Just want him tested...

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Not at the time but he is voal about his dislike for the kids being on meds. He feels its just bahavior problems. :rolleye: but we all know how smart Ed is right? I would have the testing done. Then you will know what modifications will best help him.

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i hope that he sees your point soon!

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Get the testing done. There is no reason not to. You will then have a direction to go in to optimize Trey's learning ability and that's a GOOD thing.

Just slap Randy upside the head for me.....

In all seriousness, DH is being a DH at times. I know that Ry's diagnosis has been hard for him and he doensn't want to move from here, but it ISN'T about DH anymore. It's about Ry.

So here are some extra for you. I KWYM.....

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Since my dh is an equal partner in taking care of the kids, he is under no illusions regarding them. I have never had this problem. Your dh is jumping to conculsions. There is no way to know at this point whether Trey will be put on meds or not. There are many ways to deal with these things besides meds. But if meds are the best way to help him, then that's what needs to be done. The most important thing is for Trey to get the help that he needs so he can meet his full potiental.

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At first Billy was kind of hesitant, but I kept getting on him for the fact that we should want Aaron at his best. That it is unfair to Aaron to just expect him to control himself if he CAN'T. And that did it. He was tested and is absolutely doing wonderfully now, 4 years later. Aaron is on meds and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. He is on a low dose and we monitor it closely....

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Good luck, Jannie! I would be honest with him too. I'll be thinking of you guys!

Den would want him to be tested. His feelings are always if we can do something to fix it, then we do it! There is no reason to struggle so much to do something if there are ways to help him deal....even if only to have the school district aware there is an actual problem so they can help him too.

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I agree, get the testing done. It's important if his pediatrician diagnoses him with ADD or ADHD that you get this documented at school via an Individualized Education Plan (IEP). This will allow for certain modifications in areas where it's deemed necessary such as instruction, standardized testing, classroom testing, homework assignments, and even discipline. He may not even need meds, that's all up to the doctor, and you, of course, but I think testing him is the right thing to do.

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Tammy is right, but Aaron has no IEP. His behavior problems have never affected his grades, he is a straight A student and we're lucky for that. Any time he has had a problem, it has been during recess or in a classroom with very lax rules. But I think we also started his meds in Kinder, so now that he is in 3rd grade where grades matter, he is completely settled.

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I agree with Dana, it is very hard to get an IEP around here. Sam was diagnosed in 2nd grade and we were never able to get her one. Logan is in 2nd and although he gets help in reading and now OT he still doesnt have an IEP.

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Also a Petite Grand Mal episode is an epiletic fit, of the most serious kind, if Trey has epilepsy, ignoring it will not make it go away and could cause long term irreparable damage to his brain.

He needs to be tested, even if it turns out to be ADD or ADHD he needs any and all help he can be given. If he where (heaven forbid) deaf or blind would Randy expect him to 'concentrate' hard enough to hear or see? If he where diabetic or asthmatic would "trying harder" or "behaving better" negate the need for meds, No it would not. And just like diabetes and asthma, ADD, ADHD and epilepsy can all be managed with or without medications depending on the type, the severity of the conditions and the other facilitys available to you and Trey.

I used the blindness and diabetes as examples when I had Greg tested and put him on meds, it changed Des' mind and the minds of most of my family who originally thought Greg could just "behave himself", no, Greg could not just behave himself, his extra acute senses made relaxing and giving his body and mind time to process things impossible, that meant he was constantly running on 'high', the meds helped him slow down and smell the roses instead of just running full tilt over them.

Good Luck Robin

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Jannie, Rick and I had many a "conversation" about Drew being tested and finally put on meds. It wasn't the testing he had a problem with so much as what the school kept telling him about Drew forever being "labeled". It's hogwash. Getting him tested is the best thing in the world. We made the decision when he was diagnosed to try the behavior modifications that we could before we put him on meds. For almost 2 years we struggled until I finally said enough and put Drew on meds - without "getting permission" from Rick first. We had discussed it, but never come to a decision. But I was the one getting the phone calls from school. I was the one dealing with him at home. I was the one talking to teachers and daycare personnel. And finally, I was the one who had to make a decision because Rick just couldn't bring himself to do it. The idea of putting his child on medication was horrifying to him. I think that somewhere in the back of his mind it was somehow his fault (it runs in his family). But the difference in Drew in just a few weeks was phenomenal! It took Rick 3-4 months to get comfortable with it, but eventually he agreed that it was the best decision.

Hang in there. Getting him tested doesn't necessarily mean that he will need meds. There are many kids that do great with the behavior modification techniques currently in use - we still use alot of them with Drew. It's hard, but take it one step at at time. get him tested and then dealw ith whatever comes next. And remember that we are all here for you if you have questions or just need some support.

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I think you should make your husband talk to the teacher, and make him feel comfortable and convince him in a good manner not by fighting or arguing.

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I agree!
Get that testing done! It's important!