heres a pre"info" for you guys.
my MIL,FIL, BIL, they are all VERY different from the way i was brought up. they are boorish, rude, joking people. now joking is fine... but their jokes involve (IN FRONT OF GUESTS IN THEIR HOME) "my wife is so old and her boobs are saggy" (FIL). like hello, that is awful. and FIL calls chace (my son) , dumbass and doofus, not as much now bc we had a talk with him (and he had the all "oh i dont know why thats a problem, attitude"). anyways, we havent seen them in 3-4 weeks, and they live 2 min away from us, mostly bc chace and i have both been sick, and about 3 months ago, i started having breathing problems. it would get to the point where i felt like iw asnt getting enough air, or when i took deep breaths, my chest felt like it was tight. my husband thought it was bc maybe i wasnt working out/exercising, but im right on weight with my height so the doctor crossed that out. the doctor then asked me to describe more of wat happens n how it feels. he then said that the onlyh thing that he thinks it could be is anxiety attks. now im not rlly too sure on the whole pyschology thing, but i didnt believe it. but the 3-4 weeks going without seeing my in laws, my breathing improved about 95%. my doctor thinks that my in laws set my attks off.
anyways, heres to the point.
I had tlaked to a cousin of my husbands. and she was complaining how this family (husband's side, her "husband's" side) was very ... gossipy. i mean they gossip about EVERYTHING> everything about anything/anyone is EVERYBODY's business. so i thought, hey, shes a young mom like me so she's safe to talk to (and she hates to gossip), so i opened up to her about how there were things that MIL n FIL does that bugs me but i NEVER said i hated them. and i added how much they have helped us mentally n physically in the past n that i know how much they love their grandchild. anyways i guess the lil bitch ended up being a gossiper like the rest of the family, bc now my in laws said they heard that i hate them, that i was complaining how they never helped, that they are horrible grandparents (only thing i can think of that i said that was close to that was "they are inappropriate with chace sometiems"), and that they dont love chace. like WTH...... i'm so aggravated, n i was in tears this morning when my husband told me. then i told him that i was gonna call his parents, let them know my side (hello, its like the game of TELEPHONE. always different at the end than it was at the beginning) and he said i shouldnt bc they had asked him to not tell me!!! WHY would they say that, HELLO, we are MARRIED.and then they said that im alienating brody(husband) from them and that they only wanna see their son and not me or chace.
WHAT DO I DO
i wanna call that lil miss b***** and just ask her why she twisted my words n why she said anything when she declared howmuch she HATES to gossip
and i wanna call my in laws, let them know my side of the story, whether they believe it or not and then just lead on with my life
i'm so agitated.
SORRY LONG POST
my MIL,FIL, BIL, they are all VERY different from the way i was brought up. they are boorish, rude, joking people. now joking is fine... but their jokes involve (IN FRONT OF GUESTS IN THEIR HOME) "my wife is so old and her boobs are saggy" (FIL). like hello, that is awful. and FIL calls chace (my son) , dumbass and doofus, not as much now bc we had a talk with him (and he had the all "oh i dont know why thats a problem, attitude"). anyways, we havent seen them in 3-4 weeks, and they live 2 min away from us, mostly bc chace and i have both been sick, and about 3 months ago, i started having breathing problems. it would get to the point where i felt like iw asnt getting enough air, or when i took deep breaths, my chest felt like it was tight. my husband thought it was bc maybe i wasnt working out/exercising, but im right on weight with my height so the doctor crossed that out. the doctor then asked me to describe more of wat happens n how it feels. he then said that the onlyh thing that he thinks it could be is anxiety attks. now im not rlly too sure on the whole pyschology thing, but i didnt believe it. but the 3-4 weeks going without seeing my in laws, my breathing improved about 95%. my doctor thinks that my in laws set my attks off.
anyways, heres to the point.
I had tlaked to a cousin of my husbands. and she was complaining how this family (husband's side, her "husband's" side) was very ... gossipy. i mean they gossip about EVERYTHING> everything about anything/anyone is EVERYBODY's business. so i thought, hey, shes a young mom like me so she's safe to talk to (and she hates to gossip), so i opened up to her about how there were things that MIL n FIL does that bugs me but i NEVER said i hated them. and i added how much they have helped us mentally n physically in the past n that i know how much they love their grandchild. anyways i guess the lil bitch ended up being a gossiper like the rest of the family, bc now my in laws said they heard that i hate them, that i was complaining how they never helped, that they are horrible grandparents (only thing i can think of that i said that was close to that was "they are inappropriate with chace sometiems"), and that they dont love chace. like WTH...... i'm so aggravated, n i was in tears this morning when my husband told me. then i told him that i was gonna call his parents, let them know my side (hello, its like the game of TELEPHONE. always different at the end than it was at the beginning) and he said i shouldnt bc they had asked him to not tell me!!! WHY would they say that, HELLO, we are MARRIED.and then they said that im alienating brody(husband) from them and that they only wanna see their son and not me or chace.
WHAT DO I DO
i wanna call that lil miss b***** and just ask her why she twisted my words n why she said anything when she declared howmuch she HATES to gossip
and i wanna call my in laws, let them know my side of the story, whether they believe it or not and then just lead on with my life
i'm so agitated.
SORRY LONG POST
