn’t know. My doctor has been waiting to see how my health would pan out before he scheduled a date. Well, yesterday he said the 26th or 27th, barring any problems. Well, MIL calls today and tells me that she is being pressured by her boss to give them her vacation schedule, and wants to know if they’ve scheduled my surgery. I told her the dates, and she said “Well, that’s after Thanksgiving, and we thought it was going to be the week of Thanksgiving.” Well, Thanksgiving is a little early this year. They wanted to come for Thanksgiving and stay through the birth. So, they wanted to know why we didn’t schedule it for that week. Well, I don’t really want to have the baby too early. They can come and stay as long as they want. It doesn’t matter when I have the baby. I told her it was up to her. My parents were waiting to schedule their trip until they could find out when the inlaws would be here. MIL and FIL could come any time they wanted, but how long they wanted to stay would depend on how much they could afford for their hotel. Well, she freaked out. She said they were planning on staying with us and they couldn’t afford a hotel because of how much the Ohio house was costing them (yeah, it’s still on the market). WHERE are they gonna stay? We don’t have any beds, and we’ve already got baby stuff in the extra room. Her idea… On an air mattress in our living room, apparently. I told her that this was news to me, and that I had been led to believe all along that everybody was staying in a hotel. I didn’t know they planned to be here for Thanksgiving, and that I really didn’t plan on having 8 people in my house. So, MIL was ticked off that I was expecting them to stay in a hotel. She also seems to be upset that my mom is planning to be here and doesn’t want to be here at the same time.
I called DH and told him I thought that I’d upset his mom. I didn’t mean to, but it was obvious that what he and his dad had been discussing was NOT what his mom thought was going on. SO, he wasn't too happy, but said he'd deal with it. So, I guess now he has to call and talk to his dad and tell him what’s going on with mom.
I though that this was all figured out.
I know, I'm really hormonal right now, but I would just like everybody to get along and to be able to have some peace and privacy.
My inlaws were here for Labor Day. We had a nice visit. Probably the best visit we’ve had with them since they moved to Louisiana. No pressure to move down there. No comments on our parenting techniques. Just a nice visit. Well, the day they left, they brought up the issue of coming back when the baby was born. Bob told them that was fine, but we are making the spare room into the baby’s room, and we don’t have a place for them to sleep. Plus, we will have my parents here, too. My mom wasn’t able to be there for Jonathan’s birth, and if her health is OK, she is going to be there this time. We don’t have room for everybody. We don’t have beds for everybody. If they want to come, they will have to stay in a hotel. FIL said that was fine. They would come and take care of Jonathan while I was in the hospital (take him back and forth to school, etc.) and give Bob time to take care of me and be at the hospital with me if I needed something.
Well, as time has gone on, Bob and his dad have talked about things, and we just assumed that this was still going to be the plan. They would come up for the delivery and stay in a hotel for a week and then go home. The same with my parents. His parents have been really kind of pushy about trying to find out when my surgery date was going to be, and until this week, I really didn’t know. My doctor has been waiting to see how my health would pan out before he scheduled a date. Well, yesterday he said the 26th or 27th, barring any problems. Well, MIL calls today and tells me that she is being pressured by her boss to give them her vacation schedule, and wants to know if they’ve scheduled my surgery. I told her the dates, and she said “Well, that’s after Thanksgiving, and we thought it was going to be the week of Thanksgiving.” Well, Thanksgiving is a little early this year. They wanted to come for Thanksgiving and stay through the birth. So, they wanted to know why we didn’t schedule it for that week. Well, I don’t really want to have the baby too early. They can come and stay as long as they want. It doesn’t matter when I have the baby. I told her it was up to her. My parents were waiting to schedule their trip until they could find out when the inlaws would be here. MIL and FIL could come any time they wanted, but how long they wanted to stay would depend on how much they could afford for their hotel. Well, she freaked out. She said they were planning on staying with us and they couldn’t afford a hotel because of how much the Ohio house was costing them (yeah, it’s still on the market). WHERE are they gonna stay? We don’t have any beds, and we’ve already got baby stuff in the extra room. Her idea… On an air mattress in our living room, apparently. I told her that this was news to me, and that I had been led to believe all along that everybody was staying in a hotel. I didn’t know they planned to be here for Thanksgiving, and that I really didn’t plan on having 8 people in my house. So, MIL was ticked off that I was expecting them to stay in a hotel. She also seems to be upset that my mom is planning to be here and doesn’t want to be here at the same time.
I called DH and told him I thought that I’d upset his mom. I didn’t mean to, but it was obvious that what he and his dad had been discussing was NOT what his mom thought was going on. SO, he wasn't too happy, but said he'd deal with it. So, I guess now he has to call and talk to his dad and tell him what’s going on with mom.
I though that this was all figured out.I know, I'm really hormonal right now, but I would just like everybody to get along and to be able to have some peace and privacy.
It just irritates me that everybody else has their own agenda, and nobody checks with anybody else to make sure that the plans are all going to mesh.
