My sil (the one from MO) was being so nice and now my siblings and I think she might be up to no good. She has been acting civil towards us but today she sent us an email trying to blame us for not paying one of the nursing home bills which we had no idea about until just recently. The original nursing home we had my parents in supposedly is trying to get $11,000 out of my brother. They hired a lawyer to look into it. They tried to get an itemized bill from the nursing home but the nursing home refuses to send it to them. So that is a battle they have been fighting. So today my sil emailed me and my siblings saying that this wouldn't have escalated if we split the bill when it was only $6,000. Um...WE DIDN'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!! Even if we did split it back then we wouldn't have been able to afford it! It would have been $1500!! Steve and I don't have that kind of money sitting around and neither do my siblings! Anytime they tried to make decisions they left us out so it is their fault they are in this mess.
My sil said that they are paying the lawyer $250 an hour...and I hope she doesn't try to make us pay for any of that because we didn't choose to hire a lawyer...they did. They never let us have any input on anything.
Today I found out from my bro in GA that at the funeral home our sil was telling one of our aunts how much they paid out of their own pocket for our parent's house taxes and how we didn't help chip in. First of all, they didn't ask. Second of all, again we do NOT have that kind of money sitting around. Steve and I don't have anything left over after all the bills are paid and plus...there are some bills that get paid late because we don't have the money at the time...since he doesn't make as much money as he use to. So, our sil is making us look like the bad guys. I am tempted to email my aunt and explain to her that the rest of us can not afford to help pay anything and that I hope she doesn't think we are slackers. Hard telling what else my sil told her.
So she is back into playing the blame game. Instead of blaming us, she and my bro need to take the furniture HE bought my parents when he was still living at home and sell that furniture to make up for what they had to pay in taxes on our parents house. Heck, he's the one that makes the most money in our family (I work for the same company he does and believe me he makes quite a bit of money since he's a mechanical engineer!! She cleans houses for rich folks so she makes some money too). They are the ones that go out and take these vacations a couple of times a year for a week or two and stay at nice hotels and see the sights. My other siblings and I are LUCKY if we get to go on a real vacation just for a few days with each other once a year.
My sil said that they are paying the lawyer $250 an hour...and I hope she doesn't try to make us pay for any of that because we didn't choose to hire a lawyer...they did. They never let us have any input on anything.
Today I found out from my bro in GA that at the funeral home our sil was telling one of our aunts how much they paid out of their own pocket for our parent's house taxes and how we didn't help chip in. First of all, they didn't ask. Second of all, again we do NOT have that kind of money sitting around. Steve and I don't have anything left over after all the bills are paid and plus...there are some bills that get paid late because we don't have the money at the time...since he doesn't make as much money as he use to. So, our sil is making us look like the bad guys. I am tempted to email my aunt and explain to her that the rest of us can not afford to help pay anything and that I hope she doesn't think we are slackers. Hard telling what else my sil told her.
So she is back into playing the blame game. Instead of blaming us, she and my bro need to take the furniture HE bought my parents when he was still living at home and sell that furniture to make up for what they had to pay in taxes on our parents house. Heck, he's the one that makes the most money in our family (I work for the same company he does and believe me he makes quite a bit of money since he's a mechanical engineer!! She cleans houses for rich folks so she makes some money too). They are the ones that go out and take these vacations a couple of times a year for a week or two and stay at nice hotels and see the sights. My other siblings and I are LUCKY if we get to go on a real vacation just for a few days with each other once a year.
. And it sounds like you and your other brother might look into what it would take to have an advocate to protect your interest(s) in the estate - make sure that will is followed TO THE LETTER, if you can. You might be able to get a paralegal to help you, or find some sort of free/cheap legal assistance.
My bro will get what is owed to him out of the estate plus out of the sale of the furniture he bought for my parents so we know they will end up fine in this whole deal. It's my sil who is overreacting and spreading rumors about us. My siblings and I have also decided not to email my aunt about this. She has known us much longer than she has known our sil. She might even feel awkward when our sil says stuff about us to her...so my sil is looking like the fool.
