Alright ladies you ready for this?
Let me give you some background. My husband propsed to me on our two year anniversary in 2006, up until then things with her were great. My bridal shower was held in May bc I was in two weddings in June. My MIL showed up, kind of looked around while she was coming over to the gazebo and procedded to get on her phone to call someone. She was on the phone for 15mins before she finally sat down with us. Well by that time we were almost done eating, so I went around to each of the tables to thank everyone for coming. Well I got to her table and instead of saying thank you she says "you forgot to invite some people" I said no I didn't that Jane Jo and Jane Do wernt able to make it. She said "no I mean so and so, and so and so, and so and so" (mind you I didn't know the people that she was talking about, all I knew what they were her friends). Well I brushed it off and went to sit down to open my presents and noticed that she was coming up to me, she said that she needed to go, and that she would call me to go over my wedding guest list to make sure I would not "forget" (yes she used quotes) on that list. Needless to say I was pissed and hurt, she was there for a max of 30mins.
About the fourth Thursday before the wedding I called to ask her that I was sending out the final batch of wedding invitations that Sat, and that I needed her final list by Fri. night. She said that was fine and would get it to me. She called Mon night to give it to me. I told her it was too late I was done with invites. She got mad and hung up. By that time she had invited almost 120 alone. We had a total of 220 ppl invited to a place that only seated 200 comfortably.
Two weeks before the wedding she called my husband to ask him if he would take down 10 couples names and phone numbers to invited them to the wedding personally since it was too late to mail them an invite in time. He finally put his foot down and said no, that most of thoes people he didn't even know and shouldn't have been invited in the first place. Needless to say she was pissed.
The day of the wedding, she didn't say a word to me the whole entire day, until she left the reception (she actually stayed the whole time) and said "welcome to the family"
About a month later my husband called her to tell her I was preggo and instead of a happy response he got "oh she is? well ok" that was it.
My son was due in April so we had the baby shower in March. The week of the shower came and she still didn't call to RSVP and there was a huge snow storm coming to OH that Fri night into Sat. She called me two days before the shower and said "would you like me to get you something now, or wait until after the shower and you can tell me what you didn't get" I said well are you coming to the shower? she said "No I have a wedding to go to that day" I asked who it was for and she said "It is for a friends daughter that I havn't seen since she was 2 years old" I was very upset by this bc that wedding was at 3 and my shower was at 12, and it would have only taken her an hour to get to the wedding from where my shower was held. Well needless to say my shower was cancelled bc of the storm, so I called her to ask her if she was going to come to it that next Sat she said "no the wedding was rescheduled for that same day too" We agreed to meet at walmart that wed to pick out whatever I wanted. Well it slipped my mind bc I got into a fight with a friend on the phone on the way home, when I got home I immedately called to apologize and we rescheduled it for that Friday.
I got off of work at 4:45, called and left a VM sayin I was going to stop at the bank b4 I met her and also if she wanted to meet me there or at her house. Got to the bank, realzied that walmart and my bank are neighbors so I called her back at 4:57 and left another VM sayin I would meet her at walmart since I was basically there and would meet her in the baby section. 5:05 came and I called again, yet another VM. 5:15 came I called my husband and told him what was going on and was going to leave at 5:20 w/o calling her to let her know that I was leaving. 5:20 came and I was gone.
She called me at 7:30 and said "why did you call my cell phone?" I asked why not and she said "I can't hear my cell phone in certain places in my house" I was completely pissed off by then and told her we were at my mothers house having dinner she asked "oh your not going to the store tonight?" I said yes, but we have dinner here then go to the store every Fri. now I need to go dinner is done and hung up.
Well my son was born on April 25, 2008 at 12:46pm. She came up when I was still doped up (I had a C-Section and no sleep the night before so I was out of it) stayed for like maybe a half an hour asked my husband "do you think she will let you bring the baby around?" My husband was very hurt and didn't know what to say, she told him to call her when everyone left that day and she would come back up. Now ladies you all know that there are ppl in and out the whole 3-4 days you are in the hospital when you have a baby so obviously we did not call her. Since then she has seen my son once.
She keeps calling and expects us to drop everything to go to her house. The convo is this "when are you coming over..........when you do, can you do this and this for me when you get here?" She don't understand that my husband works until 6-7ish, by the time we get home, eat, dishes, shower, and tend to our child it is 10 or after. We take Sat. to catch up on house and yard work, and Sun for family time with our child.
We live 20mins away from her, I would have to back track from my work, to my house to get my husband, then back again to her house. While she drives past our road on her way to her dads house, and also her aunts house. She has never once stopped. She keeps sayin that she is never invited to come over. Ok my husband's dad and wife don't get invited and she kills to come see my son, on top of that my husbands grand parents don't get invites either and come over every 3-4 weeks when we havn't been over to their house. In my opinion fam don't need invites to come over!!
After the hospital issue, I have not talked to her. My husband talks to her, but not on a very reg basis bc she will call after 3-4 weeks and have some catastropic story to tell about why she has not called to make my husband feel bad for her, don't work anylonger.
I honestly don't want to see her, I really don't want my child to see her, but that is not right for my child.
Am I wrong in this? what is your advice on this? What would you do in this situation?
