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post #1 of 12
3/13/09 at 6:54pm
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Soooooooooooo I am feeling a bit down right now. I wanted to have kids once I was done with school and had a good career , I have a good job now..but it is a job not a career. I feel like I won't be able to provide for Jerren when he gets older and ...it is frustrating. I was going to school for medical... Right now I am a medical assistant, but I work for a local cable company since I get paid more working for the cable people then I do working in a dr's office.

I was thinking about getting a degree in telecommunications and hopefully one day getting a job for nsa or something. I no longer want to do anything in the medical field only because the wait is blah for a RN.

Jordan said I should do something that I will love, I know what I would love to do Zoology or Herpetology <-both of those make barely anything! Jordan said it doesn't matter about the money, he just wants me to have fun. I honestly can say, yes I do want a job for the money (also something I will enjoy). Money seems to be everything right now.

I want to go back to school but I don't know what for any more.
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post #2 of 12
3/14/09 at 11:49am

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Well, first of all, you just had a baby, and as much as you don't want to hear this, your hormones are trying to get back to a new normal, so you are going to be feeling lots of things right now. It's probably not the best time to make a huge life changing or life influencing decision.
That said, do some research. Try to find a way to combine what you love with a career that pays enough to make you happy. You might not find the perfect solution, and you might have to choose a career that pays well and that you will be satisfied with and then volunteer at the zoo or the animal shelter so you can still be doing what you love.
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post #3 of 12
3/14/09 at 1:05pm

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I was going to say the same thing. Now that you have a new little one in your life, your hormones are going wild, and what you are feeling right now is totally normal. We ALL have worried (and still do) about being able to provide the best that we can for our kids.

Now is definately not the best time to be thinking about any huge life changing thing. Give it a couple of months. Enjoy the time that you have with your little one. They dont' stay this small forever.

Once your hormones level out a bit and you have had some time to adjust to being a new mom, then look at your career and how you can change that.
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post #4 of 12
3/14/09 at 2:14pm

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Tammy and Michele are right. But if you can type and feed, then go ahead and do the research now while you are off from your job. They don't stay tiny babies very long, but they are kids for 18 years, so enjoy this time while he is so small. There is time to worry about the rest of his life. I think all moms and dads worry about providing for their kids.
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post #5 of 12
3/14/09 at 2:19pm
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damn hormones are making me go crazy I guess it all has to do with my best friend to, she is finally a vet and moving to san diego to work at the zoo there and I really wish I went to school right out of high school then we would both be doing the animal thing...

thanks for the advice
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post #6 of 12
3/14/09 at 7:06pm

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Don't despair. I didn't go to college until after I was married, and I am glad I waited.
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post #7 of 12
3/14/09 at 8:13pm

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hey girl if its any consolation.....I went to college before I had kids, and I am not doing anything remotely closeto what I studied for. I was an LPN for 7 years....then I worked in a hotel for a year....drove school bus for 6 years and now I am a Service Writer for a John Deere dealer
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post #8 of 12
3/15/09 at 12:37am
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Thanks ladies for the awesome advice, I feel MUCH better.

Yea I never really did what I went to school for. I worked at an OB/GYN clinic and a Skin cancer clinic...and I gotta tell ya I didn't really enjoy them. Mostly because the ob/gyn do was super dirty and over 3 years behind on her claims which usually means the insurance won't cover it. The skin cancer guy... he was a butthead. There were only girls that worked there and all of them single of they were cheating on their boyfriends...it was like being on the view with a bunch of cheating lying catty women.... I just kept to myself and I don't think he liked that...and I didn't flirt with him like the other girls did.
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post #9 of 12
3/15/09 at 1:10pm

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I have been reconnecting with old friends and almost every single one of them is more successful than me.
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post #10 of 12
3/15/09 at 3:04pm

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I have been reconnecting with old friends and almost every single one of them is more successful than me.
Lenora, I am sorry, let me this thread for a minute.
Success is a relative term. It should have more to do with how happy you are with WHO you are and where you are in your life, with what you have (a home, health, good marriage, etc), than the material things you do or don't have or the money you have in the bank. So, yeah, Lenora, these people may have fabulous careers, but that doesn't make them more successful than you. They just took a different path. Don't diminish who you are or what you do every day--and I know it's not really what you chose, but more what was thrust upon you because of your health, but you are making the best of it and doing a great job--and THAT is success!
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post #11 of 12
3/15/09 at 3:30pm

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DITTO! Lenora, you are VERY successful in your life! Anyone who has done for their country what you have done is more than successful - you are a hero. And now you are a wonderful wife and mother - yet another success. Don't think that just becasue you don't have a career making tons of money that you aren't successful - YOU ARE!

Lisa, sorry I jacked your thread there for as minute. Everyone is right. Wait until your hormones settle before trying to make any major decisions. Enjoy Jerren while you can!
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post #12 of 12
3/16/09 at 5:10pm

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ditto to Tammy! thats how i feel. I am so happy and blessed to be a good mom and a wife. Ive always wanted to become something.. a teacher or journalist but you know.. i feel happy where im at right now in life. I hope you find whatever it is you want to do, successful
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