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post #1 of 23
3/7/09 at 8:35pm
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So, I am feeling a little blue because I am going to have to give up something that I love very much because of baby priorities. Just curious to hear what sacrifices other Mom's or Dad's have made and how they have dealt with keeping their own time - does that make sense? I guess basically I don't want to loose a since of self after I have the baby.
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post #2 of 23
3/7/09 at 8:58pm

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I guess it depends on what YOU have to give up.
What did I have to give up? Hm.. partying, working full time ( at least after two and three were born) Saturday night dates ( but now we just have them at home) I didn't have to give up a great deal, I guess.. or at least it doesn't seem as though I did. I have up travelling to see friends anytime I wanted. Oh.. LOL SLEEP I gave up sleep.
But the reason it seems like I didn't have to give up much, is because I had done so much already. Not like travelling and career wise, but partying, friends, etc. I was ready to settle down and for me, grow up a bit.
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post #3 of 23
3/7/09 at 9:24pm

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Same here. I was 37 when my oldest was born. If a person hasn't grown up by 37, they probably aren't going to. The biggest thing I had to give up was sleep. But really, a child replaces so much and I have been so busy since the girls were born, it seems like life was empty before and now, it's filled.

I know you love horses. For a time, you will have to scarifice some of your time with them, but in a couple of years your dd will be riding too. The famous jockey, Steve Cauthen, started riding at two, so that is what I am going off of.
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post #4 of 23
3/7/09 at 11:26pm
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Thanks both of you.

Grace, did Lisa tell you I like horses? I am going to have to sell my horse, I have had her since she was 4 months old - she hadn't even been weaned from her mother yet! I am just really sad, I don't want to loose her but we can't afford the horse and hope to get into a bigger place (we live in a 2 bedroom condo now). With the housing market we can't sell our place to buy a home and we can't afford trying to rent out our place with the risk of having a tenant not pay their bills so we would be assuming a double mortgage and horse board. ugh!

I guess the reality is I won't have the time either, I really want to have baby #2 soon after this baby. Ideally they would be about 1 1/2 years apart in age. I don't ride while I am pregnant so I guess it wouldn't be worth it to own a horse? It's just hard.
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post #5 of 23
3/8/09 at 4:20am

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awwww, I am sorry you have to give up your horse! You were just telling me about it. We also might have to give up our big dogs ( the husky and american bulldog) since they aren't getting that much attention, and we want our doggies to be happy and we feel we aren't doing that.
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post #6 of 23
3/8/09 at 11:10am

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I am so sorry you are having to give up your horse. You mentioned her in your post about inductions. I used to really love horses, so I picked up on that.
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post #7 of 23
3/9/09 at 3:04am

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Mostly my "me time".
After kids you need to "make" time for it.
I think it'sone of the most important things a woman can do for herself.
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post #8 of 23
3/9/09 at 11:21am

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Like Shona I gave up partying (girls night outs). I prolly wouldn't had to if Logan wasn't still getting up in the middle of the night. He also gets a little grouchy if we would pick him up from somewhere after he had already fallin asleep.
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post #9 of 23
3/11/09 at 4:31pm
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Thanks everyone. I have someone that may be interested in buying my horse, I find out next week if they are going to. If not, I think my trainer wants to free lease her a brood mare which would be PERFECT!!!! Keep your fingers crossed for me!

Grace, do you ride or have any horse involvement now? What area do you live in? PM me if you want.
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post #10 of 23
3/11/09 at 4:56pm

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Not anymore, that was in high school. I really enjoyed caring for them more than riding which I guess makes me odd. I would much rather groom than ride a horse. I live in WV. Plently of horses here, and none of them mine. Because I am not fond of riding, I have often thought about adopting a wild horse or burro if I ever have a farm.
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post #11 of 23
3/11/09 at 5:09pm
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That's so cool! I have a good friend that has adopted several animals from the BLM!

I love riding but I also just love handling and grooming them. I bought my horse when she was 4 months old and she is just turning 3 this year, I have sat on her but never ridden her. I am in Virginia, not too far!
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post #12 of 23
3/11/09 at 5:35pm

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Cool! I am not far from the VA border.
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post #13 of 23
3/11/09 at 5:48pm
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Very cool! We should try to meet sometime! :-)
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post #14 of 23
3/11/09 at 9:51pm

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We will! I am planning on moving to New Mexico sometime in the next year, so it will have to be sooner rather than later.
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post #15 of 23
3/11/09 at 10:03pm
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Very cool! Where in NM? It is BEAUTIFUL out there!
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post #16 of 23
3/12/09 at 12:14pm

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I didn't really give anything up - just had to postpone it, is how I look at it. Rick and I like to go out. We can't do it often and we had to wait until Ally was old enough to leave overnight with family, but we never "gave it up". Just put it off until we could do it again - just less often than before. Instead of 2 or 3 rtimes a month it's more like 2 or 3 times a year. But it means more to us now.
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post #17 of 23
3/12/09 at 12:35pm

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We were thinking of Santa Fe. My dh is an artist and he would like to be around that community. Also, there are so many more opportunities for our girls there.
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post #18 of 23
3/23/09 at 11:49pm
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Oooo that sounds beautiful! I have only been in Northern NM, Taos area to be exact.

Just an update, I am free leasing my filly back to her breeder this year, she's getting ready to hop on the trailer that will take her there later this month. My filly will be bred and then I will hopefully be able to bring her back in about 18 months, fingers crossed that the economy is better and that I will be able to afford her then. If not I will have to sell or I may lease her again so the breeder can get another baby from her, we'll see! I am so happy that I get to keep her for at least another year and a half even though I won't be able to see her often.
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post #19 of 23
4/4/09 at 3:12am

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It is certainly. When you have a baby, you must give up something although you don't want. You have to give up your work, your favourites....so that you have more time to look after your pretty baby. Maybe you don't like to do that now, but I believe you will change your mind after you have a baby
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post #20 of 23
4/12/09 at 1:37pm
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Originally Posted by que_sera_sera View Post
Maybe you don't like to do that now, but I believe you will change your mind after you have a baby
Horse? What horse? Lol! I haven't had a chance to think about anything other than the baby - SO true!
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post #21 of 23
4/12/09 at 2:14pm

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When the baby is older, she will be able to share your horse with you. I grew up on a farm and in a lot of ways, farm animals teach kids way more than pets.
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post #22 of 23
4/12/09 at 2:43pm
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When the baby is older, she will be able to share your horse with you. I grew up on a farm and in a lot of ways, farm animals teach kids way more than pets.
Lol! Especially ornery ponies!
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post #23 of 23
12/30/10 at 4:53am

Yeah, every mom and dad sacrifice lot of their favourite stuff and habits for their kids.

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