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post #1 of 11
6/22/08 at 1:54pm
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I worried that I'm heading to a bad place with this pacifier use.
Connor really calms down with his binky when nothing else (Aside from feeding him when I know he's not hungry or anywhere near due to eat) will work.
But I feel guilty because I also know other times when he's crying and we're trying to eat dinner we just shove it in his mouth so we can finish instead of finding out what the real problem is.
I'm nervous in thinking that he's going to get stuck on a dependency with it.

Any tips for surviving his suckling desires that know no bounds?
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post #2 of 11
6/22/08 at 2:48pm

Re: Pacifier use.

my son wasn't keen on the paci, then my parents babysat he got semi attatched to it and so did we, however around six months he discovered his thumb. no more paci, however getting rid of the thumb is a challenge

he is five and still sucks his thumb. oh well

don't feel guilty, some babies just need to suck, and feeding constantly isn't an issue, you are doing your best and there is nothing wrong with giving him a pacifier so you can finish your dinner. imo
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post #3 of 11
6/22/08 at 3:12pm

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My eldet LOVED her paci. My middle never took it and my youngest liked it but wasn't extremley attached to it.

When they are little (and I think your little one is only a few months old? ) I let them have it whenever. YOU need to decide what your cut off is. Mine was 2. I refused to let them have it after 2. SO at 1 I start limiting when they can have it. I knew my girls needed tem for nap & bed time and I needed them to have it or church SO I started there. By 1.5 non of tem needed it. The first few time (bed time/church) are tougher cause they are used to them. But we (and they) learn other coping methods and we are all happier.
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post #4 of 11
6/22/08 at 10:17pm

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Since he's already established nursing, no problem. My youngest liked it better than the oldest who absolutely refused it. Even she gave it up at six months. Nursing as much as they want to suck is really ow! on the ole
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post #5 of 11
6/22/08 at 11:38pm

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Originally Posted by Liz109 View Post
Sucking is a baby's natural instinct. If he didn't really want to suck, he would spit it out and cry more to tell you something else is wrong.
Ditto!

I was able to get rid of it before a year old with my kids so don't worry about dependency.
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post #6 of 11
6/22/08 at 11:43pm

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At your son's age, non-nutriative sucking is appropriate. If he uses a binky, fine - no worries. You can get rid of it later.

My son is just 2 and still has a binky. However, he has a NEUROLOGICAL issue and the chewing/sucking on the binky is giving him the input that he needs right now. I have him under medical supervision and we will get rid of it when he is neurologically ready, which I do hope is soon. But, he is a different kiddo with a medical reason.

So, don't let anyone make you feel badly... a binky is OK. Some kids like them, some kids don't. It's not that big of a deal......
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post #7 of 11
6/22/08 at 11:51pm

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I never wanted to give my kids a binky. NEVER. But then.. I had kids LOL. Duncan wasn't interested after he was about.. 6 weeks old. Logan took it til he was 4 months old, Ian about the same, Kyan took it a little while, but less than 5 months and Teagan took it less than three months. The only thing I really hate to see is a four or five or six year old with one. ( Unless it is like Kim's situation. There is a child at church who had a stroke inutero (sp?) That still uses one and he;s almost 5 I think) But, I wouldn't worry. Eventually.. he will throw it away and all will be well. HOWEVER, If you are having ANY difficulty nursing now, or develop it in the near future and want to continue nursing.. nix that paci!
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post #8 of 11
6/23/08 at 1:30am

Re: Pacifier use.

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Originally Posted by Liz109 View Post
Sucking is a baby's natural instinct. If he didn't really want to suck, he would spit it out and cry more to tell you something else is wrong.

No need to worry. Both of mine had them. Both were weaned before they were 2. No harm, no fowl and they both enjoyed to be able to suck when they wanted!
ITA Both of mine had them, and my 16 mth old still LOVES his. I have no issues with my LO using his paci, and we are slowly weaning him to naps/bed time/comfort only. He has had no issues with the transitions thus far, and I don't expect we will!
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post #9 of 11
6/23/08 at 12:54pm

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Drew never took took one - would spit out if you tried. Ally, however, used one FOREVER, it seems. Heck, even after she quit actually sucking on one, she still had to have one in her hand to go to sleep. I wouldn't worry.
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post #10 of 11
6/23/08 at 4:03pm
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Re: Pacifier use.

Thanks for calming my nerves everyone. I actually forgot about making this topic because I think Connor's going through a growth spurt and even the binky doesn't seem to calm him right now, only my chest, so it must be a growth spurt oi.
I get paranoid when I'm reading things and they seem to make it seem like binkies are the most evil thing in the world (see: what to expect the first year)
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post #11 of 11
6/23/08 at 5:14pm

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Originally Posted by Connor'sMama View Post
Thanks for calming my nerves everyone. I actually forgot about making this topic because I think Connor's going through a growth spurt and even the binky doesn't seem to calm him right now, only my chest, so it must be a growth spurt oi.
I get paranoid when I'm reading things and they seem to make it seem like binkies are the most evil thing in the world (see: what to expect the first year)
The information overload out there for new Mommies is terrible, isn't it? It would be awesome if kiddos came with instruction manuals, eh? LOL. At any rate, try not to let things such as one specific resource make you feel badly for anything. Do what is right for you and your child... as long as you all are healthy and happy, that's what matters. Look around, check out lots of resources and definitely check in here. Experience is something we do have here. Don't beat yourself up over anything.... you are doing a GREAT job.
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