Hello,
I am new to the Forums.
Myself and my Fiance just had our first baby on May 15, and I am concerned that his parents, particularly his mother, are becoming too involved and are strangely overbearing.
For one, we had been talking about our first possibly family vacation with hi when he is 3 years old to Disneyword, and the Grandparents automatically assume they are coming with us, and his mother even goes as far as to say, "they want to see Disneyworld through his eyes".
Also, sometimes she will come over to help with watching him, and keeps asking when her and his dad can come over each night and take him for a walk in is stroller by themselves. I find it odd that she insists on taking him for walk with the grandpa all alone.
Also, when we go to visit, she constantly refers to him as "our baby", "Let's see our baby", and if they are holding him or changing him, she insists he take tons and tons of pictures with just her holding him, and they will often disappear with the baby to another room where nobody is.
Now, my Fiances Mother had him when she was young, and he says she has insecurities and likes to act younger than she is, so this is why I am concerned with this behavior.
Also, she only has pictures up in photo frames that also include her and her husband with the baby up; There are none with just the baby, or with the baby and myself or my Fiance and it makes me feel worried that she is getting weird about it, almost like she wants to be the parent to him.
She also got very angry/jealous due to the fact that we named his middle name after my grandfather. My family lives on the other side of the State and we don't see them much, so she felt it was a sign of disrespect for us to name him after my side of the family and felt that my Fiances family has done so much more for us. She never said this to our face, but my Fiance's brother told us.
She also was upset that we are going to see my Family for christmas, and that she won't get to experience his "first christmas".
Am I worrying over nothing, is this normal?
Or does something seem wrong about this to anyone else?
I am new to the Forums.
Myself and my Fiance just had our first baby on May 15, and I am concerned that his parents, particularly his mother, are becoming too involved and are strangely overbearing.
For one, we had been talking about our first possibly family vacation with hi when he is 3 years old to Disneyword, and the Grandparents automatically assume they are coming with us, and his mother even goes as far as to say, "they want to see Disneyworld through his eyes".
Also, sometimes she will come over to help with watching him, and keeps asking when her and his dad can come over each night and take him for a walk in is stroller by themselves. I find it odd that she insists on taking him for walk with the grandpa all alone.
Also, when we go to visit, she constantly refers to him as "our baby", "Let's see our baby", and if they are holding him or changing him, she insists he take tons and tons of pictures with just her holding him, and they will often disappear with the baby to another room where nobody is.
Now, my Fiances Mother had him when she was young, and he says she has insecurities and likes to act younger than she is, so this is why I am concerned with this behavior.
Also, she only has pictures up in photo frames that also include her and her husband with the baby up; There are none with just the baby, or with the baby and myself or my Fiance and it makes me feel worried that she is getting weird about it, almost like she wants to be the parent to him.
She also got very angry/jealous due to the fact that we named his middle name after my grandfather. My family lives on the other side of the State and we don't see them much, so she felt it was a sign of disrespect for us to name him after my side of the family and felt that my Fiances family has done so much more for us. She never said this to our face, but my Fiance's brother told us.
She also was upset that we are going to see my Family for christmas, and that she won't get to experience his "first christmas".
Am I worrying over nothing, is this normal?
Or does something seem wrong about this to anyone else?
