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men with slow swimmers?

post #1 of 24
9/22/08 at 10:54pm
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a friend at work has been ttcing for 14 months now, she is getting very discouraged at this point. she talked to me a bit today about it. Her dh has 'hot balls' as she calls it, or slow swimmers. he dislikes boxers very very much.

do any of you have any tips or tricks for a guy to cool himself down?
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post #2 of 24
9/22/08 at 11:18pm

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Yep, wear boxers and loose pants. Or go commando and wear loose pants.
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post #3 of 24
9/23/08 at 1:15am
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Re: men with slow swimmers?

he doesn't like either of those options..... and it is making his wife want to

i wasn't sure if there was something out there that is more comfortable than boxers....
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post #4 of 24
9/23/08 at 9:24am

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if he doesn't want to do the boxer thing.....then there is always ice packs
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post #5 of 24
9/23/08 at 10:35am

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I am sorry, but I have no tolerance for these inflexible people. Personally, if this girl is your friend, I would tell her, tell him to get over himself and just do it. It's not forever. However, a kid is forever, and if he's this stubborn and selfish over FLIPPIN' UNDERWEAR, then what will it be like raising a child with him?
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post #6 of 24
9/23/08 at 5:51pm

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My thoughts exactly Tammy!
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post #7 of 24
9/23/08 at 6:45pm

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Did he have a semen analysis? Is a MD recommending that he wear boxers instead of briefs to "cool himself down?"
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post #8 of 24
9/23/08 at 11:19pm
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yes, the dr told him to wear boxers, but he doesn't like it when his balls stick to his leg. i know

she is super mad at her dh over this, i was just hoping there was something more that could be done

i will send her your exact words tammy :d
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post #9 of 24
9/23/08 at 11:27pm

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Andrea, I am at this:
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he doesn't like it when his balls stick to his leg
Yes, tell her exactly what I said. Tell him he can give me a call and I'll tell him myself!
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post #10 of 24
9/24/08 at 1:19am

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He could try the boxer briefs, They aren't as loose as regular boxers, but they are looser than regular briefs. Other than that, tell him to get a grip!
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post #11 of 24
9/24/08 at 11:34am

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Wow, I am surprised at the terminology that is being used (by her) for such a serious issue.
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post #12 of 24
9/24/08 at 12:36pm
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lol we have rednecks up here as well. she is a perfect example.

she is frustrated, but just the other day opened up to me and talked to me about it. i know how horrible it is to try and try and to have everyone else around you getting pregnant. she has six friends expecting right now.
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post #13 of 24
9/24/08 at 1:33pm

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I know how hard it is, too. Gary and I had to go to IVF with donor sperm to get pregnant with our girls after 8 years and thousands of dollars out of our pockets, plus the thousands that the insurance company paid. I have nothing but sympathy for infertile couples, and know the frustration all too well.
Usually, when people are serious about their fertiltiy, they use proper terms.
Did a Urologist or Reproductive Endocrinologist order his semen analysis?
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post #14 of 24
9/24/08 at 2:26pm
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we live in a very small town, it was probably his local gp that did the testing.

i have talked to her about IVF a bit, i know my sil had twins with it because of scarred tubes. I didn't know what exactly was your fertility problem heather, just that it took forever and that IVF got you your beautiful girls.

she is 22 and petite, i know it is shallow, but she also asked about fertility drugs making you gain a ton of weight. any truth to that?

It has been just over 14 months now and she is preparing to go to the gyno for some extensive testing. her cycle is really screwed up right now. anywhere from 26-35 days i am hoping they don't have a double wammy against them
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post #15 of 24
9/24/08 at 2:36pm

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We had that 'double wammy'. I got pregnant twice with artificial insemination w/donor sperm, both times were ectopic. I had two factors contributing to our infertility and Gary had his.
Yes, the drugs can make you gain weight. I did, but I know women who didn't gain more than a pound or two. For me, it depended on what drugs I was on, the dosage, and if it was injections or not.
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post #16 of 24
9/24/08 at 8:09pm
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i have told her the name of the site, so maybe she will come here and talk to some of you proffesionals on this topic

thank you for all of your imput!
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post #17 of 24
9/24/08 at 8:17pm

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We did IUI with Zachariah and I did injectables and oral meds and didn't gain weight. Personally, weight gain versus having a child wasn't a concern. These people seem to have some less than serious concerns when in reality they may be facing some very real concerns.

I don't know what I would have done if Mike ever complained (he didn't) about any of the things he had to do in the course of the treatments. Down the road this guy will invaritably have to put himself out in other ways so he should get used to it now.
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post #18 of 24
9/24/08 at 11:35pm

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I didn't gain weight and I did fertility drugs. First I was on Clomid, which did not work, and I didn't gain weight. It just gave me hot flashes. Then I did Gonal F injections for a month and I didn't gain weight. We did the same thing as Abby, with the injections and the IUI using Kyle's sperm. He had to make some concessions in his diet and with taking vitamins and other things, and he never complained.
Amd the thing is, if she gains weight, she can lose it. I think they both need to take a long look at themselves before having a baby. If her big issue is not wanting to gain weight or lose her figure, what does she think is going to happen when she actually gets pregnant?
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post #19 of 24
9/25/08 at 2:25am
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i have the need to defend my friend now

she is just realizing now, after 14 months that things just might not happen as easy as it is supposed to.

i'm sure things will be more seriously discussed soon.

i think they will be doing everything they have to do have a baby once she gets checked out totally and finds out what they have to do.
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post #20 of 24
9/25/08 at 9:01am

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You go ahead and defend your friend, Andrea!

I'd just tell her who cares if she gains weight.....obviously she's gonna gain it anyways once she is pregnant.

As for the husband, tell him to deal with it and put the boxers on. Den hates them too...lol. Hmmm....but he wears under armor boxer briefs. Got them in Iraq and now that is all we can buy...lol. They are supposed to help pull the moisture away if you get sweaty or anything. They are boxer briefs and with the material fit nice and snug. Oh and they last forever so the price is worth it. I can't tell you how many pairs Den has.
http://www.gobros.com/gc/customer/pr...501&filter13=1
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post #21 of 24
9/25/08 at 9:57am

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That's a great idea, Wendy. Before getting really down on him, perhaps it would be best to see the fertility specialist first. It may not be all his fault. If blame can be laid in a case like this. The fertility specialist may have a variety of options for him.

Good luck to your friend and her dh!
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post #22 of 24
9/25/08 at 10:10am

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Andrea, I am sure your friend is a great person with many good qualities. If it sounds like we are down on her, we are not. It's just that so many of us went through a lot to have our babies, and no price or changes or compromises were too much. It seems like your friend and her husband need to be willing to compromise and look beyond the immediate and really decide if this is what they want. Gaining weight or wearing undies you normally wouldn't really are not huge sacrifices to make if having a baby is really what you want in your heart and soul. I think that is all any of us are saying. I didn't mean to come off sounding like I was putting your friend down, but you do know me, and I tend to be blunt. So, if I offended you, honey, I didn't mean to.
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post #23 of 24
9/25/08 at 12:44pm
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no offence taken.

Wendy the under armor sounds like an awesome idea, i will pass that one along!

my friend is blunt and doesn't mince words either. i know alot of you went to so many specialist and trouble. i understand where you are coming from honest!

i'm the one who *****foots around things lol.
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post #24 of 24
9/25/08 at 12:45pm
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Re: men with slow swimmers?

i had a feeling kitty foots would be cencored lol
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