So scared...omg need some advice ASAP!!!

Re: So scared...omg need some advice ASAP!!!

Your friends called you a sissy? Good grief, I gave birth to 3 kids naturally and I have to tell you after the h*ll with my first very painful labor I was terrified to have the second baby. Just the idea of giving birth gives me a nauseous feeling even now. It may all be worth it in the end but getting there is scary and you have every right to worry and fear a repeat experience. I think if you had a bad experience the first time it would be strange not to be worried.
I will say this.....your first was an emergency, so it is was a lot higher risk for complications right from the start, there wasn't time to be perfectly prepared. This time the doctors and nurses will be a lot more prepared, relaxed and on the ball. As hard as it is, try to relax . It is very normal to be afraid, but trying to relax will go along way towards making it a better experience the second time around.

On SIDE NOTE.... my first delivery was hideously painful and horrible. My second I had to be induced(and we have all heard horror stories about induction),and I was freaked out to say this least. However my second delivery was so easy and not even half as painful, and was my best experience of the three.

Re: So scared...omg need some advice ASAP!!!

Hi hun ... I haven't had a c-section BUT I have had a million surgeries and I can promise you that one bad experience doesn't mean that the next will go the same. I understand your worries though. Have you talked to your doctor about your fears? Maybe there is something she/he can do or say that will help alleviate some of it. Sometimes just talking about it can help.
Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your little one!

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Hi there

I have had two c-sections only the opposite away around My first was an emergency ceaser for fetal distress. I had twins the second time around, and kept having my dr go on about the chance of my ceaser scar bursting as I was having twins this time (that was incrediably comforting as you can imagine ).

With my first I had everything that can go wrong, go wrong. I was in hospital for 6 weeks had 2 other surgerys in that time and then had a hole in my stomach for the next 5 months with daily visits from a nurse. Heck my son went home 2 weeks before I did and he was only in there that long because it took them 3 weeks to get me concious enough to give my consent for my parents to take him home.

So I totally understand where you are coming from being scared to go thru the same thing again.

I tried to give birth naturally with the twins but once again it wasn't to be and I was petrified to be going thru my 2nd emergency ceaser.

What a difference it was. It couldn't have been easier the 2nd time around. I had the boys at 5.30pm and got up and had a shower the next morning (OK I was walking pretty darn slowly, but I got there!) I was in the general ward instead of being tucked away in a little sick room all by myself after the first night. I stayed in hospital for 7 days but only because I wanted to, I could have gone home after 4 days (In NZ they like you to stay for 5 days usually after a ceaser) but I didn't want to have to cook and clean on my bday which was 7 days after the kids were born

I've never given birth naturally but I'm just going to assume there is some, let's call it "discomfort", involved for the next few days while things heal up. Ceasers are the same, no lifting heavy things, no stretching and no bending over to far but after a few days you are fine. Yes, you have had abdominal surgery, so you have to use your good judgement and listen to your body but I'm pretty sure you would have to do that after a vaginal birth as well. (Hey and on the up side there is no "burning sensation" when you have to go to the bathroom after a ceaser see there is always a silver lining )

I hope that allieviates your fears, I was so darn scared to risk it again it took my DH 3 yrs to talk me into having another child. So you tell your friends that you have darn good reason to be a "sissy", everyone who has a bad experience doing anything is scared the next time round, but you at least are doing everything you can to come to grips with it and not hiding in a corner screaming "Bring on the drugs". You are not a "sissy" you just had a bad experience and of course that makes you nervous.

Good luck for the 24th and I'll be thinking of you

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I have had two c-sections as well. The first was an emergancy naturally. The second was planned. The second could not have been easier. It was slightly more painful because I had my tubes tied at the same time. However, my doctors were aware of the problems I had the first time and were prepared. I felt a lot better the second time around.

I did not have all the trauma you did the first time, however, I did stop breathing during the surgery and had trouble breathing for hours afterward. The second time, it gave them a bit of a jolt when it happened again, but they were prepared and I recovered much faster. With all the breathing problems I had, my drs were really happy I opted for a tubal at the same time.

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I had two c-sections. My first one was emergency, and my second one was scheduled. The first one was harder to recover from because I went into labor at 10:30 at night after being up all day and was in labor for 17.5 hours. I was exhausted to begin with, and then had endured a night of pain. I think it made a huge difference. With the second one, honestly, I was scared. But I can tell you it went much easier. I actually asked to go home from the hospital a day early, and my doctor was fine with that. I was up and moving around with ease a lot sooner and was not nearly as sore. My recovery went faster, and I think it's because I was more rested than the first time.
It's normal to be scared. Shame on your friends for calling you a sissy. That's not nice, and it's not true!
It sounds like everyone had an easier time the second time around. I hope this is true for you too. It's okay to be scared, don't let anyone give you a hard time about that, but most likely you and your baby are going to do great!

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I had one vaginal, one c-section after labor and one planned c-section. I didn't have any problems with my first c-section but with the second one I was not as sore b/c I had no labor pains. I did have more time to be nervous but it all went very well. The docs are not rushed and everyone takes their time.

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Hey sweetie, gosh I can't believe that anyone is calling you a sissy. I would be scared too. I have never had a c-section before so I can't offer any advice there. However, the good news is that since you had a previous c-section w/ complications before your Dr.'s this time are going to be even more aware and more cautious w/ you to make sure you are okay this time. Just take deep breaths and let your emotions out. The more you deal w/ your fears now, the better they'll be when it comes time. Can you talk to your OB/GYN about your concerns? She may be able to help calm your fears.

Best of luck to you, try to stay positive as best you can and focus on the joy of having another baby. Tons of hugs & prayers.

Re: So scared...omg need some advice ASAP!!!

definately not a sissy!

i have only had one section so no stories to offer, but i like what the other ladies have had to say.

good luck! i'm sure all will go wonderfully! I can't wait to hear your birth story!

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I am keeping you in my thoughts for tomorrow. You and the baby are going to be just fine!