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'Jealous Wives' Threaten Military Spouse Over Calendar

Military spouse surprised by threats and vandalism over calendar

KATTERBACH, Germany -- An Army spouse says her attempt to boost troops' morale with a sexy, military-themed calendar has made her a target of threats, abuse and vandalism that she blames on jealous wives.

Alessandra Bosco, who's married to Sgt. 1st Class Edward McCoy of the Katterbach-based 12th Combat Aviation Brigade, is selling a 2009 calendar that includes 12 photographs of her wearing a mixture of lingerie and military items.

The 32-year-old Italian has been a bikini model for 10 years and says she never had a problem with Army spouses before she came to Katterbach last year. But since then she has been the target of gossip, hurtful looks and negative comments from wives waiting at home while their husbands serve with the aviation unit in Iraq, she said.

"As soon as they found out that I liked to take pictures it was a problem. It's a lot worse since the calendar," she said.

The other wives, some married to high-ranking soldiers based in Katterbach, want her removed from the community, Bosco said.

"I’m a symbol that makes them feel self-conscious if they are overweight or don’t have a job that brings them in the spotlight," she said.

After a story about the calendar appeared in Stars and Stripes last month, Bosco said she found threats posted on her Web page - www.alessandrabosco.com - and that she was awakened in the night by women banging on her front door and yelling abuse. Her husband's car, a distinctive blue Chevrolet that sports an Italian flag, has been vandalized several times with side mirrors snapped off, keys dragged across the doors and the windshield smashed, she said.

These reactions are in stark contrast to those of soldiers who have deluged her Web site with supportive messages. A typical message from a 12th CAB soldier deployed to Iraq reads: "If only the wives knew how many of their husbands in 12th CAB have already bought your calendar they would explode with anger. The guys in my unit cannot wait to get their hands on your calendar (remember I asked for an autographed calendar). Can you please be at our welcome home ceremony?"

Katterbach, where the somewhat-austere U.S. facilities are sandwiched into a cramped mess of rusty old German buildings, does not, at first sight, appear to be the natural environment for the glamorous lifestyle that Bosco aspires to. During an interview last week at the post exchange, she stood out from the shoppers in T-shirts and jeans in her tight black blouse.

Her husband, who stands well over 6 feet with a physique that suggests long hours in the gym, also cuts a memorable figure.

The veteran of deployments to Afghanistan and the Horn of Africa, who works as the 12th CAB operations sergeant major, said Army leaders have told him his wife is a disgrace.

"I’ve never been in this situation but I’ve been told my career is on the line," he said. "I’m probably going to be relocated because my wife is a disruption to the community and it is affecting wives’ morale and they can’t have that in [the 12th CAB] rear detachment at this point."

McCoy said leaders at Katterbach launched an investigation into Bosco’s behavior, something he characterizes as a witch hunt designed to dig up dirt on his wife.

The couple has also been barred from appearing in the local command publication, The Bavarian News.

In an e-mail to McCoy, U.S. Army Garrison Ansbach commander Lt. Col. Tammy McKenna wrote: "Bottom-line: USAG Ansbach will not be submitting any stories on you or your wife to the Bavarian News or any other media. You can include this comment in your next interview."

A USAG Ansbach spokesman said Bosco cannot appear in the Bavarian News, although she was interviewed by a garrison reporter earlier this year, is because command publications cannot do stories on for-profit ventures by Army spouses.

The irony of a bikini calendar generating so much controversy when thousands of adult magazines are sold by the Army and Air Force Exchange Service has not escaped McCoy.

"Downrange it is pornography with a capital P," he said. "There is hard-core pornography everywhere and nobody cares. Every soldier could back me up, but they don’t want their wives to know that and the Army doesn’t want the public to know that."

The problem is that Bosco is living in the community, she said.

"One wife said: ‘If my husband is in love with Angelina Jolie I don’t care, but if he is in love with Alessandra Bosco then I have a problem because she is in my community,’ " she said.



