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Why does family have to be such a B**** during a loss.

My dad is just not playing nice.
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I am sorry you are dealing with all of this. It's tough enough losing your grandfather without having family members acting ugly. Some people just don't deal well with things like this, and with others it just brings out the worst in them. It still stinks, though. This is a time when you all should be coming together, not at odds with each other.
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Sorry you have to deal with this too.
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Sounds like my family before the last breath is even taken, they are packing up the silverware and carrying the sofa out the front door.
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I know what you mean. After my dad passed away and after his funeral the loser my brother married made a big to-do about things and really was mean to me and my other brother and sister. She is a total you-know-what.

I hope things get better with your dad.
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Sorry you have to go through this. I don't know why, but it seems some people just lose their *BLEEPIN* minds when someone passes. Had at least one like that with both my Mom and Dad. I'm here if you need me. Take care!
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My dad has slowly been removing things from his parents house.

He showed me on the last trip, now this is trivial but all Oma's kitchen spoons spatulas flippers and gadgets like that he pulled from her house. Dad says that my step mother wants to make her kitchen antique. Okay antique or not I remember the spatula she makes mashed potatoes with the flipper she would serve torte with, and everything else. WTF Just ridiculous.

Then he called me (dad) asap I think when he found out about OPA. I waited all day Tuesday for funeral information and NOTHING. His appointment was at 12 in the afternoon. When did I get a call? 6:50 am when I needed to go to work on Wednesday. Says he was busy with other calls.

Pat the dreaded step mother has the nerve to tell me that oh just a couple pictures will be fine you dont have to make any collages. My decision right?

Oh and there is no funeral dinner... They are putting out Trays at the funeral home to snack on! Money is not an issue but GD show some respect. At least this is how I feel.
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I'm sorry, but who wants to eat at the funeral home? That is just morbid and unappetizing the me, even if I am pregnant and hungry all the time!
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Thank you... Have you ever heard of such nonsense?
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Originally Posted by BeccaSueBoo View Post
I'm sorry, but who wants to eat at the funeral home? That is just morbid and unappetizing the me, even if I am pregnant and hungry all the time!
I thought the same thing, Becca. Plus, there is something nice about going back to a family member's house and just fellowshipping and being away from the dread of the funeral home and all that.
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Some people just seem to act out when a loved one passes away. Don't understand it, but I know it happens alot.
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I've never heard of anyone eating at the funeral home. Very strange.

You should get those antique kitchen utensils!!! Your mil sounds like the you know what my brother married...always out to get what SHE wants and screw everyone else! I'm so sorry you are having to put up with that.
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And what happens if a will was written and those kitchen things were to go to SOMEONE ELSE??? Could that be theft?
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I've never heard of anyone eating at the funeral home. Very strange.

You should get those antique kitchen utensils!!! Your mil sounds like the you know what my brother married...always out to get what SHE wants and screw everyone else! I'm so sorry you are having to put up with that.
This is my STEP Mother not my MIL that I love.
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I've heard about having a drink with the deceased, but not heavy hors o'derves. That would be very weird. Every funeral dinner I've been to (and I've been to a lot of them) was at the church.

I take it back. Your dad and stepmonster are worse than my family. What if Grandma fully recovers? These two are as bad as dh's family who when his uncle Danny (And his live in girlfriend) died in a flood, (this included his live in's sisters) ransacked their house for everything valuable before the body was even recovered or he was declared dead. In fact, he was still alive when they did this. This is to let you know, you are not alone.
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