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Not a debate! ;)

post #1 of 11
3/26/09 at 1:33am
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Jim doesn't want Parker circumcised. I feel that it is ultimately his decision since he is a man (with a penis-LOL) and would know more of the pros and cons etc. I left the decision up to John with Zach and Bailey as well and he opted to have them circumcised.
I see nothing wrong with either way but honestly an uncircumcised penis kinda makes me nervous. I have read TONS online on how to care for it, looked at pictures so I would know what a healthy uncircumcised pee pee looks like vs an infected one etc etc etc
But I would REALLY love any advice that Mom's of uncircumcised pee pees can give to me. Also, any tips on explaining why Parker's penis looks different vs thier own (as in pertaining to my older boys)? I will have to explain to not only the boys but also the girls because I am sure that they will notice as well.
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post #2 of 11
3/26/09 at 1:45am

Re: Not a debate! ;)

Good luck, Krista. The boys will be easy, because you have probably already had "the talk" with them and maybe they share showers with other boys at school who look different than they do. The girls, on the other hand...
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post #3 of 11
3/26/09 at 1:58am

Re: Not a debate! ;)

Krista... maybe you could just explain to them that it is an optional thing (whether to remove the skin or not) and that their Dad wanted it removed, and Jim doesn't... I can ask my SIL for advice about caring for uncircumcised, her boys aren't.
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post #4 of 11
3/26/09 at 2:35am

Re: Not a debate! ;)

i like Heathers suggestion about dads and options.

logan isn't circ'd and we have had no problems, regular baths and let him play with it to clean it good.

our only problem is his foreskin gets stuck in the mesh of his bathing suit sometimes. uch:
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post #5 of 11
3/26/09 at 8:44am

Re: Not a debate! ;)

I have 4 uncirc'ed guys here(including DH) and haven't really thought much about it. As babies you pretty much leave it alone...never try to pull it back all the way...just wash it like you would, say a finger. Most will start to retract a little by around a year and then you just gently push the skin back till it stops naturally and wash with a little plain water, don't use soap on the head, it can actually irritate and cause infection. As they get older and take care of it themselves we just remind them to "rinse the purple part". Josh is eleven and Jake is eight... I don't really think about it anymore. If they would get an infection(rare in babies) it's usually when they are toddlers and little dirty hands can't leave it alone, You will know easily. Jake had one infection when he was about 2...playing naked in the sandbox and playing with his "new best friend ". It was easily fixed with some antibiotics(and I was told he probably would have had the same issue in those circumstances if he had been a girl)
As for the girls...do they know what an circ'ed baby looks like? If they ask Just explain that boy babies are born with a protective skin on the pee pee and that some people think it looks better without it so they have the dr take it off, but you choose not to this time.I doubt it will be much issue.
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post #6 of 11
3/26/09 at 10:04am

Re: Not a debate! ;)

I agree with all the other girls.

And I left it up to Kev on whether to Circ Stuart or not - It didn't make me much of a difference. (and I learned that our Ped is against it- but doesn't push the issue)
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post #7 of 11
3/26/09 at 10:08am

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*sigh* I wish I hadn't had my boys circ'ed, but oh well it's too late now. Anyhow, Bridget gave you some GREAT advice! Never try to retract it, don't let the ped try to retract it (yeah some are dumb enough to try!). Only Parker should retract it when he's old enough, although from what I've heard boys will try but stop when it hurts/is uncomfortable. It is self cleaning, if any little bit of poo gets in there it'll get cleaned out when he pees again.
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post #8 of 11
3/26/09 at 10:17am

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We got Logan's done. So I can't give you advice on one that isn't done personally. However, parents of a close friend of mine opted out of getting his done. Now when he was 10, 16, and 19 he did get an infection. He got another one when he was 24 and decided to go a head an get it done so he didn't have to mess with it anylonger.

He was in pain of course, and the doc told him up front, if you would have had this done when you were a baby, the recovery time would be cut in half. Needless to say when him and his wife had their son, he made sure that his sons was done.
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post #9 of 11
3/26/09 at 12:26pm

Re: Not a debate! ;)

I say tell the kids the truth. It's always easier that way LOL.
Good luck honey.
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post #10 of 11
3/26/09 at 2:31pm

Re: Not a debate! ;)

An uncirc'd penis shouldn't make you nervous. Infact only one of my boys is done because I was uneducated on the subject, very young, and was told by the docs that all boys had it done. I have never had a problem with either(no infections), and the uncirc'd boys were less work in the beginning. Just make sure no one pulls back the foreskin because that can cause adhesions.

As far as it looking different, just tell the truth.
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post #11 of 11
3/26/09 at 8:09pm

Re: Not a debate! ;)

As I was sitting in the exam room at the dr's office there was an article on the wall about circumcision and it said they need to be cleaned more often when circumcised. The dr probably can give you more info on the pros and cons of circumcision. The next time you are at the dr's office back in the room with the ultrasound machine look at the big poster and that is where I saw the article (if they still have that poster when you go back ).
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