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post #1 of 12
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Ok when my father in law moved out of Shane's house three years ago he agreed to pay the phone, cable, and electric bill to compinsate for storeing all of his things that could not fit into his little house that he bought.

Shane and I cannot use two rooms or a closet upstairs and we also cannot use our outside building bc it has his stuff packed full in them. We also have two horse trailers sitting behind the building that is completely full of junk.

Since then I have taken over the cable bill bc in one year it was turned off six times due to thim not paying it, I got tired of this and took over that payment. Starting in the middle of last year the phone has been shut off every other month-every three months due to again non payment. So now I am looking into taking over that payment here soon so we don't have to wonder weather or not the phone will be shut off from one day to the next.

He has not aplogized what-so-ever about this so far and also has not givin us any money in place of these bills. We thought we were starting to see the light at then end of the tunnel when he started getting some of his things.

BUT he then ended up moving into his soon-to-be wife's house and selling his back to the bank to avoid putting it on a bad/slow market. With that move we have accumulated more things and also a broken down truck.

Its really starting to get on my nerves. I still am not techically fully moved in to my own house bc I have no room for my things that are still at my mothers house. I thought he would get the hint when Shane and I started talking about building on to the house for a room for Logan, but no such luck. We thought he would say "Why are you wanting to build on when you have rooms upstairs?" but nope instead he says "Well let me know when you want to start and I will help" I mean that is very nice and generous of him, but I would rather move Logan into a room we already have!!

I am now worried about having to take over the electric bill. Here is why. Last year our natural gas well that is on our property had finally dried up we were looking into getting an economically savvy electric furnace to replace our gas one. When he found out about this he flipped. Told us that if we got the electric furnace then he would not pay the bill, so he talked us into getting electric base board heaters instead. We checked in with him for a while after to know exactly how high we could turn the heaters before the bill skyrocked and he said the bill was only about $120-130 so how high we had them was fine. About six months into it we got a automated phone message sayin that we needed to make a payment of $960 with in 24hrs or our service would be shut off.

Shane called his dad to find out what was going on and he said he would take care of it. She glanced at a bill that came two months later and it was still in the $600 range. He decided to not challenge the bill and make payments on it or something to that effect. So if I have to take over the bill Shane and I will be completly screwed bc I know we will not be able to do it.

What would you ladies do?
post #2 of 12

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Take out the family personal feelings, set that aside this is your home now. From this point on put everything in writing requesting either payments with copies of the bills or providing reseasonible amount of time to retrieve the items otherwise they will be placed on the tree lawn or sold to accomodate past due bills.

This sounds like a messy situation since it's inlaws. Not sure how your hubby feels be sure take it up with him and provide daddy-inlaw a reasonable agreement again in writing and stick him to it!

Make the document offiicial not to demanding but let him know you mean business. This way there's no confrontation until after he reads your request. By this time he may realize that he needs to do something about it.
post #3 of 12

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I agree with Karen about making it a business matter and not personal. Call me old-fashioned if you wish, but I believe that your word is a bond. If I say I'm going to pay a bill, God will be the only one to keep me from paying.
post #4 of 12

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I also Agree with Karen!

That is what I would do, if he can't pay a bill, well there goes something he has left at your house for payment....
post #5 of 12

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I am a big meanie. I'd tell him move out your junk or we are selling it. He's had a long time to make other arrangements for his stuff. Trust me, storage sheds are not that cheap, then again, he made this your problem and now actually paying for storage is his. If you have to, move the junk out and put it in storage and present him with the bill. You don't want your place turned into a junk yard. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
post #6 of 12

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I personally wouldn't keep all that $hit in my house either. All that crap in your yard prolly makes ya'll look like hoosiers for one thing (not trying to be mean) but seriously! Not to mention you could have TWO rooms upstairs that you could be utilizing! I would tell him that you are going to start selling his crap to pay the bills if he doesn't either A. get his crap outta your yard and house and B. pays up the bills that he promised to pay. But hey, that's just me.
post #7 of 12

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We're mean because we are too old for cr*p, Krista! That's right, move it or lose it.
post #8 of 12

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I agree with Lenora and Krista. Sorry hon.

Sell it and pay the bills.

George said.. "Put his crap out on the lawn, if it sells, pay the bills. If not, in a week carry it off to the trash dump."
post #9 of 12

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Posession is 9/10ths of the law. Start selling his crap to pay the bills. Give him 30 days to bring the bills up to date or to get his stuff out of your house and yard. Point out to him tha you NEED the upstairs room for his GRANDSON! Lay on the guilt! Hell, whatever works - use it! This has been going on too long. No way I'd put up with it.
post #10 of 12

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i would tell him to pay up or you are going to start selling his stuff too.


i'm sorry you are stuck in this prediciment
post #11 of 12
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I am glad that you guys feel the same way I do about this. For a long time I thought I was just being mean about it. Shane and I has got into fights over this, hes tired of hearing about and I am tired of saying it.

I am just so aggravated about all of this. I have threatened to throw all of his **** out many times, but Shane ends up talking me out of it, and the more furious I get about it waiting on something to be done about.

I actually took stuff out of the upstairs closet and put it in my lower basement that has just dirt floor in it and gets wet when it rains and snows, thought that would make him mad enough to at least take that stuff but still no such luck. I told Shane last night that when I take one of my vacations in April I am cleaning house and all of his crap that is in my house is being shipped at least to the building or the trash. The build is so full if anything gets damaged oh freakin well. Then I'm bringing my stuff from my moms and sitting up MY house the way I want it.

With talking to him about it though last night he is starting to get mad about it and actually AGREED with me about it thank goodness.
post #12 of 12

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I think it is safe to say you have our full support. Even my dh is on your side. This guy has a house, he can keep it in storage, get rid of it, shove it up his nose, who cares? But it needs to be out of your house and yard. This summer you are going to want your yard back too. Logan will be over a year old and he will be running around like crazy. You need your yard.
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