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Tweens, Teens, & Myspace

post #1 of 12
6/13/08 at 8:21am
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Haley is quite upset with me for standing firm in my decision that she is not allowed to have a Myspace page. Actually, I am the meanest mom in the world because everyone else has a page except her. I just don't think it's safe.

So, I want to know where you stand when it comes to your teens and these "networking" sites.
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post #2 of 12
6/13/08 at 8:32am

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Logan has one that he needs me to do everything with so no fear there. I let him have one bc a couple of his friends from MX have them and they can keep in touch that way. But it is locked down and doesnt know how to acces it so I fu=igure thats pretty safe.

Sam wants one but I have not done hers yet. She will not know her password when I do it. She will only be allowed to get on it when I am around. Hers will be locked down too. She wants to be able to kee[ in touch with friends after our move. My mom and sister also have them so again she can keep in touch with them on there.
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post #3 of 12
6/13/08 at 8:58am

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Elaine, I agree with you. I am not the mom of a teen or a tween, but I taught 8th grade and tutor kids who all have myspace pages, and I think you are doing the right thing. One of my students is the daughter of a judge, and her parents have to police her myspace use. She can't even use her real name on there! So, no, I do not think you are doing anything wrong.
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post #4 of 12
6/13/08 at 9:13am

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I don't plan on letting the kids have one either. (None have asked yet.)
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post #5 of 12
6/13/08 at 11:19am

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I applaud those of you not indulging your children with unmonitored usage of social networking platforms such as myspace.
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post #6 of 12
6/13/08 at 11:20am

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Well you can tell Sam that Zachary doesn't have one either and he WON'T have one until he buys his own computer. I think that the internet is a very dangerous place for a young adults. I don't let the kids on my computer at all. I am just mean like that.
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post #7 of 12
6/13/08 at 11:31am

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They dont use my coputer at all by themselves and then i let them on very limited when I am there. Its mine for petes sake lol.
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post #8 of 12
6/13/08 at 11:36am

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Chelsey is 14 and is allowed to have one, but it has to be kept private and I have to have access to it. Otherwise it's gone!
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post #9 of 12
6/13/08 at 11:45am

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thankfully the boys are too young to even want one. They do play on sites such as clubpenguin which allows them to talk with other kids. I have it set so they can't do that, even though Brandon is the only one who could write anything. I just don't think it is necessary. Kids are niave, they will answer questions without thinking anything about it.
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post #10 of 12
6/13/08 at 12:03pm

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I have mixed feelings. I personally have a myspace page and I use it constantly to keep in touch with people that I wouldn't necessarily call. My son also has his own laptop, due to overly indulgent grandparents (so you can just stop giving me that look, LOL), but since he is 7, he couldn't be any less interested in social networking sites. I will have to see how mature/responsible he is when the time comes that he would like one. I feel it is a very individual choice.

My reservations are that the anonymity of the internet allows children to say/experience things they would never have access to in the real world, usually because it is inappropriate for them. I also feel it takes the place of making real friends by allowing them to build psudo relationships with strangers. Because of this, the children who I always observe on the computer are usually socially inept.

I feel with a careful balance of computer and being physically with friends time AND careful internet observation and well understood rules (and the reason behind those rules), there should be no reason why a responsible child should not have a Myspace page.

I totally get why you don't want them to have one too, LOL.

-Elizabeth
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post #11 of 12
6/13/08 at 4:17pm

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Cori has one. All of her notifications go to my email and I have the password. She knows that I DO sign in and check her stuff. Its set on private and it only has people on there that she knows. I feel fine with her having it. She also knows that if there is anything I do not agree with--its GONE.
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post #12 of 12
6/13/08 at 4:43pm

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Drew will be 14 in 2 months and I still won't allow him to have one. Frankly, I don't think he is responsible enough. I think you have to make that decision based on the individual child and how mature/responsible they are. Most tweens just aren't ready for that. Drew especially has proven that he's not ready for it.

So, I totally agree, Elaine. Our computers are passworded and the kids can only get on certain sites within their password (approved sites - Rick set it up).
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