Knowing you're done?

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I just knew when I was pg with Payton. I knew that I was happy with four and I knew that my body couldn't go through that any more. Sometimes God has other plans for us though!

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My doctors, my husband and I decided it was unwise for me to have anymore while I was still pregnant with Cara. Had my health and everything else been ideal, we would have had more. I've had my tubes tied, so there'll be no more for me.

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I just knew, too. I don't really love the tiny baby stage too much, and I have such a hard time emotionally and mentally post-partum, that I knew I could not go through it again.

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We're done. Unless God has other plans. In our minds though we're done. Next school year Noah will be out of daycare and we'll be out of paying for daycare. I had one natural birth and two c-sections. My docs used the same scar both times and said they would feel ok doing it one more time but with each section the odds of rupture increase and with the stillbirth I just don't know if another pregnancy is a gamble I am willing to take.

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We are done. I had 2 hard pregnancies. I have 2 wonderful children. My son has autism, so I need to put all of my time and energy into his therapy and Laur's education. I'm old. 'nuff said.

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Well the decision was sort of outta my hands. Health wise pregnancy apparently doesn't agree with my body. Two miscarriages, and the fact that I have had PIH/ pre-eclmpsia the last two pregnancies was not exactly encouraging me to try again. The fact that they had to induce Jesse almost 4 weeks early made me say for sure . I don't want to risk having a true preemie, it wouldn't be fair to put a baby through that if it can be avoided, I think going into another pregnancy,knowing full well that the chances of that happening are high would be selfish. Second, Financially #3 was a huge stretch and we struggle to make ends meet. I am of the mind that if I can't afford to take care of the ones I have, then I don't need more. Those two facts sort of made my desire for one more obsolete. Knowing this DH willingly went in to be snipped.
Even though I occasionally get "baby fever" and get a little sad that I will never have another, I know it is the right decision. And frankly, when I see someone out with a little one with all the trappings(ie:diaper bags, stroller, bottles, etc) I realize how nice it is to be able to pop 3 kids in the car and go....no junk, no temper tantrums, no emergency diaper changes....just go. My kids can tell me when they don't feel good, when they are hungry, they can go to bed when tired...no guessing, or worrying if I am doing the right thing. When they are in school and I am off I get things done. No scheduling around feedings or naps.
There are things I miss....about pregnancy(I loved being pregnant) and about the baby stage(late night feedings, the baby smell, the feel of a baby in my arms), but I realize that babies grow up(God willing) and that the baby stage is only a brief moment in time, and my time for that is over.

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I thought I was done after Samantha But when she turned 5 I had baby fever so bad!! Despite my back injury I decided to have another. But I had to go through fertility treatments this round bc of my PCOS. GFot prego twice mc'd both times. I was done. Then in Feb 01 I found out I was almost 12 weeks pregnant! What a shock but I had my Logan. I knew I was done then and had my tubes tied. When Ed and I split up 2 years after that I was so glad I had them tied. I ended up having an ablation about 6 months after I started dating wayne. In the consult the dr asked me if I was deffinatly sure I didnt want anymore kids bc I could still do invitro if I wanted more but one the ablation was done I would never be able to get pregnant. I said I was sure I was done. Well I have days where I get a little sad bc I would have loved to have a baby with Wayne. He is my true love and a wonderful father. But then the expnse side comes into it and I thank God I took the steps to make sure I couldnt have anymore. But I would have loved to have been able to have one more

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I still don't know if we are DONE.... One day it's like Desi and Moses are enough. They keep me busy 24/7. Money is tight and I don't know if I could handle another c-section. BUT then I have those days where I can't believe I will never hold another baby in my arms. So who knows... Only time will tell.

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If we won the lottery I still wouldn't have more, at least not til this one got to be around 5. George is 40, and I will be 35 and... my body can't take another pregnancy after this one, even if this one is another boy.

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Shona, if you win the lottery, you can adopt me and my two kids! Then you will have one very old daughter and one young daughter, and another boy!

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LOL, Tammy, you crack me up!

The real kicker that told me I was done? My miscarriage. I know others have had more, but I'm a wuss and only one miscarriage did me in. I would love to have another child, really, I would. However, I just don't think my body could handle another pregnancy. Maybe we could adopt in the future. I have to make sure Ryan's doing well before that would happen.

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This is interesting! I am prego w/ my first and right now I think that I want to have 3 but who knows? If anyone wins the lottery feel free to adopt me as well!!!

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I know that I do not want any more. I do totally ADORE babies and love having them around BUT I also know that I enjoy life the way it is way too much to have a baby. I guess you could say that I am a little selfish in that aspect.
Another huge factor for me is that financially another baby would be a TERRIBLE decision for me. I am at a position where I can take care of the girls and myself on my own (well, I am not counting child support since that is a mandatory thing that he has to pay). Having another baby would put my in a situation where I wouuld be so freakin broke all the time or I would have to rely on other means to help take care of us.....and thats not for me! I am comfortable where I am so I choose to keep it like that.

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I've known that I was done for a long time ... 5 pregnancies and 3 beautiful kids and I've had enough. I'm 30 years old and want to have some life left when they are grown and out of the house. Of course, here I am less than 2 days away from my surgery to make it final and I'm getting weepy and nostalgic thinking about babies.

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LOL Tammy, if I win the lottery I will adopt you!

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I knew when i found out I was pregnant with Ally that I definitely didn't want anymore. I was 35 when she was born, went thru horrible PPD that turned into clinical depression - nope, no more for me. Plus, i hated being pregnant. I hated the restrictions I put on myself to make sure the kids were born healthy. Yeah, I'm selfish like that, but I'm honest about it. 2 kids is more than enough for me, so Rick got snipped when Ally was 2 months old - the same week the doc gave me that all clear to have "realtions" again!