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Get this kid out of my bed!

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Hi Tracy!

Welcome to BabyU! We've been anxiously awaiting for your visit. Just wanted to thank you for joining us and sharing your expert advice! I wish that I had known about your book when my daughter was born 5 years ago (labeled colicky)!

I can't wait to review the video -- I hear it's excellent! I have a 12 week old son and I'm sure that I will find some helpful advice!

I have a problem that I'm hoping you might have some advice to handle. I also have a son that turned 2 last week. He absolutely can not go to sleep unless he is touching me. He can't just lay near me, he has to physicallly be touching me (usually twirling the hair on the back of my neck). If we try to put him into his bed once he's asleep, he wakes up screaming and panicky.

I honestly don't know why he's like this. He never co-slept as an infant (unless you count the few times we fell asleep while he was nursing). By three months he was too large for the basinette, so he was in his crib early. He was always an excellent sleeper and slept through the night at 8 weeks.

In the rare instance he awoke, I'd change his diaper and fix him a bottle, and back to sleep for him. When he was about 18 months, we started preparing him for the transition to a bed since his little brother would be needing his crib.

He did very well until we had to switch his room. Now he refuses to sleep in his bed or be alone in his room. On occasion, he will play in his room, but that is the extent of it.

Do you have any suggestions for getting him out of our bed? Every once in awhile he will fall asleep in his sister's bed and even make it through the night, but those instances are rare.

And what should I do to prevent our youngest son from following in his brother's footsteps?

Thank you!
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I would try and figure out what he dislikes about his room but lets deal with the situation at hand.
for the next week I would purchase an inflatable mattress, they are pretty cheap from Target and place it in his room and without making any big fuss about it I would sleep with him in his bedroom, then you can start tyhe process of fading yourself out of there you have to be patient and honest with him and to giove you some idea it will probably take you about 3 to 4 weeks to do this unfortunatly there are no quick fixes here. After the first week you can then sit beside him but make your boundaries clear that you will lay with him until he goes to sleep but once he is asleep you will leave and go into your own bed, then you can really work on leaving the room for 1 minute if he follows you, you will have to return him to his bed, this can take many attemps but keep going remember you are eventually going to be able to put him to bed independantly but there is a process to it and it does requir some patience and effort on both you and your husbands part.
I have an excellent chapter on this is the toddler book, if the time it will take you sounds daunting remember things will not change unless you activly have a plan to change them and sometimes because we don't know what to do it gets frustrating so hang in there darling trust me if you use the above approach and the book as a guide you will succeed
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