Apparently, my bil and his family did not like the Christmas gifts we sent them. It was a large box of things dh had made. His brother called it trash and nearly threw it away. He said the tie dyed t-shirts dh made for them were "rags". He made all sorts of vicious remarks about dh's appearance, his weight, his breath, every aspect of dh over the Christmas video call. And according to my MIL, they all had fun making fun of our gifts and then threw them in the trash. 
Our gift was not trash. It was all totally gorgeous stuff dh spent hours and hours making. The t-shirts were not trash. They were Hanes Beefy T's 50/50s, the best plain white t-shirt available. With reasonable treatment, a Hanes Beefy T can last over 15 years. I know. I have 15 year old Hanes Beefy T's my dh made with his designs on them. These were nice shirts. I have seen shirts exactly like them at the mall for $30 or more. They were very subtitle. No loud colors. No hearts or rainbows or 60s stuff. Very professional. He designed them for professional men on their casual days at work. He has gotten a lot of attention for exactly that crowd, too!
My MIL told dh, she rescued the gifts from the trash and gave the "rags" to her boyfriend for "work" shirts when he does his woodworking projects! She actually asked dh why he didn't make them garish and loud. She couldn't see anyone wearing those "rags" to work. She said the loud colors were better for the professional environment. Dh laid into her on that one. He said bright, clashing colors might go in Hawaii, but on the mainland, people were expected to be professional.
Then she said, they weren't required to like his gifts. In the 15 years or more I have known my dh, he has sent his brother a gift for every special occassion and has never received and acknowledgment or a thank you. She defended every single mean, vicious thing dh's brother said to him and backed his brother up on it.
She acted like his brother was the one who should be offended for receiving such "trash" for Christmas! She is such an enabler!
My BIL is the CEO for a major restraunt chain. I guess he is too rich to afford some manners. I am so angry I want to rip them all a new one.
My dd's birthday is on Sunday and we are supposed to have a conference call with his mom. I don't want to. Dh doesn't want to. But the girls want to, so we probably will... Unless there is some technical malfunction which prevents it...
Our gift was not trash. It was all totally gorgeous stuff dh spent hours and hours making. The t-shirts were not trash. They were Hanes Beefy T's 50/50s, the best plain white t-shirt available. With reasonable treatment, a Hanes Beefy T can last over 15 years. I know. I have 15 year old Hanes Beefy T's my dh made with his designs on them. These were nice shirts. I have seen shirts exactly like them at the mall for $30 or more. They were very subtitle. No loud colors. No hearts or rainbows or 60s stuff. Very professional. He designed them for professional men on their casual days at work. He has gotten a lot of attention for exactly that crowd, too!
My MIL told dh, she rescued the gifts from the trash and gave the "rags" to her boyfriend for "work" shirts when he does his woodworking projects! She actually asked dh why he didn't make them garish and loud. She couldn't see anyone wearing those "rags" to work. She said the loud colors were better for the professional environment. Dh laid into her on that one. He said bright, clashing colors might go in Hawaii, but on the mainland, people were expected to be professional.
Then she said, they weren't required to like his gifts. In the 15 years or more I have known my dh, he has sent his brother a gift for every special occassion and has never received and acknowledgment or a thank you. She defended every single mean, vicious thing dh's brother said to him and backed his brother up on it.
She acted like his brother was the one who should be offended for receiving such "trash" for Christmas!
She is such an enabler!My BIL is the CEO for a major restraunt chain. I guess he is too rich to afford some manners. I am so angry I want to rip them all a new one.
My dd's birthday is on Sunday and we are supposed to have a conference call with his mom. I don't want to. Dh doesn't want to. But the girls want to, so we probably will... Unless there is some technical malfunction which prevents it...
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i can't believe that they would behave like that!! 
His other two brothers have grown out of this sort of high school behavior for the most part. But this brother has never left off being a junior high bully. It's pathetic when I think about it.
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I hate mean people!!
the Wicked Witch of Hawaii and the Soda Jerk Monkey. We have better things to do.
