OMG I am going to scream!!!!!!!!!!!

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Poor girl! I hope that you can stand your ground and not have her living with you! I have a feeling that if she moved in you would NEVER get rid of her! I hope she gets the hint and finds an apartment QUICK!

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Best of luck.

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i hope you can keep her out!

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i am so glad that I dont' have to deal with stuff like that

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You are NOT being selfish! DH needs to stand up for you and say "Mom I love you, our house isn't an alternative for you to live short or long term. We're going to help you look for somewhere safe and comfortable."

If she moves in you know it will place a strain on your marriage and everything else.

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I think you need to sit down with DH after teh kids are in bed and have a frank discussion on what this will do to you guys. Whether financially or emotionally (or both) Lay it all out on the line.

Kev & I have already said that we wouldn't let parents/inlaws move in. I would rather hekp them find a place than let them move in.

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No you are not being selfish. Your DH needs to put his foot down. He KNOWS that you don't want her to move in. He NEEDS to stop this now. He should NEVER have made any mention about moving the kids together so she could stay with you. NEVER. I would be kicking my DH's booty about now.

It is very unfair for her to expect you all to put your lives on hold for her. She is an adult. A failure to plan on HER part does NOT necessitate an emergency on your part. There are alternatives... she needs to seek them out.

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She NEEDS to do this. End of discussion.

Why are you worried if it "hurts your husband?" Evidently he never took your feelings into consideration or how much it will hurt YOU if she does move in. If your MIL is anything like mine, you know that woman will drag out her stay......


I'm sorry Mary Beth.... I don't mean to be mean...this just ticks me off (for you) on so many levels. Take care, K?

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I don't have any advice tyhat hasn't alrady been posted. But you sounded like you could use a hug!

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I don't know if she is still visiting you at night while you DH is at work but if she is I would make sure that the papers are waiting for her opened to the "To Let" section. Also I would be emailing a few of the local Real Estate Agency's or Rental Property Agency's (what ever you have over there) and getting them to email you a list of local vacancies in the area, print them out and have them sitting there for her too. (emails can be one email sent to multiple email addresses so you won't have to write a new one each time, and save it and just keep sending the darn thing out until you find her own little hell hole (oops I mean heavenly personal space of course )

I know that her daughter is supposed to be making room for her 'for now' but just in case that falls thru the plan is to let herr know that she is not staying with you, but she can't and complain because you are obviously going out of your way to help her find permanent personal accomodation.

Good luck and big

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Of course you could always try to play real nasty Get the kids to behave totally obnoxiously when she comes over, yelling, screaming, whining, pulling at Grandma's clothes, constantly whining "Grandma, you saw, he was baaaad" "Grandma, I want lollies, Grandma I want a present, Grandma I want ..........,Grandma I want .........., Grandma I want .........., Grandma I want .........., Grandma I want .........., Grandma I want ..........,"

After all, all families should have a family project A family that plays and works together, stays together Then again that might be just a little bit extreme, but it sounds like a great back up plan

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Let me just say, and I do believe I am an expert on this, since my MIL moved in with us over 2 years ago, if you feel this strongly about it, then do not budge. Once she is moved in, it's a done deal. Even if she says it's only temporary, that's a VAGUE term. What does temporary mean exactly--not forever? Well, how long does that REALLY MEAN? It could mean a few days, a few weeks, a few months, a few years, or who knows what! When my MIL came to live with us, it was an emergency situation, and we did not have the luxury of determining anything in advance. Then FIL up and died (totally unexpected), and here we are. Most days, I am fine with having her here. She does live in the basement, so we have our space and she has hers. BUT it was a huge adjustment, and we are still adjusting, two years later. If I had it to do over again, I can't honestly say what I would do, and I am certain she would say the same thing. And you know what? She and I had a really good relationship before she moved in. So, even when someone gets along well with an in-law, moving them into your home is tough. That's why I say, stand your ground. It would be different if she had absolutely no other options and would be homeless otherwise, but it sounds like she is capable of finding a place to live and supporting herself, she just doesn't want to. Also, you need to remind DH that his family is now you and your kids, and his mom comes secondary to that. I hope it all works out for you without heartache and grief. I know it is tough and nerve-wracking.

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oh ouch, im kinda going thru the semi same thing, cept MIL isnt getting divorced, which i think she should but thats not my business hah. but yah, gluck. keeping ur in my fully loaded prayers