I want to start by saying me and my step-daughter Anna have a very good, very close relationship and always have. I love her like my own and have never thought in terms of "step" with her, in my heart she has always been my daughter.
Every year for the past few years she says she is moving in with us. So this year, like clock work, she calls on Memorial day, very upset and crying(fairly normal), saying that no one there wants her and she wants to move in with us. As usual we assured her that we would love to have her and our doors are ALWAYS open. I kinda figured it would be like every year and she would call a few days later to say her mom said NO, and she wasn't going to do it.
That didn't happen.
She told her mother this time and her mother told her "she just didn't care anymore" and that she "gives up on her", WTF?? Apparently her step father has made no secret of the fact he can't stand her and tells her often he wishes she would leave. Idiotic @ss!
So it's been 2 weeks, about 200 conversations and Anna is still saying she is moving in. She has posted it on her myspace and in several comments to her friends. We had told her that if she was going to move in we would turn DH's office into her room....she has been picking colors and stuff with me online and actually sounds excited to get to do a room her own way. She is asking questions about how we do the custody transfer and and school stuff.....all this stuff she has never said before. She has even picked out her "own pet"...something all my kids have, that she could never have cause she wouldn't be here to take care of.
DH has talked to her mother and told her what we would need as far as school transfer and medical/dental records and her mother said she would try to get it all together in the next week and get it mailed to us so we can start the process.
Part of me is in total shock....I think this may actually happen! The other part still thinks it will all fall through. I'm still a bit afraid to get my hopes up.
So...I know we need to:
transfer schools
transfer medical/dental records
find out how to drop child support(we want NOTHING from the bit....uh..I mean mother )
and find out how to legally transfer majority custody
Does anyone know if there is anything else we need to/ should do?
I could also use some prayers for A)this to actually happen, and B) for me to be able to handle suddenly having a teen in the house.
Every year for the past few years she says she is moving in with us. So this year, like clock work, she calls on Memorial day, very upset and crying(fairly normal), saying that no one there wants her and she wants to move in with us. As usual we assured her that we would love to have her and our doors are ALWAYS open. I kinda figured it would be like every year and she would call a few days later to say her mom said NO, and she wasn't going to do it.
That didn't happen.
She told her mother this time and her mother told her "she just didn't care anymore" and that she "gives up on her", WTF?? Apparently her step father has made no secret of the fact he can't stand her and tells her often he wishes she would leave. Idiotic @ss!
So it's been 2 weeks, about 200 conversations and Anna is still saying she is moving in. She has posted it on her myspace and in several comments to her friends. We had told her that if she was going to move in we would turn DH's office into her room....she has been picking colors and stuff with me online and actually sounds excited to get to do a room her own way. She is asking questions about how we do the custody transfer and and school stuff.....all this stuff she has never said before. She has even picked out her "own pet"...something all my kids have, that she could never have cause she wouldn't be here to take care of.
DH has talked to her mother and told her what we would need as far as school transfer and medical/dental records and her mother said she would try to get it all together in the next week and get it mailed to us so we can start the process.
Part of me is in total shock....I think this may actually happen! The other part still thinks it will all fall through. I'm still a bit afraid to get my hopes up.
So...I know we need to:
transfer schools
transfer medical/dental records
find out how to drop child support(we want NOTHING from the bit....uh..I mean mother )
and find out how to legally transfer majority custody
Does anyone know if there is anything else we need to/ should do?
I could also use some prayers for A)this to actually happen, and B) for me to be able to handle suddenly having a teen in the house.
. Believe me, I have crap load to say to them both, but for Anna's sake I will just keep my mouth shut. However if Anna wants to tell him, or both of them off, I will be more than happy to let her have at it...and no consequences for any bad language or being rude....
