Ally goes to church every Sunday and loves it. We talk about God all the time and discuss what she learned in church, etc. My MIL takes her - I dont go.
Drew went when he was younger and doesn;t like it. he has decided that there is no such thing as God. Fine, he is allowed his opinion (even if it is wrong! LOL!).
My problem is that everytime Ally talks about God, Drew has to chime in ad tell her that there is no God, that she is wrong and stupid for believing and even more stupid for going to church.
I have always encouraged my kids to speak their minds, buyt not at the expense of degrading others or talking down to them or deriding their opinions. I have tried to tell Drew that he is allowed to have his opinion, but he is not allowed to put down his sisters opinion. It doesn't seem to make any difference to him. He seems determined to make her question her choices. I finally had to tell him that he can believe whatever he wants, BUT IN THIS HOUSE we believe in God. If he doesn't agree that's fine, but he is to keep his opinion to himself!
After fighting it for almost a year. I just didn't know what else to do! He derides Ally and he is pushing her more and more towards church, which isn't bad thing, but she doesn't always understand what she is talking about. Such as, she wants to get baptized and I said no. I told her that when she is 12 and can prove to me that she really understansd what it means and what it is really about, then I will be be happy to let her get baptized. But with him pushing her, she wants more and more to do it and I think it's just because he is needling her so much.
I feel horrible for not allowing him to voice his opinion, especially when he hears us talking about God all the time (Ally and I). Did I handle this right?
Drew went when he was younger and doesn;t like it. he has decided that there is no such thing as God. Fine, he is allowed his opinion (even if it is wrong! LOL!).
My problem is that everytime Ally talks about God, Drew has to chime in ad tell her that there is no God, that she is wrong and stupid for believing and even more stupid for going to church.
I have always encouraged my kids to speak their minds, buyt not at the expense of degrading others or talking down to them or deriding their opinions. I have tried to tell Drew that he is allowed to have his opinion, but he is not allowed to put down his sisters opinion. It doesn't seem to make any difference to him. He seems determined to make her question her choices. I finally had to tell him that he can believe whatever he wants, BUT IN THIS HOUSE we believe in God. If he doesn't agree that's fine, but he is to keep his opinion to himself!
After fighting it for almost a year. I just didn't know what else to do! He derides Ally and he is pushing her more and more towards church, which isn't bad thing, but she doesn't always understand what she is talking about. Such as, she wants to get baptized and I said no. I told her that when she is 12 and can prove to me that she really understansd what it means and what it is really about, then I will be be happy to let her get baptized. But with him pushing her, she wants more and more to do it and I think it's just because he is needling her so much.
I feel horrible for not allowing him to voice his opinion, especially when he hears us talking about God all the time (Ally and I). Did I handle this right?