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I think they need to grow up and be prosecuted for their crimes of terrorizing this woman and destruction of property. This is no way for a bunch of adult women to behave especially in front of their and her children. They may think they are just acting out rightous anger, but they are acting psychotic and need mental health attention. Especially the ones who are yelling threats and terrorizing her. This is against the law. A military base is an extension of American soil and here in the good ole US of A, you don't get to damage property and scare people just because you are mad.

I don't care about her calender, but I do care she is suffering because no one seems to be prosecuting people who are breaking the law. In fact, it seems that she and her dh are to be punished when they are the victims of crime.

Be angry all you want, but do it within the confines of the law or face the consequences.
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I don't think she herself has done anything wrong in her modeling but my issue is that she is a member of the military community... the men that look at these calendars are also going to come home and look at her. Imagine knowing your husband has the hots for the neighbor's wife ... not only that but that he has sexy pictures of her that kept him warm while he was away from your bed ... now try not to hold a grudge against this woman. I AM not in any way saying they had the right to threaten her or do damage to her property but it would be pretty hard to like her if I were in the situation.
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I don't think she herself has done anything wrong in her modeling but my issue is that she is a member of the military community... the men that look at these calendars are also going to come home and look at her. Imagine knowing your husband has the hots for the neighbor's wife ... not only that but that he has sexy pictures of her that kept him warm while he was away from your bed ... now try not to hold a grudge against this woman. I AM not in any way saying they had the right to threaten her or do damage to her property but it would be pretty hard to like her if I were in the situation.
I completely agree and would feel the same way if in this situation.
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Fine, hate her. Start nasty rumors about her. Give her the cold shoulder. Cross the street so you don't have to walk on the same side of the street as she is. Write a letter to the editor of the base paper against what she did. Complain to the base commander, her dh's chain of command... Do all these things all you want, but it is illegal and wrong to threaten her and damage her property. She should be able to walk across the base and sleep in her bed at night without fear.


Just because these men might be lusting after her, doesn't mean she is lusting after them. Her mountian of an in excellent shape of a dh might have something to say about them going after her too.

She's been a bikini model for 10 years. There are other photos out there anyone could have gotten. Her body and her profession are very public. She wore suggestive clothing before this incident. They could have been lusting after her all along.

What she did was in poor judgement. But she is Italian and their sexual morays are different from ours. They are more sexually liberal. What she did was fine in the context of her culture.

Will her calender affect his career? For now, but probably not forever. She is not the only thing which counts for or against promotion. Her dh does have some control of filling all the slots for his own promotion.
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Personally, I don't have a problem with it. While I don't think it was very wise on her part, she didn't do anything wrong - technically. It wouldn't bother me if Rick looked at something like that, or at her for that matter. He looks at women all the time. I look at guys all the time. It's normal. I'd worry if he quit looking. As long as he doesn't act on it.

But to threaten her? Destroy her property? Harrass her? No. It's wrong and those who are doing it should be punished. Why is the military going after her and not the people who are actually commiting crimes? - on a military base? While it might not be good for morale (and I'm sure it isn't, cause if the wives are pissed, the husbands are definitely hearing about it), they are handling it the wrong way, IMO.

And if they use this against her husband, that is wrong as well. Transferring him to keep morale up - yeah, I can understand that. But anything else would be wrong on the part of the military. JMO
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I'd be after her dh. He sounds quite fine! It just reminds me of this guy I was friends with in the military. He was a hottie. He wasn't needed in Saudi during the first Gulf War, so he was stuck in the dorms. He enjoyed laying out in a minscule Speedo everyday next to the dorms.

He never spoke to any of the women who cat called, walked by, flirted, slowed down their car to have a looksie. He didn't do anything wrong except be home and be sexy. The base and squadron commanders got so many calls about him from all the deployed married men. No one did anything about it. Because he had a right to lay out even if he was sexy. Oh, if those men had only known, it wasn't women he laid out in his Speedo for!
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