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When your kids have friends you don't like

post #1 of 6
2/3/09 at 10:05am
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What do you do?
Haley has one friend in particular that has been in a lot of trouble, is pretty pushy, and Haley really seems to test her boundries when she is around. I'm not going to dictate who Haley can and can't be friends with but I try to control the situation by keeping it at my house. I haven't allowed Haley to go to this girl's house and only a few times have I let them leave the house together. I just don't trust the situation.
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post #2 of 6
2/3/09 at 12:39pm

Re: When your kids have friends you don't like

Go with your gut, Elaine. It sounds like you have reason to be concerned.
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post #3 of 6
2/3/09 at 12:41pm

Re: When your kids have friends you don't like

Austin has a friend that I do not like. They used to live across the street from us, but luckily they moved! Anyway, I did the same as you, the playing can only be at my house, or if they are outside, and I can see them.

Austins other friend Antonio, brought over a BMX/Moto X magazine to show Austin this little bike thing, and there was a picture of a girl in a bikini (granted, Austin and Antonio neither cared about this picture) but this friend I didn't like picked up the magazine and opened it up and was like "dddaaaaaaaaaaaammmmmmnnnnnnnnn" ya know that long drawn out, OMG.. I was livid. This kid is like 11 years old. I told him that he needed to close the magazine, and to not use language like that.
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post #4 of 6
2/3/09 at 1:00pm

Re: When your kids have friends you don't like

I have to like them for them to be friends outside of school time. My kids are not allowed to go anywhere without being supervised by an adult that we trust(meaning I wont just trust one of their friends parents). To have time with friends outside of school all grades must be good, and they have to have their chores done. Sounds strict, but I won't have to worry as much about drugs, pregnancy/child support, and accidental death. When they turn 18 and support themselves then they be friends with whoever they want.
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post #5 of 6
2/3/09 at 1:38pm

Re: When your kids have friends you don't like

i say go with your gut too Elaine!

i like your rules Tara!
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post #6 of 6
2/3/09 at 2:40pm

Re: When your kids have friends you don't like

Elaine, I had that problem with one of Drew's friends. Then Iran into the problem that this kid is also friends with some of his other friends, so rew was hanging around withhim at others kids homes - and the parents are always there. Finally ahd to put my fot down and tell him the kid was no good and I didn't want him being friends with him anymore. It was a fight, but I was finally proved right. This kid is 14 (almost 15), in 7th grade and we are pretty sure he has been "dabbling". I'm so glad Drew isn't friends with him anymore!

Trust your instincts. If it turns out you are wrong, you can apologize later!
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