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Nutty mother & Thanksgiving...*sigh*

post #1 of 13
11/19/07 at 5:11am
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I am just not sure what to do about Thanksgiving. I am 35 weeks pregnant & the only family I have here is my mom, who we are sure has Borderline Personality Disorder. My pregnancy has been difficult this time around & my girls are only 5 & 7, so they can't really do much to help with making dinner.

I invited my mom about 3 weeks ago & she never gave me an answer. The last 2 years she has kind of snubbed us & gone to a neighbor's house for dinner rather than spending it with her only daughter & 2 granddaughters.

This year a very good friend has invited us to dinner because she doesn't want me to worry about making a huge meal & being on my feet in the kitchen all day. My mom has not said anything about it & every time she calls she is telling me about the stupid drama in her life & doesn't even ask how I am feeling or how the baby is.

My friend who has invited us to dinner is a very close friend (helped throw my shower last weekend)...her wonderful 21 year old son has a very serious cancer, is in his 10th month of his second round of chemo treatments & we would love to spend this holiday with them.

I don't really want to cook & clean the house...or spend the day with her bitching. I would like to spend a nice relaxing holiday with people who actually care about us & I am trying to figure out how to get out of it...

What are your opinions?
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post #2 of 13
11/19/07 at 9:11am
I wouldn't even think twice about it. Go be with your friend and her family! The last thing you need is to deal with all the drama!
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post #3 of 13
11/19/07 at 9:31am
Totally agree with Dawn!
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post #4 of 13
11/19/07 at 9:35am
I agree, GO!, I bet your friend needs you as much as you need her right now And if your Mum asks about Thanksgiving tell her the truth. She hadn't replyed to your invitation so you assumed she would be having thanksgiving with her neighbours again this year and your friend needs you.

Congratulations on your coming bundle of joy
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post #5 of 13
11/19/07 at 10:12am
I agree, go with your friend and have a wonderful relaxing time, before baby comes!
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post #6 of 13
11/19/07 at 10:17am
Absolutely have the holiday with your Friend and her family. They sound more like your family to me.

Your Mom can keep her drama.... you don't need that.
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post #7 of 13
11/19/07 at 10:44am
I agree... Go be with your friend, your Mom gave you no reply so you have no obligation given her past holiday
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post #8 of 13
11/19/07 at 3:03pm
go!
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post #9 of 13
11/19/07 at 3:51pm
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Thanks for all the input, Ladies! I just have to figure out how to deal with it to minimize the impact of her whining & guilt trips.

I have always said she is a travel agent for guilt trips...
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post #10 of 13
11/19/07 at 4:01pm
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Originally Posted by Lady Knight
I agree, GO!, I bet your friend needs you as much as you need her right now And if your Mum asks about Thanksgiving tell her the truth. She hadn't replyed to your invitation so you assumed she would be having thanksgiving with her neighbours again this year and your friend needs you.

Congratulations on your coming bundle of joy
As usual, Maree said it best!
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post #11 of 13
11/19/07 at 4:47pm
I agree, go have a worry free Thanksgiving!
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post #12 of 13
11/19/07 at 9:18pm
its unanomous! Your friend deserves and needs your company and you deserve and need to not host dinner!
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post #13 of 13
11/21/07 at 4:29am
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Well, Ladies...THANK YOU for your support. It is done. I gave my mom acoupleextra days todo...SOMETHING. Nope. Never heard anything. I called her & told her that since she didn't get back to me we went ahead & made other plans.

What did she say? "You never said to get back to you!" Um. How the hell am I supposed to know she was coming to dinner when she has spent the last 2 with someone else's family???

Fortunatly, that was actually the WORST of it...which surprised me. So she either already had other plans & just didn't bother to tell me or I just have to wait for the other shoe to drop. But knowing her, it will be both.

Thank you again for your advice & support!
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