Moms of "tomboys" and "sissies"

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It's amazing that the stereotype is still here. Brian doesn't like it when Kieran plays with the girls' dolls!

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Funny you mention this, my daughter is 2 and son is 6. I just told a story about this.

Went to Walmart with just her and she asks to go see guys and games: translates to Star Wars/Batman/Indiana Jones and WII games. LOL

She's influenced by her brother and I don't really care but just like you will be worried about what others say to her or me. You can offer me any advice!!!

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I would ignore ignorance like that. Who would actually tell a parent that their child is weird???? Just ignore them and get your kid away from them fast.

My boys are into "boy" stuff right now but they do love those Pet Shop toys whenever they see them. If I get to a store before christmas I'll pick them up for them. I don't care that they are marketed for girls. I think a little role playing with caretaking is good for both genders. My boys have dolls if they choose to play with them too. I never understood "boys" and "girls" toys.

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I remember back about 21 years ago (and yes it is a loooong stretch ) when Greg found my dolls, the barbie was just the right size for his hand and my first response was to take it off him bc it was a "girls toy" my next response was shock and horrer that "I" was so sexist. So I gave it back to him and he played happily with it on and off for years, then Ricky and Tony also played with it. And lets face it my "boys" are the most macho men around it certainly didn't sissify them at all.

I would look people straight in the eye and tell them "My goodness, I thought such sexist ideas died in the 60's" and if you can manage to look a bit sorry for them and their old fashioned, out dated idea's by all means do so.

Children are children and learn by playing, we expect girls to be able to put gas in their cars, change a tyre and check the oil and tyres at the very least, and we expect guys to know their way around a mop, vacumn cleaner, iron and dishwasher and change nappies, therefore playing with the "other genders" toys is a good basic grounding for real life, which is what play is supposed to be.

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Zachary and Bailey had a kitchen set when they were little and had dolls to boot! Zachary especially loved his baby dolls! He is sooo far from being a sissy! But I do find that he is a very nurturing boy being that he loves animals, babies etc.
Bailey was pretty much normal boy. Emily very girly-girl.
Payton however, is a good mixture imo. Ever since she was really small she preferred Thomas the train over baby dolls. Toy Story and Bugs Life over Cinderella and dirt and bugs over tea party and painting nails. But she also LOVES to look pretty in dresses and bows (and a little dirt on them never hurt nuthin!LOL!) and now she loves to put on make-up with her sister and has ALWAYS, ALWAYS loved her shoes. The girl knows the good stuff I tell ya!
You know, I remember getting into it with someone when Payton was potty training cuz they had a fit that I let her have the 'boy' pullups. She wanted the ones with Toy Story on them and who cares?! I just look at people with sexist oppinions like they are stupid and ignore them for the most part. Let our children be who they want to be-not what society wants or says that they should be.
I do remember Johnny being pretty upset that my mom bought Zachary little girl red dress up 'high heels' though. He wanted RUBY SLIPPERS cuz The Wizard of Oz was his favorite movie when he was about 3yrs old. LOL He wore them all the time and I LOVE to give him $hit about it now that he is a teenager! I have pictures somewhere....that's just how good of a mother I am!

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Krista, I am glad you chimed in on this. One of Travis's big gifts this year is a kitchen and dishes and a grocery cart with groceries and toy food. I am going to buy him a baby doll too because he pushes a baby around the house all the time using Emily's baby doll stroller. It's so sweet. He "feeds" his "bebe" as he calls her, and he is so sweet. He will put her down for a nap and everything. I love seeing that tender side of him.
I have to admit, he often wants to wear Emily's crowns and shoes and princess clothes. It's actually pretty cute, and we don't encourage it or discourage it. When he's 8 and still doing it, maybe I'll worry. And Krista, Travis LOVES wearing Emily's "Dorothy" shoes, which are some glittery red mary janes I bought at Wal Mart!
Emily is an outdoorsy girl, can play rough and likes science and dinosaurs, too. She can be prissy or tomboyish depending on her mood.
So yeah, if anyone called my kids weird for ANY reason, but especially for this, I would not be nice when I responded.

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If someone told me my DD was a tomboy, I would laugh and agree! My oldest DD likes the girly stuff sometimes but she's very much rough and tumble, playing in the dirt, into sports and other things "boy". She's very much like I was growing up and I've never thought twice about it. Kids are who they are and while they are influenced by their envionment, it's hard to make them into what they're not.

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Kel is a mixture of both but christian can't stand the color pink...LOL. Kel loves cars, loves dirt, loves video games, but loves her barbies, her dresses, her nails painted. And will attempt to help Den work on cars while she is dressed in her dress and her painted nails....lol

Kids are kids.

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Ally can go from tomboy to girly-girl is no time flat! She plays ball with the twin boys next door and I have seen her do it in her Cinderella dress! LOL! She loves to dress up and play with hair, nails and makeup. She also love to play in the dirt.

Drew had a Barbie and Ken dolls that my SIL got him when he was 3. She got him the ones that the bathing suit color changes when when youget them wet. He played with them for years in the tub! He doesn't like sports, but i would never call him a sissy. He is way too much boy for that!

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Destiny loves anything her big brother loves. She loves playing Hot Wheels with him, T Ball and Basketball. she loves playing with dirt and rocks. Raymond is all boy though.. he does like playing house, make believe games with his friend Ana. It doesnt matter and ppl shouldnt be worrying about it..