Let me give you some background. My husband propsed to me on our two year anniversary in 2006, up until then things with her were great. My bridal shower was held in May bc I was in two weddings in June. My MIL showed up, kind of looked around while she was coming over to the gazebo and procedded to get on her phone to call someone. She was on the phone for 15mins before she finally sat down with us. Well by that time we were almost done eating, so I went around to each of the tables to thank everyone for coming. Well I got to her table and instead of saying thank you she says "you forgot to invite some people" I said no I didn't that Jane Jo and Jane Do wernt able to make it. She said "no I mean so and so, and so and so, and so and so" (mind you I didn't know the people that she was talking about, all I knew what they were her friends). Well I brushed it off and went to sit down to open my presents and noticed that she was coming up to me, she said that she needed to go, and that she would call me to go over my wedding guest list to make sure I would not "forget" (yes she used quotes) on that list. Needless to say I was pissed and hurt, she was there for a max of 30mins.
About the fourth Thursday before the wedding I called to ask her that I was sending out the final batch of wedding invitations that Sat, and that I needed her final list by Fri. night. She said that was fine and would get it to me. She called Mon night to give it to me. I told her it was too late I was done with invites. She got mad and hung up. By that time she had invited almost 120 alone. We had a total of 220 ppl invited to a place that only seated 200 comfortably.
Two weeks before the wedding she called my husband to ask him if he would take down 10 couples names and phone numbers to invited them to the wedding personally since it was too late to mail them an invite in time. He finally put his foot down and said no, that most of thoes people he didn't even know and shouldn't have been invited in the first place. Needless to say she was pissed.
The day of the wedding, she didn't say a word to me the whole entire day, until she left the reception (she actually stayed the whole time) and said "welcome to the family"
About a month later my husband called her to tell her I was preggo and instead of a happy response he got "oh she is? well ok" that was it.
My son was due in April so we had the baby shower in March. The week of the shower came and she still didn't call to RSVP and there was a huge snow storm coming to OH that Fri night into Sat. She called me two days before the shower and said "would you like me to get you something now, or wait until after the shower and you can tell me what you didn't get" I said well are you coming to the shower? she said "No I have a wedding to go to that day" I asked who it was for and she said "It is for a friends daughter that I havn't seen since she was 2 years old" I was very upset by this bc that wedding was at 3 and my shower was at 12, and it would have only taken her an hour to get to the wedding from where my shower was held. Well needless to say my shower was cancelled bc of the storm, so I called her to ask her if she was going to come to it that next Sat she said "no the wedding was rescheduled for that same day too" We agreed to meet at walmart that wed to pick out whatever I wanted. Well it slipped my mind bc I got into a fight with a friend on the phone on the way home, when I got home I immedately called to apologize and we rescheduled it for that Friday.
I got off of work at 4:45, called and left a VM sayin I was going to stop at the bank b4 I met her and also if she wanted to meet me there or at her house. Got to the bank, realzied that walmart and my bank are neighbors so I called her back at 4:57 and left another VM sayin I would meet her at walmart since I was basically there and would meet her in the baby section. 5:05 came and I called again, yet another VM. 5:15 came I called my husband and told him what was going on and was going to leave at 5:20 w/o calling her to let her know that I was leaving. 5:20 came and I was gone.
She called me at 7:30 and said "why did you call my cell phone?" I asked why not and she said "I can't hear my cell phone in certain places in my house" I was completely pissed off by then and told her we were at my mothers house having dinner she asked "oh your not going to the store tonight?" I said yes, but we have dinner here then go to the store every Fri. now I need to go dinner is done and hung up.
Well my son was born on April 25, 2008 at 12:46pm. She came up when I was still doped up (I had a C-Section and no sleep the night before so I was out of it) stayed for like maybe a half an hour asked my husband "do you think she will let you bring the baby around?" My husband was very hurt and didn't know what to say, she told him to call her when everyone left that day and she would come back up. Now ladies you all know that there are ppl in and out the whole 3-4 days you are in the hospital when you have a baby so obviously we did not call her. Since then she has seen my son once.
She keeps calling and expects us to drop everything to go to her house. The convo is this "when are you coming over..........when you do, can you do this and this for me when you get here?" She don't understand that my husband works until 6-7ish, by the time we get home, eat, dishes, shower, and tend to our child it is 10 or after. We take Sat. to catch up on house and yard work, and Sun for family time with our child.
We live 20mins away from her, I would have to back track from my work, to my house to get my husband, then back again to her house. While she drives past our road on her way to her dads house, and also her aunts house. She has never once stopped. She keeps sayin that she is never invited to come over. Ok my husband's dad and wife don't get invited and she kills to come see my son, on top of that my husbands grand parents don't get invites either and come over every 3-4 weeks when we havn't been over to their house. In my opinion fam don't need invites to come over!!
After the hospital issue, I have not talked to her. My husband talks to her, but not on a very reg basis bc she will call after 3-4 weeks and have some catastropic story to tell about why she has not called to make my husband feel bad for her, don't work anylonger.
I honestly don't want to see her, I really don't want my child to see her, but that is not right for my child.
Am I wrong in this? what is your advice on this? What would you do in this situation?
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